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For most of us, when our words have been misinterpreted, we do what we can to ensure that the misunderstanding is cleared up. And that means going back to the places where the words were misunderstood, speaking to the people who may have been confused.

But most of us aren’t on a reality show where it pays to be messy. Last week, we reported that Kim Zolciak Biermann said that Kandi propositioned her, sexually.

“On my kids’ lives, I hope God strikes me dead. I wouldn’t let her lick my box.”

Then Sheree said, “Don’t tell me she offered to lick your box.”

To which Kim responses by saying, “She just…” and then covering her face with a napkin. So you can see that it wouldn’t have been hard for Sheree to walk away with the impression that Kandi did indeed try to perform oral sex on her.

When the episode aired, Kandi tweeted.

This would have been the perfect time for Zolciak to set a couple of things straight. Instead, she tried to act like Kandi was the one lying.

But in a interview with Bravo, Zolciak sang a different tune.

I need to address this stuff with Kandi: Saying I wouldn’t let someone “lick my box” is totally and completely different than saying she TRIED! There have been points in my friendship with Kandi where there has been tension, disagreements, etc. and out of my knowledge about how open she is with her sex life, I jokingly said the tension might be from me not letting her lick my box. I never said the phrase, “I swear on my kids I wouldn’t let her lick my box.” Two different sentences said at two different times. All that being said, Kandi and I both know what has gone on during our entire friendship and for her to react the way she has was alarming to me and shows just how far the disconnect is after being gone so long. I had and do have a friendship with Kandi, and I have dealt with this the way friends should.

My final thoughts: To be called names and attacked puts someone in a very defensive position. My behavior is a direct reflection of that. We can circle back around to where these women have brought me down to their level of unhappiness, and I didn’t do a great job of keeping my energy in alignment with who I am as a person; however I am happy that I can take this opportunity to better myself and learn from this and continue to grow. Maybe some others should try this as well. It’s evident that their talks of “energy” and “positive energy” are just a “show” and a mockery of me, because their behavior reflects the direct opposite of that. It’s clear they have no idea what they are talking about in regards to the belief system which they keep referring to, by how they act and by what they say. Keep studying, ladies! For all my fans, I hope this shines some light on this situation.
Kim knows what she’s doing.

And it’s a hot mess.

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at She is also the author of “Bettah Days” and the creator of the website NoSugarNoCreamMag. You can follow her on Facebook and on Instagram and Twitter @VDubShrug.
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