Why Life Gets Better When You Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
I won’t say that it’s easy to stop comparing yourself to others. For most of us, comparing is in our bones. Since we were little, our parents compared us to our siblings, we were in competitions where it was all about ranking top three, we wanted that sports trophy, and we were made well aware of the competition when applying for colleges. But there comes a point in life when comparing yourself to others does not serve you anymore. If you’re going to do your best work and unleash your unique gifts in this life, you simply can’t be concerned with how you compare to others. That’s their path. They have nothing to do with you. Here are ways life becomes so much more enjoyable when you stop comparing yourself to others
You enjoy your progress
You actually begin to appreciate the progress that you do make, rather than just telling yourself how much less progress you’re making than somebody else. You allow yourself to celebrate victories—big and small—and celebrating those gives you much-needed energy to keep moving forward.
Your failures hurt less
Meanwhile, failures don’t hurt as much. You can look at them for exactly what they are—no less but also no more. Before, you made a huge deal out of small failures because you just kept thinking about how much further that put you behind somebody else.
You focus on the work, not the outcome
When you compare yourself to somebody else, you don’t really focus on your work. All you think about is how quickly you are, or aren’t, seeing results compared to the other person. It’s distracting, and can lead to poor-quality work.
You find more energy
Comparing yourself to others can leave you overwhelmed and that can leave you exhausted. You’ll be amazed at how much more energy you have to pursue your goals when you stop letting comparisons weigh you down.
You inspire others
There are probably a lot of people out there who would look up to you if you composed yourself as someone who believes in herself and is proud of her accomplishments. The second you stop comparing yourself to others, you’ll be surprised to find that you inspire a lot of people.
You can be your true self
You really cannot be your true self—bring your unique talents and do what just you are meant to do—if you’re consumed with thoughts of comparison. Comparing yourself to others has a way of clouding who you really are, and what your skills are.
You make smarter decisions
Comparing yourself to others may have also led you to some bad decisions. You may have done things like made purchases, taken classes, or developed a certain persona that really weren’t doing you any service, all because you were trying to be like—or not be like—somebody else. Your decision-making skills were impaired.
You stop gossiping
You may unintentionally gossip about others when you compare yourself to them. Out of envy, you start looking for flaws in other people and talking about those to anyone who will listen. It’s not a good look for you. It’s time to outgrow gossip.
You’re humble enough to ask for advice
When we compare ourselves, we often aim to pretend we are something we aren’t. We want people to think we’re further along than we are, so we certainly cannot ask for help because that would be to admit that we aren’t where we want to be. Once you stop comparing yourself to others, you can actually ask those who are ahead of you for advice.
You also assert more confidence
You put off a more confident attitude when you stop comparing. If all you are focused on is your own progress and your own work, you present as someone with an, “I’ve got this” attitude and people respond well to that.
You take rest when you need it
Perhaps before, you wouldn’t rest when you needed to, because you told yourself that other people—those to whom you compared yourself—never rested. First off, that probably wasn’t true, but second off, never taking a break is actually bad for your productivity.
You work towards satisfaction
Now that you’re just focusing on your path, you do work out of a desire to achieve happiness and satisfaction. You are pursuing something positive. You feel aspirational.
Rather than running from disappointment
Before, you really only did anything out of fear of disappointment. You did work so as to not feel less than somebody else. It was a very negative mindset.
You get more creative
Once you free your mind of thoughts of comparison, you can get those creative juices flowing. We are our most creative when we aren’t worrying about something.
You waste less time on social media
Finally, you waste less time on social media—your favorite place to go and compare yourself to others. But that was a huge time-sucking vampire that interfered with your productivity in a number of ways.