Tracee Ellis Ross Is At Peace With Her “Choiceful Solitude”

October 4, 2018  |  

Tracee Ellis Ross opened up about conquering her wildest dreams and living life as a single woman in the newest issue of InStyle Magazine.

The fashion killer and Emmy-award winner says she is content with her placement in life and has found a way to break free from outside definitions.

“It’s sort of fascinating to be 45 and single and childless,” she says. “Happily single, I should add. Not at home crying about it.”

And even though her Black-ish character, Dr. Rainbow Johnson, is the mother of five children, she says that it’s important that people separate who she is on TV from what’s truly happening in the real life of an individual.

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In such a tough political climate, representing an American family on @BlackishABC means everything to @TraceeEllisRoss. “When you can look at a story that is not in any way your story but see all the ways you identify, that’s art doing its job,” she says. “One of the things that’s been special about this time is that there’s a space for one’s own unique experiences in a way that there wasn’t always. The life promised by fairytales and movies is not relevant in the same way — the white picket fence blah blah blah — and there are more people telling stories that have different colors and flavors to them.” Full story by @RobertJHaskell at the link in bio. I Photographed by @HorstDiekgerdes; Styled by @KarlaWelchStylist

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“These are very big and very personal questions that aren’t anyone’s business but that somehow, like the right to choose, become fodder for public conversation,” she continued. “Some of the ability to reflect on what I really want comes from pushing up against a society that shames me for not having the expected trappings. I’m very pleased with my existence these days. Have I had to learn to make friends with loneliness? Yes. I think if I were in a relationship, it would be the same.”

She called this particular moment in life, “choiceful solitude,” where she finds herself indulging in things that bring her joy like family, traveling and creating.

Ross has been vocal about singledom before–in 2017, she gave a stirring speech at Glamour’s Woman Of The Year Summit where she opened up about finding herself and not relying on a relationship for happiness.

She credits her iconic mother, Diana Ross, as the woman who showed her what it means to own your worth and live to your highest potential.

“As a kid I saw my mom as the lady in the sparkly dress on the stage who sang, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve found the language to articulate that what I was seeing was a woman in her full glory being in connection with this gift she was given, being glamorous and sexy but not in a way that’s ‘Look at me.’ We live in a ‘Look at me’ culture. I was raised to view sexy as being at the height of your … self.”

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