Tips For Navigating Your First Date With Someone You Met Online
So, you matched with a cutie on Tinder…congrats! They actually responded to your DMS, and you’ve set up your very first date. A lot of people don’t even make it to this part so you’re basically in the dating big leagues. After you both decide on a spot and you’ve picked out the perfect first date outfit, it’s time to work out those first date jitters.
A Warm Hug Works Wonders
Don’t hold back on a first hug even though he’s a stranger.
“When you show up be warm. Give him a big hug. Don’t worry about being hot in the first five minutes,” he said. “There’s time but don’t play it too cool for school, either.”
Think About Where To Sit
Sitting at a corner or angle is much better than facing each other or sitting right beside each other. Facing each other “is intense because your energy is all pointed towards each other,” Hussey explains.
“You’re closer, so it should feel more awkward but it doesn’t because you’re not facing directly at each other,” he said. “If there’s a silence, you’re just people watching together.”
Keep Conversation Flowing
If someone says “how are you?” Answering “fine,” doesn’t give your date a good in.
“You serve me the ball, I’m hitting it back,” Hussey explained. “Conversation is a game of catch. Let me catch it for a moment and take pressure off you and throw it back.”
Don’t Take The Bait
We all hate the “why are you single?” question, but there’s a way to answer it that will keep your date on his toes.
“When a guy says that to you he’s trying to make you think about you — But you’re not going to accept that. Instead, you’ll make him think about him. So when you say, I’m looking for a great connection and if I didn’t find that I wouldn’t settle. He’s now thinking, ‘Am I going to give her that great connection? Am I going to be good enough?'” Hussey suggests.