I don’t know why, but it seems like a natural instinct for many people to respond to disappointment with passive aggression. There are a lot of people who just do things hoping the other person who upset them gets the point or picks up what they’re putting down. There are many individuals who, when they get upset, just do something and hope the other person reads between the lines. But, really, that’s quite juvenile. I have an ex-friend (she’s an ex-friend specifically due to her passive aggression) who did this all of the time, and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I’d see her do it to other people, too. I remember once, a good friend of hers upset her. Rather than tell her that, she engaged in a passive aggressive text thread. She showed me the thread, would point out what she’d actually texted, and then tell me, “And this is what I meant.” I couldn’t help but think, “Sooo…why didn’t you just write what you meant?” Surprise, surprise: she still hasn’t made amends with that other friend. Or me. Here are times passive aggression makes things worse.
Being mean to your man if he doesn’t want sex
It obviously hurts when your partner turns down sex. Even if you know he’s under a lot of stress, or he’s sad about something, or he’s just totally exhausted, it’s hard not to take it personally. So, you start making little passive aggressive comments about him—his appearance, his manhood, or the quality of partner he is.