Dr. Simone Whitmore Of Married To Medicine Divorcing Husband Of 21 Years: “I Do Not Feel Loved”
It has to take something serious to make someone walk away from a marriage that’s lasted 21 years, and nothing is more serious than feeling unloved in your relationship. Dr. Simone Whitmore, an OBGYN on Bravo’s Married to Medicine, announced this week that she’s divorcing her husband, Cecil, 51, for that particular reason. She revealed this information to her co-stars while taping their Season 5 reunion, but ahead of taping, shared the news with PEOPLE that she filed back in October.
“There is no if here, there are no games. I am not pretending. I am done,” she said. “I have reached a place where I am in a marriage where I do not feel loved and no sacrifices are being made for me to make me feel loved. I must move on.”
“It looked like we were improving,” she said. “The problem is we should have continued counseling, and we did not. We let life take over. We were busy over the summer with basketball tournaments, traveling and getting Miles ready for college. We should have kept marital counseling as a priority, but we let the ball drop.”
“Cecil and I had a disagreement,” she said. “We were trying to talk through it — with sometimes tense, sometimes normal negotiations in process — and he woke up on Saturday morning, we had a blow-up. I knew that day that my marriage was over.”
“My marriage had ended,” she continued. “I could no longer deal with the stuff he was dishing.”
But despite all of that, she said that she and Cecil have managed to be “friendly” when they need to be around each other.
The 50-year-old is disappointed in the way things have turned out, but she doesn’t regret opening up her marriage to reality television and in turn, showing the reality of what she was dealing with and what so many other people are going through as well.
“I know Cecil and I look like a fun couple to everyone on the outside, but it takes more to make a marriage work,” she said. “One of the things I was most proud about on our show was the realistic portrayal of black love, with all of the married couples showing America the real ups and downs of raising families. And sadly … divorce is 50 percent in this country.”
Simone joins co-star co-star Dr. Jackie Walters in filing for divorce from a long-term marriage. Walters filed after finding out her husband was cheating, but she and Curtis Berry are still married. Simone, on the other hand, is pretty sure she’s ready to move on and open up a new chapter in her life.
“As a successful woman who truly loves herself, I will continue to make sure that I am empowering myself,” she continued. “Divorce is nothing that anyone should be feeling sorry for me, because I am looking forward to a new chapter, a new life, a new beginning. Life has so much to offer me. I have always been a go-getter and I am going to continue to be a go-getter and to strive for the very best that life has to offer.”