Self-improvement. Just listen to the phrase. How could there possibly be anything bad about it? It has the word improvement in it after all. And, surely, we all know plenty of people who could desperately benefit from some self-improvement. The world would be a better place if more people—from the most powerful individuals to more humble civilians—would prioritize self-improvement a bit more. All of this is certainly true. That being said, for some people, self-improvement can just become a crutch. Do you know those people who remain students forever—always pursuing a new degree—because they’re clearly afraid to join the real world and put their training to work? Well, there is such thing as a student of self-improvement, who does the same thing. So, can self-improvement be an addiction? Absolutely. And here are the symptoms.
You never feel ready to date
You won’t date, even when you meet someone you really hit it off with and feel totally comfortable with, because you’re always certain you have more personal work to do before you can date. Here’s the thing: personal work is never done. It’s about finding someone who you can improve with together, in a relationship. Nobody arrives at a relationship completely perfect, and done growing.