Last month, October is Miscarriage and Infant Loss Awareness month. Even though it’s an issue that affects one in four women, very few people speak openly about the experience and how it affects them. If women aren’t speaking out and sharing these types of stories, you know the men who endure this with them are not either.
Interestingly enough though the topic of losing a child came up during a sit-down conversation between Lance Gross and Omari Hardwick. Gross and Hardwick sat down for Gross’ series with Essence, “I Turn My Camera On.”
The two started the dialogue by talking about mental, physical and spiritual health.
During the conversation, Gross asked Hardwick if there was ever a time he felt like he had to put his career before someone else or his own well-being.
Hardwick spoke honestly.
“The sixth year of my working career as an actor, we were pregnant with my first child,” Omari revealed. “Filming [the movie] Dark Blue, lying to Kick Ass so that I could do both – and dealing with the baby sliding and not doing well. And the doctors letting us know, that if it were them, they would have aborted and we chose not to. Just riding that out for months in terms of like, not wanting to go to work and of course having somebody secure enough and strong enough at home to say, ‘No, you gotta go to work.’ And then it came to a place where we lost the baby. And ironically, the day that we delivered the baby, I was forced to work. It was the first moment, to me, where I was –this was a moment of anger at the industry.”
Hardwick’s admission caused Gross to open up about a similar experience in his career and marriage.
“I relate to you so much. You don’t know but we lost a child and I remember getting the call from my wife, I was in the middle of a scene, and I got the call from her and it did something. I felt like I should have been there.”
Omari chimed in.
“We learn how many people share those stories but nobody talks about them. That’s why it was a very good question you asked.”
Kudos to them. Hopefully, they’ll inspire more men to share these type of stories. You can watch the whole conversation between these two in the video below.