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A friend of mine just turned 31 and just lost her virginity. I remember meeting her in college, as a sophomore, and thinking that back then her virginity was shocking. We were only 19 but I, like many of my friends, had given away that V-card around age 16 so I felt very wise and experienced at that point. I figured it would definitely happen for this friend during college. I knew a lot of cases of people graduating high school as virgins, and just finally doing the deed in college. But she didn’t. And then every year of her twenties passed and still nothing. I did feel bad for her because, she didn’t have the luxury I did at age 16 of not realizing what duds most men are and how so few of them deserve to sleep with me. I gave my V-card away when I was still naïve enough to think that guy deserved it. But my friend outgrew that stage, and became smart enough to realize most guys aren’t worth sleeping with. So, 30 came and went, and she was still a virgin. These are the struggles she shared with me.
It’s too much pressure for some men
A lot of men who really liked her simply wouldn’t date her because her virginity put too much pressure on them. They didn’t want to be her first experience with sex. They worried she had too much build-up in her head about it. Or, they worried she’d become too attached. They’d cut bait the second they learned she was a virgin.
