During the press run for comedian D.L. Hughley’s new show, he made some disheartening statements about black women. The 55-year-old, who has been married for over thirty years, said of his female counterparts:
“Black women are like spicy food. I love you, but it hurts in the morning. I love Black women so much that all my mistresses have been Black,” Hughley joked to Essence.
Fans and critics were taken aback by his comments, using an age old, damaging trope about Black women for promotion. In the midst of the backlash, Hughley was asked to clarify his comments, but he refused to apologize. Instead, he doubled down on his comments, saying being angry and black isn’t a bad thing, it’s just a natural response to oppression and knowledge.”
“Most people say that, but don’t give you the out that you have a reason to be angry. What did James Baldwin say? ‘To be Black and conscious is to be angry all the time.’ It’s not wrong to be angry, it’s wrong to not know why,” he explained.
Continuing, “Aren’t you angry when your sons are getting shot in the street? Aren’t you angry when you’re maligned? Aren’t you angry when you have to protect us more than we step up for you? So, why would you be mad when someone said that you were angry? What you’re mad about is that people don’t explain why.”
He proceeded with his attempt to rectify the comments by breaking into praise for all the different moods of Black women.
“I love [Black women] in spite of the things that you think are deficits,” he said. “I like who you are. I love your strength. I love the way you roll your eyes. I love the way you get mad when you’re really hurt. I love it.”