Divorced People Explain The Biggest Challenges They Faced In Their Relationships
In the age of social media couple #goals, it is easy to get wrapped up in the appearance of marriage versus the work of marriage. We put energy and money towards big wedding celebrations but leave the couple to fend for themselves after the party is over.
In the long space between “I do” and “until death do us part,” there are a lot of ups and downs, triumphs and hardships two people go through. While we often tend to glean our relationship advice from married people, it may be useful to talk to the people who didn’t make it about the particular tension points that caused their relationship’s demise.
A new study, aggregating responses from popular online forum Reddit, questioned divorcees and asked them the biggest relationship hurdles they faced in their marriage. 26% of the divorced study participants indicated commitment was the hardest part of marriage. Communication came in at number two, garnering 21% of the vote. Compromise was the third hardest part of marriage for 20% of the sample population.
The comment that earned the most likes on the forum regarding marriage, revealed that many people wished they knew the difference between “love” and “like” before jumping the broom.
“I do, and always will, love my wife, but I don’t always like her,” the anonymous commentator wrote. “People are so soon to divorce these days because they don’t like each other, and they forget how much they actually love one another.”
72% of commenters said that the health of their communication with a partner would indicate if they’ve “found the one.”
“Everything is easy,” one comment, which also garnered the most likes, wrote about a relationship with “the one.”
“…as in conversations, making plans for a date, traveling, discussing the future–it’s all very easy with the right person,” they described.
Communication is clearly a universal marker of relationship success. Perhaps it’s time we get off the phone and stop envying #couplegoals, and start talking to our significant others more.