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I was fortunate enough in college to befriend a woman who had come back to school late. I was of regular college age, and she was in her mid-thirties. At the time, I was in a relationship with whom I thought was the love of my life and actually turned out to be a possessive, unstable psychopath. Luckily for me, not only did my older friend recognize this (because she’d been there before), but she found very gentle, tactful ways to help me see the light on my own, leave the relationship, and stay out of the relationship. That’s just one of the things I’ll be forever grateful to her for. All of my friends that were my age at the time thought my terrible boyfriend was just wonderful—but they were young, like me, and didn’t see through the BS, like I didn’t. I’ve since come to find so many beautiful benefits to having an older friend. Here is why you should befriend an older woman.

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They can advise you on your career

Do you take that position? Or will it just distract you from what you’re really passionate about? Should you take that cross-country job for six months? It will be a  hassle, but it could come with certain long-term perks. Your older friend can see the master plan better than you can. She’s literally a hundred steps ahead of you, so she can easily see 20 steps ahead of your standpoint.

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