Having drastically different perspectives on money just can’t work out. I tried it, and it never lasts. My last partner had a much more fast and loose mindset about money than I do. I remember one day, being totally dumbfounded, when he leased a $450 a month vehicle, but had just told me he had so much student loan debt (on which he was late) that the lender had started garnishing his wages. Why would he lease such a pricey car, when there were perfectly good ones for half the cost, when he was already in the hole? “The car is part of my image, babe” is what he said, and, “Plus, one day I’ll make so much I’ll pay off all that debt in one swoop.” I couldn’t decide if I was impressed or disgusted or just in the dark about some grand plan he had. Ultimately, the way he treated money really put me off. Here is how different perspectives on money hurt your relationships.
He wants to RSVP yes
If your partner is more lavish about money, he wants to RSVP yes to every wedding, birthday booze cruise, friends’ getaway in Vegas…you name it. He’d never pass up on an opportunity to party with everyone.