Relationship Dynamics That Aren’t Sustainable

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Any time anyone tells me about their new relationship—the miscommunications, the first makeup after a miscommunication, the first kisses, the first time having sex, the first time meeting the friends—I’m really just asking myself one question: is it easy? I can’t believe how much time I, personally, wasted on relationships in the past that I would have left right away if I’d known this simple rule: relationships are supposed to be easy in the beginning. Sure, they won’t always be easy. If you truly fuse your life with someone else’s, you’ll have financial difficulties, health problems, emotional ups and downs and more. But that’s precisely why the formative years should be easy. Your core dynamic—that dynamic between you and the other person—should be pretty effortless. It’s the only way you can survive the difficult things life will later throw at you. So on that note, here are relationship dynamics that aren’t sustainable.

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Career jealousy

Your partner should be nothing but extremely happy for you when you move up and you should be nothing but extremely happy for him when he moves up. You should be one another’s top cheerleaders. There should never be career jealousy or competitiveness amongst a romantic couple. It will poison every other element of the relationship. And if there’s career jealousy, that means one very important factor doesn’t exist—that factor by which you feel that your partner’s wins are yours and visa versa.