“I Don’t Want To Go Back To That Dark Hole”: Michelle Williams On Prioritizing Her Mental Health For Herself And Fiancé
In October of last year, singer Michelle Williams revealed that at the height of her fame when she was in Destiny’s Child, she struggled with depression. Things got so bad, even after the group disbanded, that she also found herself grappling with suicidal thoughts.
These days, she has a lot to celebrate. She’s engaged to be married to fiancé Chad Johnson, she reunited with Kelly and Beyoncé at Coachella in April, and she has a couple of businesses, including a home decor business and a new subscription box service called Geenie, which provides Black women with lifestyle products curated by other influential Black women. But that doesn’t mean the depression has completely gone away. As the 37-year-old shared in a new interview with Forbes about her service, she touched on the steps she takes to prioritize her mental health — for herself and for the benefit of her future husband.
“It’s a daily thing,” she said. “Every day you’re making the choice to be happy, to smile, to work. Make sure the relationships around you are healthy. You’re gonna have to say no sometimes. That whole, ‘While you sleep I was grinding’ foolishness? No, please rest. This past week, I literally had to take stuff of my calendar. I had too much going on, and was starting to feel pulled. Sorry, call me flakey if you want to, but my mental health is way more important. I don’t want to go back to that dark hole, you know what I mean? Depression is really no joke at all. I’m a big fan of therapy, counseling. I’m about to be married, so I want to make sure I’m continuing the healing process, for my husband.”
And on top of making sure she’s resting and cultivating healthy relationships, Williams also encourages others to find the time to do whatever it is that brings them peace.
“Make the time,” she said. “If you spend 30 minutes on Instagram, maybe just spend 20 and do 10 minutes of meditation, push-ups, drinking water… Instead of putting the kids to bed at 8:00, make sure they’re in the bed at 7:30, so you got 30 minutes for you. Start somewhere.”
As previously mentioned, she revealed her struggles with depression last year while on The Talk in the hopes of encouraging more open and honest conversations about mental health.
“So many people are walking around acting like they’ve got it together and they’re suffering,” she said at the time. “So for years, I’m in one of the top-selling female groups of all time, suffering with depression. And when I disclosed it to our manager at the time, bless his heart, he was like, ‘Y’all just signed a multi-million dollar deal! You’re about to go on tour! What do you have to be depressed about?’ So I was like, ‘Oh, maybe I’m just tired.’ I went to him but it’s kind of like, he could have been right at the time. I think he wanted me to be grateful, and I was, but I was still sad. So I want to normalize this mental health discussion.”