Signs Your Relationship Needs Spring Cleaning
Many equate spring cleaning with refreshing your home and your wardrobe, but it can actually work wonders for your relationship as well. Relationships are constant work and in order to make yours last, there is a certain amount of maintenance that should be done.
So as we celebrate the first day of Spring, now is the perfect time to give your relationship a tune-up of sorts to ensure that everything is running smoothly now and well into the future. To make it easier for you, we’ve compiled a list of ways to spring clean your relationship so it continues to prosper. Happy Spring, ladies!
Find An Ideal Love/Work Balance
With the increasingly fast-paced world we live in where schedules are packed with commitments, it’s very important that you find an ideal balance between your work life and your love life.
Sit down with your partner and map out a way that you can make time for all of your work obligations but also set aside the mandatory time necessary to nurture your relationship. It’s important that both parties meet in the middle and find a balance that works best all around.
Communicate What You Want
Speak up! It’s such a small concept, but many of us fail to utilize it. If you want something, you have to communicate it in order to get the results that you desire in your relationship and beyond.
Tell your partner what it is that you want more of, but be careful not to approach the issue from a demanding place. Instead, sit down and let them know that your needs being met are essential to the relationship’s success.
Always Show Love And Gratitude
If you love and appreciate someone, let them know it. This is especially true of relationships. Let your partner know just how much you love, appreciate and are grateful to have them in your life.
Leading with this sentiment is also a good way to lead into more serious matters because your partner knows how much you care, instead of feeling attacked for lacking in certain areas.
Assess What Needs Improvement
Everything in life can benefit from improvement because we all are works in progress. So, since spring is all about renewal, have a heart-to-heart conversation with your partner about what things you think need to be improved.
Additionally, remember that it’s not just your assessment that matters, you should also be just as open to hearing out your partners views…even if the improvement is your own behavior.
Visualize/Verbalize Your Future Together
Looking into and discussing the future is one of the best things you can do for the health of your relationship because it instantly eliminates the guessing game.
Don’t hesitate to openly discuss the future plans for your relationship and how you both plan to move forward to make those plans happen. Also, visualizing yourself already in the future with your partner can give you the added push needed to make things a reality.
Have An Honest Conversation About Finances
It’s a touchy subject, but it absolutely must be discussed to avoid serious issues in the future. If finances are one of the biggest issues in your relationship, it’s crucial to sit down and have those hard conversations about how to improve them.
Gather up the bills, banks statements, etc., and really look at your finances and make a plan together of how they can be fixed. This may require you both to cutback on certain things, start saving more money or paying off old debts. Either way, it’s best to address the issues in an honest way instead of ignoring them.
In today’s age of digital domination, it’s becoming more important than ever to unplug every now and then to recharge yourself.
Well, you can also do this with your partner, which actually makes unplugging much more fun. Turn off the phones, logout of social media, put the “out-of-office” email reply on and completely go dark for a few days together. You could use the time to take a vacation, a staycation or just simply being together doing nothing.
Get Rid Of Any Old Hurt, Once And For All
Every relationship goes through it’s own set of trial and tribulations, but you have to learn when to totally let the hurt from those issues go.
It may be easier said than done, but it’s definitely possible. Letting go of any old hurt you’re holding on to is weighing down your relationship whether you know it or not. If you need to take smaller steps to achieve this fine, but you have to let the past go if you want a future.
Commit To Making Each Other A Priority
Everyone wants to feel like a priority in their relationship. Sometimes we can get so bogged down with other things in our lives, that we neglect our partners and that’s a recipe for disaster.
Sure, you may have work, kids, hobbies, but your partner should also be high on your list of priorities. Make a commitment to ensuring that they have a special place in your life, even if you have to scale back on other things.
Continue To Do Relationship Maintenance
Regular maintenance is required in most every aspect of life and relationships are definitely one of them. You have to do regular check-ups to your relationship to make sure that things are as good as they can be.
This could be in the form of scheduled weekly date nights, evening sit-downs where you talk to each other about your day or an increase in intimacy. Whatever you do, just make sure you stick to it.