“Scrooging” is a new dating trend that describes the trifling’ and cheap amongst us. Seriously.
The term was coined by researchers at eHarmony who discovered that people will dump their partner right before Christmas to avoid giving them a gift.
“We know that relationships can often become less of a priority in the run up to Christmas,” eHarmony rep Rachael Lloyd told Metro UK. “Often people in relationships get anxious about what to buy their partner, particularly if they’re not given any clues.”
The anxiety that leads to “gifting breakups” is often practiced by men more than women. According to their research, men are more likely to opt out of the entire Christmas gifting process at the same time as they exit the relationship. But this habit is an insensitive one that should be stopped.
“There’s no excuse for this type of behavior,” Lloyd said. “There are a huge number of [budget]-friendly presents on offer, which some of these ‘Scrooges’ might consider before pulling the plug.”
For those who struggle with gift giving, the key is communication. Ask your partner for the kind of things they like. No reason to drive yourself crazy with guessing games.
On the other hand, if the relationship is already on the rocks, don’t use gifting as a scapegoat. If you want to exit the relationship, explain yourself and make a decision, versus trying to make “Christmas pressure” the overarching issue.
If you’re someone who is the victim of scrooging, you’re not alone. But if you keep in mind they are inconsiderate to begin with, their seeming “rejection” can transform into a blessing in disguise.
Bekker, the owner of matchmaking company Hunting Maven, said of the people who “scrooge”:
“This is simple. This means A. The person has commitment issues and B. They’re cheap. Neither of which you want to be with … Ever. So be thankful they actually did you a favor. Losing them sounds like the best gift of all.”