“I Think Y’all Misunderstood”: Leslie Jones Says Don’t Get It Twisted, She Loves Herself
For the record, Leslie Jones wants you to know she loves herself. A lot.
The star shared her thoughts on the response people had to comments she made about feeling like she was going to “die alone” due to the way her dating situation had been. Jones was under the impression that people misinterpreted her statements to mean that she doesn’t love herself, but she said that’s far from the case.
“If there is anyone in the world who loves themselves that is me!” she wrote. “It was just a single woman complaining post. Thanks for the love but I think y’all misunderstood. Love everything about me just ready for a man to do the same.”
(Also for the record, Jones is gearing up to travel to Pyeongchang, South Korea for the Winter Olympics, hence the star-spangled ensemble.)
If you’ll recall, Jones had this to say about second-guessing her workout choices last week since the people she wanted to notice the results — men — weren’t paying attention.
“I feel like I’m doing it for nothing,” she said at the time. “I know it not [sic] I’m healthy and look good but I really feel like ‘what’s it all for’ if the people you want to notice don’t. I just feel like I might die alone.”
Soon after sharing her thoughts, Jones realized how far they’d spread online and the responses they were receiving, including from Meagan Good. She immediately tried to clear things up.
“Hey!! I want everyone to know I post my real feelings cause I am a real person!And I know I’m not alone,” she said. “I’m also 50 years old and know that life is life! And some days we are low! I know I’m loved by God !It’s important to respect your feelings as long as you don’t live there!”
And now, per the “I think y’all misunderstood” message she shared over the weekend, she’s distancing herself from the honesty she shared for fear that people might be pitying her. But from what we could tell, more people seemed to be relating to her comments than feeling sorry for her over them.
Truth be told, there’s nothing wrong with being vulnerable and having moments of insecurity. We all do. And as she put it, it’s a feeling you can respect as long as you don’t allow yourself to stay in it. But herein lies the problem with sharing these types of emotions on social media (and not with a good friend). When you do, and you get a stronger response than expected, you feel the need to retreat. To deny that people’s interpretation of what you said is, in fact, what you said. Give everyone the impression that you are too strong to think of yourself in a way that might make you come off as weak. But Leslie, there’s no shame in that.
As my friend put it, the best reaction to all of this would have been to drop some “#LetTheD–kHuntContinue #LovingOnMeBeforeAndAfterBae” hashtags and kept it moving. Show everybody what we all know. That from time to time, we all get lonely, but that doesn’t mean you’re alone. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love yourself. It doesn’t mean that there’s no hope for the future. Instead, it means that you acknowledged feelings, which you should. But the show must go on. The search for Mr. Right continues, as does the work to love on yourself in the meantime and after you find a partner. Again, there’s no shame in that.
We all get that Jones is a comedian. She’s known for self-deprecating humor at that. But she shouldn’t feel like she can’t be vulnerable when she truly has things to get off her chest. There was no need to try and tidy up her original comments or flee from the feels they created. They were real. She said what she said. She felt what she felt. And the outpouring of support received after such an admission wasn’t everyone pitying her. It was just encouragement. It’s a reminder that she’s not alone in her feelings and that she’s not only loved by a lot of people, but many of them can understand where she was coming from because they’ve been there. She might be a celebrity, but that doesn’t keep her from feeling and being like the rest of us. If you ask me, there’s no reason to be embarrassed about that. In fact, it’s something Leslie should have embraced — along with her feelings.