Sadly, every time we write about a trans woman, people, hellbent on being mean and hateful go out of their way to misgender the woman. It doesn’t matter what the story is about. Whether the woman is speaking about some form of discrimination she’s faced or the woman is no longer here to speak for herself, some of our commenters seem to get some type of sick high misgendering folks who have been explicitly clear about their identity.
It’s one thing when laypeople participate in this type of behavior but it’s something entirely different when law officials misgender and use the deadnames of Black trans victims. Actress and trans activist Laverne Cox spoke about this practice in a letter she shared on her social media channels. She began by sharing a time when she thought of taking her own life.
This is an issue of human decency. You don’t have to understand a person’s entire identity, life choices, and experiences to respect the way they would like to be identified in life and in death.