Gabrielle Union Reveals She Chose Her Surrogate For This Particular Reason…
Actress Gabrielle Union and her former NBA star husband Dwayne Wade have been covered in love lately with the arrival of their three-month-old baby girl, Kaavia James Union Wade.
While being family-oriented, acting and a business entrepreneur remained at the top of her list, Union’s heart has indefinitely swelled to welcome their bundle of joy who was born on November 11, 2018.
The new-mom has dove head first into everything that mommy-hood entails and shares the family’s journey on the baby’s official Instagram page, littered with the hashtag #shadybaby. And while she’s been open with her fertility issues, revealing in her 2017 memoir, We’re Going To Need More Wine, that she and her husband suffered through eight or nine miscarriages, the Being Mary Jane star has remained relatively mum surrounding couple’s surrogacy process.
In a new interview with Women’s Health, Union spills the beans on what led her to select the woman who would carry little Kaavia into the world.
“Some people care about the race, religion or food habits of their surrogate. I was like, ‘I want a reader.’” Union explained. “She said, ‘I love the smell of the pages,'” and for Union that was all she needed.
Union was no stranger to motherhood, as she and Wade are the parents to three sons, two of which are Wade’s children from his previous marriage. The couple also has custody of Wade’s nephew.
“I’ve seen it. I’ve done it. I’ve done it well,” she said. “Now I’m in the right mindset and mental space, and I’m open to being the best mom I can be.”
But still, Mother Nature had other plans for Union and she was faced with the painful reality that she may not be able to carry her baby to term.
“There’s nothing more that I wanted than to cook my own baby,” she said.
Once Union and Wade made the decision to reveal they chose the surrogate path, many people came out the woodwork with criticism and questions of their own. Many of which cut deep wounds after experiencing so much heartbreak and loss.
Some of it Union said she understood. “I was like, ‘This is going to seem like the most Hollywood s–t ever. Will I be embraced as a mom?’ It’s terrifying?”
For the future, Union wants to leave her daughter with a sense of autonomy while also giving her the mothering she needs to succeed in the world.
“I want to instill in her morals, values,” Union continued. “And then I want to give her space to fill in those gaps, fall on her ass, and make mistakes. Get an F because she didn’t study. Pick the wrong dude. Pick the wrong friends and figure it out. I don’t want to be super judge-y.”