Making new friends isn’t easy for every personality type. If you’re an introvert, you’re probably tired of hearing that you should get over it/get out there/open up. That’s just not really who you are. And, it’s annoying when people give you personality feedback you didn’t ask for. With that in mind, if you’ve been giving yourself some self-feedback lately and realized that you’re not great at making new friends, there are some things you can do to change that. Even introverts want to make friends and like other humans. They just don’t have the bright, bubbly, outgoing mannerisms to make that clear. Between moving around and being busy with careers, it’s not uncommon for a woman to find herself in her late thirties or beyond and realize, “I don’t really have a good female friend group.” This is especially true for introverts. But it’s never too late. Here are things that make you more approachable to new friends.
Open with a compliment
Giving a compliment is the universal way of saying, “You’re safe with me and I want to get along.” It’s especially powerful between women who can, unfortunately, feel some competition. Simply telling someone you love her haircut or earrings is a subtle way of saying, “I’m friendly.” Compliments are wonderfully disarming.