Dumb Excuses Not To Get A Prenup

September 19, 2018  |  
1 of 15

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/Approved prenuptial agreement lay down on wooden desk with rubber stamp and calculator.

Nobody wants to talk about prenuptial agreements. For some, simply touching on the subject—just alluding to it—feels like bad luck. The mere discussion of a prenup feels like you’re welcoming in divorce. If you’re already someone who is frightened by divorce statistics (you shouldn’t be, by the way), then you don’t want to test your luck. There’s also the simple fact that prenups often come up during the most romantic time in our lives: during an engagement! Planning for the worst-case scenario while also writing your vows feels unnatural. But we don’t have to look at prenups as doomsday things. You can just see them as a part of the overall process of planning for all the things the future may bring. You have life insurance policies, but you hope not to die, right? It’s just better to have one than not…Here are dumb excuses people give not to get prenups.

 

marriage and divorce rates

Gettyimaages.com/Young happy black couple holding hands and communicating during breakfast time at home. Focus is on woman.

We won’t get a divorce

I promise you that most people who are divorced said the same thing. Nobody plans to be divorced. Nobody thinks they’ll get divorced and yet, divorces do happen. And, again, you don’t have health insurance because you plan on getting sick or injured, right?

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/A small group discussing about business strategy and loans, finances.

We’ll be amicable

You think that now because now you’re happy and in love and you cannot imagine ever wanting anything that would be in direct conflict with your partner’s happiness. But those are not the circumstances that exist when people get a divorce.

a soup diet

Gettyimages.com/saving money on food

He can just have half

You say that now but…how do you know your business won’t take off like crazy? You could build an empire and lose half of it in a divorce? That would sting. You love this guy but, come on—you are the one who earned that money.

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/Couple on front stoop

We don’t have anything

Okay that’s fine but do you plan on remaining that way? I’m guessing you have aspirations of buying a home one day. Or of growing some money you currently have in investments. Don’t think about what you have now: think about what you plan to have.

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/Mother holding baby son applying face cream in mirror

I’m the mother of his kids

So he’d never do anything to upset or hurt you, right? Mmm…what if he later feels he’s better suited to have full custody of the kids? Or, if you want the kids to remain in their childhood home and you want custody, then that would mean you should get the house. These are things you can cover in a prenup.

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/Mother sitting on bed holding baby daughter on lap

I raised those kids

Well, that brings us to another point: if you’ve left work to raise your children, then you may be removing yourself from the running of potential employees in your industry. If you and your partner split, you would not have his money or a serviceable resume (you’d taken 18 plus years off, after all). Shouldn’t you be protected?

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/vintage car

Our assets are worth little

You seriously never know how things can change. Economies go through a lot. Your little house, or that old car, could suddenly become a hot commodity.

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/man scratching his head

My partner is reasonable

Nobody is reasonable during a divorce. Even the most reasonable individuals are emotional and exhausted, and angry about how much the divorce lawyers cost.

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/Cropped shot of an attractive young woman sitting on her bed

It kills the vibe

Well maybe it’s worth it to kill the vibe for a few days while you draw up this prenup, in order to not kill the vibe of the rest of your life if you were to get a divorce and not be protected.

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/impatient jealous woman

I want trust in our marriage

Asking for a prenup doesn’t have to mean that you don’t have trust. In fact, it means that you care about each other so much that you’d like to protect yourselves from your future, angry selves. You want to make sure your partner is protected, and he wants the same for you.

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/anniversary

We can just make one later

While you’re married? Okay. Sure. But you probably won’t get around to doing that. If the marriage is going well, you’ll see less and less reason to make one. If the marriage turns sour, then it’s too late to make one with your heads on your shoulders.

marriage and divorce rates

Gettyimages.com/cash money

I’m not greedy

Nobody is accusing you of being greedy for creating a prenup. There’s a difference between being greedy and wanting what is fair.

relationship social life couples on a date

Gettyimages.com/Cropped shot of two couples on a double date four friends out on a double date

Our friends don’t have one

Do you do everything your friends do? Or don’t do? Some of your friends are swingers—should you do that, too? Some use crystals instead of medicine for illness—will you do that as well?

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/shot of prenuptial form

Making one is expensive

Alright but not having one can cost you more than you’d ever imagined—like your stability, peace of mind, sense of justice, and even your children.

prenuptial agreement

Gettyimages.com/man with a secret who is cheating

Only infidelity would break us up

So you say the only thing that could cause you divorce is infidelity, in which case, you feel you’d be entitled to whatever you wanted. Unfortunately, even if a cheater feels guilty, he probably still won’t hand you everything. So put a fidelity clause in the prenup.

Trending on MadameNoire

Comment Disclaimer: Comments that contain profane or derogatory language, video links or exceed 200 words will require approval by a moderator before appearing in the comment section. XOXO-MN