Jada Pinkett Smith Explains How Romantic Love Can Ruin Marriage
Actress Jada Pinkett Smith has transformed from an on screen goddess to an overall life and love guru. The mother of two recently dropped some more gems about why people need to stop prioritizing the romantic aspects of love over the solid tangible parts. Sure the flowers, dates and wooing is intoxicating and lovely, but the love that withstands the test of time is a love that knows trial but has never faultered.
Smith revealed she has that type of connection with her hubby of almost 22 years, movie star Will Smith.
“I had an epiphany the other day,” Jada said on Instagram. “I had to call Will and say, ‘You know what? I have to thank you for enduring my rage.’ It made me realize how durable love must be because we don’t have all the answers in the beginning,” she continued.
“I realized how unmet standards of romantic love often justified it to turn into a cold heart that many times can fuel hateful and brutal actions of revenge and manipulation towards someone you ‘say’ or ‘said’ you loved,” she penned.
“MY romantic standard of love was all that mattered and if it wasn’t met … there was more than hell to pay. My romantic standards were feeding my ego whether they were met or unmet. I experienced some very hard lessons (and continue to do so) that formed the decision that my ego and my heart could not share the same space,” Jada wrote.
These revelations ultimately helped Jada to confidently secure her connection to Will, whom she married in 1997.
“It was also the deciding factor to transform my union to @willsmith from a marriage (contaminated with all the above) to a life partnership led by and steeped in ‘devotional friendship,’” Jada explained.
“The only thing to do in life is to find the form of love where we can give the best of ourselves AND … it’s not always going to look like you thought.”