Why You Can’t Reject Your Step-Parent Forever
My parents are divorced and both are now with new partners—serious partners. My mom is re-married and my dad basically is, having lived with his new partner for nearly 13 years. When my parents first split up, I was 15 years old—that’s not exactly an age group that welcomes change. My life was already turbulent enough between my hormones, my first boyfriend, and pre-college application prep. I was in no mood or mental state to handle not only my parents splitting up, but then also finding new partners within two years of their divorce. I didn’t make things easy on any of them—that’s for sure. But I didn’t feel they were making things easy on me. But since then, I’ve grown up. I’ve built a life of my own. I have a partner of my own. The happenings in my parents’ lives don’t directly and deeply affect me the way they did when I was younger. That’s part of the reason I’ve accepted their new partners, along with many other reasons. If you’re rejecting your parent’s new spouse, here are things to consider.
You want time with him, right?
If you want to spend time with your parent you can choose between, let’s say, X amount of time or half that much time. If you make him choose between seeing you and being with his spouse, he’ll be forced to split his time in half. That means you just don’t get to spend as much time with your parent, all because you won’t accept the spouse.