“Married To Medicine” Tells The Most Honest Black Wives Tales
Dr. Jackie’s pending divorce from Curtis Berry as shown on “Married to Medicine” is sad. A friend of mine whose gone through this calls divorce a type of death. And for Dr. Jackie, I’m sure she would agree.
However, seeing her go through the motions of divorce is freeing for a Black woman like me. Seeing her weep, get frustrated, angry, and annoyed gives me more permission to feel all of my emotions. In other words, it’s OK for me to be all up in my feelings. Dr. Heavenly has encouraged Dr. Jackie to do more of this — express her feelings to other women (other women she trusts, of course) — and I couldn’t agree more. Who doesn’t need more images of women supporting one another with love?
Dr. Jackie does this with Dr. Simone, displaying a sistership that’s vital for every woman. How can a woman go through life without at least one good girl friend? If you’re reading this, and you don’t have one, then put that on today’s to-do list. Trusting at least one other woman is a good reflection on how much you trust yourself.
What Dr. Jackie is going through has created a vulnerability domino effect on a few of the other wives in her circle. They’re not only sharing their stories of marital hiccups, they’re expressing every emotion related to them. Quad decides to entrust Dr. Simone with some of her issues with her husband, Dr. G. She loves him, of course, but lately, she doesn’t feel appreciated.
In one scene, Dr. G asks her when she will return to his office to replace the air fresheners. Quad does a little head tilt and asks him who he thinks she is so, you know how that went. Quad has always presented herself to be the next iconic business woman. She is venturing out as an entrepreneur and she has branded herself well enough to make all of her dreams a reality. Over the years, she has exemplified the definition of a strong Black woman via her sharp tongue and business savvy. But she shows another side of strength when she cries on Dr. Simone’s shoulder, expressing what she thinks her husband expects her to do for him. She mentions having to take out the garbage and I lifted my eyebrows, as did Dr. Simone (metaphorically). If a woman has to lay her hands on the trash and she has a man that is alive and well in the home something is amisssssssss.
Dr. Simone and Cecil also seem to be on the edge of a divorce this season which is why they decide to get counseling. Simone opens up by telling the counselor that she can’t even get Cecil to say “I love you.” As hard as it was to watch her express herself in that moment, it was even more devastating when Cecil didn’t immediately respond by saying those three words which causes Dr. Simone to weep, of course. The stigma around counseling is eroding, but it’s still a slow erosion among some of the older Black Gen X-ers and Baby Boomers. Dr. Simone and Cecil are in one of those gens (I can’t tell which), but it’s nice to see them try that approach because it’s real.
While reality shows rarely show reality, “Married to Medicine” has succeeded since its first season in reflecting, in my opinion, the most honest Black wives’tales. While these wives have had shinier moments, it is refreshing to see the rainier ones, too. After all, no matter how much we accomplish we are human beings. We hurt, we struggle, we rise again, and I’m grateful this show shows that.