In a perfect world, you could spend the holiday with your family, your partner, and your partner’s family. But each of your respective families has their own separate networks and groups of friends. They’re not going to uproot their holidays just so you can have everything you want. Plus, they probably each have a little pride around being the one who hosts the holiday meals and neither is willing to give it up. There are plenty of reasons that couples often have to spend the holidays apart (at least until they’re married—then people understand that they’ll be together). If you and your boo usually spend this festive time of year separate from each other, then you’re all too familiar with the feelings and experiences that come with that. Here is what it’s like spending the holidays separate from your partner.
To gift or not to gift?
You’re not entirely certain whether or not you should send his parents a gift. When you visit them, you bring a gift. But mailing a gift—as we all know—is a logistical nightmare.