When backed into a corner, we’re all capable of doing some pretty ridiculous things. Usually, when we know we are wrong in the fight, or we are simply struggling to formulate a clear and convincing argument, we start grasping at whatever ammunition we have. And sometimes, we grab for stuff that’s rather unfair. It’s probably safe to say that nobody is her best self in the middle of a fight. Whether pride is hurt, flaws are being pointed out, triggers are being triggered, or the past is being dredged up, nobody responds with total grace and patience during a relationship fight. Thank goodness most couples have an understanding that what happens in a fight stays in a fight (hopefully), but we can’t shake the embarrassing memory of some of the ways we try to win or get out of fights. Here are petty things we all do mid-fight in relationships.
Bring up his similar mistake
As if this fixes anything, you just point out the time your partner did something very similar to what he’s accusing you of. It doesn’t undo what you’ve done, nor make what you’ve done right. You’re just trying to gain some leverage.