Have you ever met someone and just thought this person has got to loosen up? You can just feel it. He’s single, and you aren’t surprised. You couldn’t quite put your finger on why—you can’t point to one behavior—but overall, you don’t feel comfortable around the person because he doesn’t feel comfortable around himself. If this doesn’t sound at all familiar then, uh oh, you may be the one who needs to loosen up. Nobody can relax around you if you aren’t relaxed. Maybe you had very strict parents who expected perfection out of you, and so you expect it out of everyone else. Maybe you had very loose parents—too loose—who didn’t provide you with enough structure, so you’ve self-imposed a tremendous amount of structure on yourself and everyone around you. Whatever the reason, you’re stiff, and nobody wants to build a life with a stiff. Do you need to loosen up to find love?
Be open to new date spots
It’s okay to go somewhere that has less than four stars on Yelp. If your date insists it’s a great spot, get over what Yelp reviewers say and just go. It’s okay to go somewhere where you don’t know the hostess, can’t push for the best table, and can’t control how the date goes.