Should You End Your Relationship?

January 11, 2019  |  
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Deciding to end a relationship is a big decision many long-suffering couples are scared to make. The uncertainty regarding starting over and the hassle of dismantling the life you’ve built with someone else, causes many pairs to convince themselves that their relationship is worth saving, despite the obvious signs to the contrary.

If you’ve been toying with the idea of ending your relationship, but aren’t exactly confident you should, we have you covered. We’ve compiled a checklist of relationship behavior that totally dictates that it’s time to say goodbye to your boo once and for all.

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Communication Is At An All-Time Low

We all know that undoubtedly the most important part of a relationship is communication. If you are lacking communication in your relationship or don’t have it at all, that is the biggest red flag that things are headed for disaster.

If your partner shows no interest in communicating when you try to initiate it, chances are they’ve already emotionally checked out of the relationship. Communication can save a relationship, but the absence of it can make your relationship decision crystal clear.


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He Doesn’t Support You

Support means everything and if your partner never shows up for you when it counts, or offers words of encouragement, it’s time to let things go.

Even if your partner doesn’t fully agree with something you’re trying to do, just knowing that you have their support anyway means the world. However, when the support is nonexistent, there’s really no need to stick around.

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He Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself

Point blank, no one who really cares about you would ever make you feel bad about yourself. Instead, a healthy relationship is filled with feeling your absolute best because your partner makes you so happy.

Not only does this behavior chip away at your self-esteem, it’s also a form of emotional and verbal abuse. You shouldn’t tolerate that type of behavior from anyone.

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He’s Abusive

There shouldn’t be a second thought on this. If you are in a relationship where you are being abused, get out immediately.

Ignore the apologies, pleas for second chances and promises to do better, just walk away and never look back.

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He’s Been Unfaithful

Some people have a higher threshold for being cheated on, but if you are not one of those people and your partner has been unfaithful, it’s time to head for the door.

You don’t deserve the disrespect that comes with the burden of knowing that your partner has cheated on you. Also, the relationship will likely never be the same because the betrayal will always be a reminder.


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The Sex/Intimacy Is Lacking

A lot of people stay in relationships much longer than they should because the sex and intimacy is so great, so when you no longer have that, you have to seriously ask what’s left.

If you can’t recall any other redeeming qualities to your relationship other than the sex that has completely dissolved, you probably already know what you need to to. A lack of sex dictates a lack of interest…and the possibility your partner is getting it elsewhere.

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You Don’t Spend Quality Time Together

When you’re in a healthy relationship, you want to spend as much time together as possible, so if the opposite is occurring in your relationship, trouble is already on the horizon.

If your partner doesn’t want to be around you, then they are basically telling you that they have checked out and the relationship is officially over.

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You Can’t Depend On Him

Being a dependable mate in a relationship is an essential quality that allows you to fully put your trust in someone else because you know they will come through.

If your relationship is filled with empty promises, no-shows and excuses, you need to take a hard look at your relationship and find out if you’re comfortable with the behavior continuing.

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He Invalidates Your Feelings

When you sit down to talk to your partner about your feelings, at the very least they should be willing to listen and try to understand your point of view.

However, if you’re in a relationship where your feelings are constantly mocked and invalidated, you’re dealing with a high level of disrespect. Regardless if your feelings make your partner uncomfortable, you deserve to be heard, if not, pull the plug.

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You’re Unhappy

At the end of the day, this is the most important thing. If you’re not happy in your relationship, it’s definitely time to move on to something better.

Your partner should be contributing to your happiness, not taking away from it, so don’t hesitate to say the goodbye you should have a long time ago.

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