Andrea Kelly Sobs Recalling The Moment She Realized R. Kelly Abused Her During Their Marriage
For all the women who have come forward to speak out against R. Kelly and the latest allegations of abuse around him holding young girls hostage in a cult in Atlanta, one woman has been noticeably absent from the conversation: Andrea Kelly.
Andrea was married to R. Kelly from 1996 to 2009 and the former couple has three children together. Because accusations of child molestation and other predatory behavior have essentially followed R. Kelly since his 1994 marriage to Aaliyah (at which time she was 15 and he was 27), many have wondered whether Andrea knew what her husband was doing. Some even questioning whether she was complicit in his behavior. Today the singer’s ex-wife revealed that she, too, was abused by R. Kelly.
During an appearance on TV One’s Sister Circle today, Andrea recalled the moment she took a questionnaire on a Domestic Violence website. The dancer said she had been asking God for answers about whether she should leave her ex-husband and that pleading led her to a painful realization.
Through tears she recalled begging for an answer, saying, “God, I need an answer today, not tomorrow, not in an hour, I need it now and the first thing God told me, He said, ‘grab your laptop’ …and once I grabbed the laptop He said, ‘put in domestic violence.’ And I’m thinking to myself, I’m not that girl. I’m not the teeth missing, I’m not the broken bone girl…I kept scrolling and at the end of the domestic violence awareness website there was a questionnaire. There were 17 questions and they ask you has your abuser ever done…of the 17 Robert had done 15 to me.”
Because it’s been nearly 10 years since the pair has been legally married, show co-host Syleena Johnson asked Andrea why she chose to speak out about her experience now and she said God told her it’s time,
“You have to love somebody enough to tell them enough and I don’t believe that my ex-husband has enough people in his life to be real with him, to be honest with him, who care about his healing, who care about the healing of these families and I feel like it’s God’s time. I was not strong enough. How can I be a voice for the voiceless when I don’t even have my own? How can I be powerful for the powerless when I don’t even have my own. So I had to wait until God said, ‘okay daughter, it is time.'”
So far, R. Kelly has yet to respond to Andrea’s story.
If you think you may be a victim of domestic abuse, you can take an 18-question survey on Psych Central, here.