If you watch Real Housewives of Potomac and tuned into Sunday’s episode following the last of the RHOA reunion, then you may have seen cast member Monique Samuels, 34, and her husband, Chris, 40, reveal that they recently suffered a miscarriage.
During the episode, the couple visited their pastor, and it was during that time that they opened up about their loss.
“A little over a month ago, we had a miscarriage,” she said. “To be honest, I don’t think we fully dealt with it. We have been nonstop.”
The couple, who already have two children in son Christopher, 5, and daughter Milani, 2, admitted they hadn’t really had the chance to stop and process everything due to the many responsibilities they already have, and their recent move into a new home in Potomac. Because of that, she didn’t get to truly grieve, which was something that worried her husband.
“I was concerned because I’ve seen people boo boo crying, and she never did,” the former NFL star said during the episode. “Monique just kind of kept flowing like it was normal.”
But Monique said the loss was so unexpected, she didn’t really know how to go about feeling.
“As soon as I took the pregnancy test, Chris was grinning from ear to ear,” she said in her confessional. “And it never once dawned on me that we would lose it. Until you’ve experienced loss, it’s hard to even put it into words, you know?”
“If that were the first time Chris and I had ever tried to get pregnant and then experienced that, I think it would have been a lot harder,” she added.
But after watching the episode on Sunday night with the rest of the world, Monique said reliving that experience and conversation has helped her see the ways in which she hasn’t dealt with her pain.
According to the College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, studies have shown that anywhere from 10 to 25 percent of all clinically recognized pregnancies end in miscarriage. And per AmericanPregnancy.org, for women during their childbearing years, the chance of miscarrying can range from 10 to 25 percent, and in very healthy women, 15 to 20 percent.
For Monique, she said that she’s going to concentrate on the many things she has on her plate in order to help her move forward, and if the couple are meant to have another child, they will.
“I’ve been so nonstop busy that I don’t even know if I could completely process what was going on with my body,” she said. “But right now I’ll just use this time to keep on pursuing other business ventures that I have in mind. And when the time comes that I’m ready to have a baby, it’ll happen.”