A lot of women are so wrapped up in getting a ring that they’re bypassing the moments they could be making in the meantime.
Shakespeare once wrote, “Journey’s end in lovers meeting.” That line sounds really pretty but I don’t know that I completely buy that concept because life after your meet the person you’re meant to spend the rest of your days with is another journey of its own. But, it’s definitely true that our life before that magical moment is also a tale worth telling and remembering.
Keeping that in mind, I think every single woman owes it to herself to chase her own adventures and climb whichever mountains she chooses, figuratively speaking. You don’t have to wait on your life partner to do that.
So, do you have a Single Girl Bucket List? If you’re not sure what I’m talking about, it’s a rundown of things you want to do or accomplish before you settle down. Things that are just for you, completely independent of what anyone else thinks. It doesn’t matter how long the list is, that’s completely up to you. But the point of it is that you have to sit down and think about the kind of life you want to live. Think of it like an outline for your journey, which is custom made just for you.
There’s an endless number of articles and books that tell single women how to really live their best life. They give readers these neatly packaged bits of advice and things to try. Don’t get me wrong, there are some neat ideas in there, but there are also some truly awful ones, too. A writer for Glamour, for example, once suggested that every single girl needs to “Date the creeps,” so that they can appreciate the nice guys a little more. That’s probably terrible advice. You don’t need to expose yourself to toxic people and relationships just so that you can enjoy better ones later on.
Off the page and screen, is an equally endless line of friends, family, and other nosy members of the community who have a very specific idea of what a woman should be doing and how she should behave until she gets married. They’re not shy about sharing their unsolicited opinions with you, either.
No one can tell you how to live your best life as a single woman but you. To determine that, you have to take stock of who you really are and what makes you feel fulfilled. Are you living the life you really want to be living now while you’re waiting on your forever? If not, you can change that starting now. I suggest you begin by making a Single Girl Bucket List and checking things off when the time is right for you.