Are Your Standards Sabotaging Your Love Life?
Everyone has to have some level of standards or else the dating game would be total chaos. It’s okay to be a bit judgmental—that simply means that you use your past experiences and insight to help you better understand people. The only reason that being judgmental gets a bad reputation is that some people just judge that everyone is, well, not as good as they are. Those are the folks we can actually call “Judgy.” They’re able to spin any quality or behavior into a negative. They look for reasons not to like people. They interrogate and analyze each person they meet assuming they’re already guilty of something. This usually just comes from a desire to protect ones self or—and this is often the case—a deep-seated insecurity the judger is projecting onto others, judging people before they get the chance to judge them. But this personality type has a very hard time in the dating pool. Are your standards sabotaging your love life?