How Unaddressed Insecurities Ruin Relationships
Do you know someone who just can’t seem to settle down, but is also always in a relationship? They’re just in relationships that don’t work out. Every relationship goes far though, and quickly. This person moves in with someone just two months into dating, gets engaged to just about everyone with whom she gets involved, and has even been married (and divorced) more than once by a young age. Is that person possibly…you? I’ve known a lot of people like this and I’ve found one thing they all had in common: severe insecurity. They wouldn’t admit it, of course, but I saw the patterns. When their ego would be at risk, that’s when they would act out. There was a strong correlation between feeling rejected (aka having those insecurities triggered) and doing something impulsive or even irresponsible. It’s a coping method, but it’s not a good one. Here are ways unaddressed insecurities can ruin your relationships.
You don’t allow for other priorities
You can’t accept that your partner has other priorities that are as or nearly important to him as you are. These could include his family, friends, career, or volunteer work. Rather than admire his love of these things, you see them as direct competition for his attention.