There isn’t a Black girl alive who doesn’t have a hair story related to her self-image in some way and Tiffany Haddish is sharing one of her past one’s in People magazine’s Beautiful Issue.
The 38-year-old comedienne was asked what she would tell her 15-year-old self about beauty and confidence and she told the mag, “Just be who you are.” At that age, for Haddish, that meant being okay with not having straight hair — a story most of us can relate too.
“All the girls in school had perms and stuff or they already had naturally silky hair,” Haddish explained, “so I thought if I get a perm, and then I can get in the swimming pool and my hair will lay straight and then boys will like me and all that.”
Raise your hand if you’ve been there.
Admitting, “But I was too goofy anyways,” Haddish, who attended El Camino Real High School in California, confessed her idea didn’t exactly work out as planned.
Boys “still liked me anyways,” she said, “except for when all my hair had fell out and I was like bald.”
Do I need to ask again who can relate?
The gag is, Haddish eventually realized hair texture (and length) didn’t really matter much at the end of the day. “[Boys] gon’ like you regardless,” she said she would’ve told her teenage self, “You a girl!”
And that’s a word. As women (and girls), we have to understand the importance of a man (boy) loving us as we are, rather than attempting to change to be accepted. We also need to realize at the end of the day, 99% of the things we stress over — brows, booty, bra-length hair — men don’t really give a damn about. If you’re a girl, that man is going to like you regardless.