“Focus On What’s Going Well” Jada Pinkett Reflects On Absent Father And Relationship Between Willow And Will

December 1, 2018  |  

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When it comes to co-parenting it can be easy to focus on all the ways fathers can sometimes fall short. Even I at times find myself cringing at the outfits my husband throws together for our four-year-old on his own, his lack of attention to detail when cleaning the bathroom and failure to comprehend that our daughter has never and probably will never like blueberries. But it can also be easy to takes dads for granted and how much their presence makes a difference in the lives of their children, particularly their daughters.

On an upcoming episode of her hit Facebook Watch talk show, Red Table Talk, actress Jada Pinkett-Smith shares how the absence of her own father during her upbringing makes her appreciate husband Will Smith’s presence in their daughter Willow’s life that much more. She even shares she experienced some slight jealousy witnessing their bond:

“I remember going through a stage with Will watching him father Willow that was just like, Oh my god, I’ll never have that! Ever!”

“I always tell Willow, I’m like, ‘Listen, I know you’re dad’s not perfect, but my god, you have a daddy.’ That is the one thing, to be able to give my kids something I didn’t have and be able to watch it.”

PEOPLE reports 17-year-old Willow also appears as a co-host during the episode as well as Pinkett’s brother Caleb and her mother, Adrienne-Banfield Jones. Pinkett talks about her tendency to criticize Will’s parenting at times based on resentment she harbored from her own childhood:

“What I had to stop looking at was that something was wrong or something wasn’t right, because poor little Jada didn’t have a daddy.”

“I had to learn to stop focusing on what’s not going well. Focus on what’s going well.”

Pinkett has shared in prior episodes that her father Robsoll Pinkett Jr. was abusive to her mother and her mother who is now 64 shares that alcoholism was a huge factor in the domestic violence:

“Not to make this like an excuse … but he was typically in an altered state when he was abusive like that. He was typically drunk.”

“I think women stay because they think that they’re in love. That’s what it was for me. I thought that it was love.”

Pinkett-Smith however shares the conflicting feelings of revealing to Willow who her grandfather, who died in 2010, truly was:

“I knew that my mother and my father had a very violent relationship early on.”

“She has a couple scars on her body that, as a child, I was just curious. I was like, ‘Oh, Mommy, what’s that? What’s that?’ … This will be the first time that Willow’s actually heard these stories about her grandfather who she knew.”

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