So you have yourself, your partner, and a nanny. That’s three people in charge of the children’s welfare. That means three different individuals are shuttling the kids from one activity to the next, overseeing meals, helping with homework, and chaperoning social time. Having this many individuals involved in childcare can be confusing for the kids, and the adults. You have to run a pretty tight ship to make sure all the adults are in constant communication and on the same page. If you don’t, then it’s easy for some of your kid’s bad behavior to slip through the cracks, for them to question who is really in charge, and to just generally feel that they have no structure. You and your partner are, obviously, the top of the chain of command. But you need to work together with your nanny. Here are tips for managing the relationship between you, your spouse, and your childcare.
Discuss new ordinances
Never pass a new rule onto the kids until everyone has discussed it. You and your partner will be the ones in charge of making the rules but, it’s important that you two agree on them, and that you notify the nanny of them. Your nanny should also have the freedom to suggest some rules, since she may see things that you don’t see.