The topics that people need to talk about the most are usually the ones people speak about the least. That’s the funny thing about life—we’re more than willing to ask for help in the easier areas, but can be secretive, proud, and just scared when it comes to opening up about the truly trying problems in life. Miscarriage is one of those. Women can feel shame around miscarriages, wondering if it is their fault—feeling like their home is marked with a scarlet letter. They can feel guilty that they didn’t produce a child for their partner. They can feel deeply sad that they lost a baby, and frightened that their body was capable of such a terrible thing. Women rarely talk about miscarriages when they have them. That isn’t surprising because it’s a very private matter. But if women discussed them more, then perhaps some of the after-effects wouldn’t come as such a shock. Here are things nobody tells you about having a miscarriage.
You’re scared to conceive again
You are very confused about your feelings towards pregnancy after a miscarriage. Part of you feels so indignant towards mother nature that you want to become pregnant again to prove her wrong—to show that you can do this. Another part of your is terrified that it will happen again.