It’s amazing that a couple can be together—and live together—for years without covering certain topics. But, I can attest to the fact that some subjects just don’t naturally find their way into conversation. Yup—even if you’re together for nearly a decade. I was with my partner for a long time before learning that, if we were to find ourselves with an unplanned pregnancy, he would be intent on keeping the baby. We were washing dishes one night, talking about how many of our friends have babies now and how not ready we are, and I said, “Okay, so we agree: if we became pregnant, we wouldn’t keep the baby.” Then my boyfriend, shocked said, “Um…yes we would. We’re a financially stable, mature couple. Keeping the baby would be the only responsible thing to do.” I could literally hear my stomach drop and I may have swallowed all my birth control pills right after. This was something we felt quite differently about, and had no idea about nearly five years into dating! Here are things couples should discuss before marriage, that few do.
The idea of marriage, at all
You’d be surprised how many people pop the question before even broaching the topic of marriage with their partner in the first place. The proposal should not be the very first time the discussion of spending forever together comes up. That’s a big proposal no-no.