How The Idea Of A Good Friend Changes As You Age
When I look back over my life, I can’t believe I made time for some of the people I made time for. And I mean real time. I went on week-long vacations with people I no longer speak to. I attended the weddings of individuals I’ve since had falling outs with. And I even, at certain points, have called people my best friends who today I’d be ashamed to associate with. But when you’re young, you don’t really evaluate the various layers of humans the way you do as you get older. You’ll tolerate a lot of pretty questionable behavior, so long as, when you are with those people, you feel excited and have fun. And feeling those things is amazing! But when there is a foundation of trust, acceptance, honesty, and shared values (not really things I thought about in my early twenties). Here is how friendships change as you get older.
They’ll do nothing at all with you
When you get older, friendships are about the person and not the activity. So you often just want to go to your buddy’s place with no plan at all, happy to see where the day takes you. You don’t feel like hanging on the couch is a waste of time.