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Here at YourTango, we always love to come up with new ways to improve the health of our love lives. That’s why we’re always looking for ways to challenge ourselves, physically and mentally.

The Glam Media/Under Armour event we attended on Oct. 2 was the perfect opportunity to do just that! We attended a sweat-heavy exercise class, learned about Under Armour’s #WhatsBeautiful contest, and got outfitted in the latest gear by Under Armour, like our favorite, the pictured UA Spine RPM Running Shoe. These running shoes, according to the Under Armour folks, deliver “the sturdiness of a stability shoe with the weightlessness of a distance shoe” — so true! Finally, we got to enjoy delicious sushi.

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From YourTango

Your favorite daytime TV host is back! The Wendy Williams show premiered season four on September 10, so we got to sit down with Wendy who filled us in on what’s coming up! Season four includes a new studio, a ‘tweet and greet’ segment for Wendy to connect with fans, an embrace on many new topics and many more guests! Wendy has been called a “breakthrough in daytime” by The New York Times. Her show’s been renewed by Fox through 2014, and we could not be more excited. So, we wanted to hear all about it and all about what Wendy had to say about love, relationships, and of course —Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson.

1. What are you currently working on? Do you have any exciting news to share?

The new season has started. We’ve extended ‘hot topics,’ which our ‘Wendy Watchers’ love! Last Friday, we did our first round-table discussion, a wrap-up of the week’s topics. It was a little loud, a little messy, but that’s our show!

2. What’s your favorite romantic movie and love song?
Ahh, I’m not really a romance movie kind of girl! For me, it’s not about the movie, it’s about the scene. I like scenes with strong women, who pull up their boots and get back out there! As for love song, when they come on, I change the radio station!

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From YourTango

By Christan Marashio

Ladies, I’m going to give you some of the best dating advice you’ll ever hear. Free.

Stop asking your girlfriends for dating advice. Wait. I’ll amend that.

Be very careful which of your female friends you turn to in times of romantic distress.The problem with most of said advice and reinforcements is that it’s rarely objective. For example:

“You look GREAT!” – Thanks to social media, we have an endless supply of people who are happy to toss off this attaboy whenever we post a new Facebook photo. I can remember reading one such status update a few weeks ago. The woman had recently lost a fair amount of weight and, to her credit, it showed. The string of comments underneath her picture ranged from telling her how hot she was to how “skinny’ she was. As I perused the list of people commenting, I wasn’t surprised to see that there was nary a man in the bunch. The lesson for women here, when trying to determine what men find attractive, is to pay close attention to both who is offering affirmation, and who isn’t. You’ll rarely hear a woman say, “Sweetie, time for you to cut back on the booze. Your skin looks awful.” A man *will* say it…. in the form of a rejection, leaving the woman perplexed.

“You can do better.” – This statement is dangerous because it feeds the idea that we “deserve” a certain caliber of partner. It’s also misleading because, in many cases, water has sought its own level. Meaning the man our friend is dating is exactly what she prefers, consciously or unconsciously. Therefore, she possibly can’t do better. Due to all the self-flagellation that occurs when women get together, women sometimes develop an over-inflated or distorted perception of themselves. Also? If it’s true that we can do better, we should always remember that he probably thinks he can, too.

See what other ways your girls can lead you astray when it comes to dating on YourTango.com.

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By Amy Johnson

Do you fall in love with every man you meet? Does your enthusiasm have a way of ruining your relationships? Good news: you aren’t alone, and there is a solution to your problem.

Psychologist, relationship coach and YourTango Expert Dr. Amy Johnson explains “it’s really common for relationships — especially new relationships — to trigger our insecurities.” And one way insecurities manifest is through obsessions.

Check out Dr. Johnson’s advice for conquering that obsessive behavior on YourTango.com.

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From YourTango

By David Wygant

Women really over estimate who we are.

Let me explain.

The other day I saw this woman.

She grabbed her kid and she said, “God, I miss you so much and I love you!” and just kept kissing the kid. I noticed that she had no ring on her finger.

So I started talking to her and I said, “You know, that is so beautiful the way you are with your kid.”

“Thank you.”

“Single mom?”

“Yes.”

“Let me tell you: the next man you meet, to greet him like that every single time, and tell him you missed him and give him a big kiss and treat him just like he’s two, and you’ll keep a man forever and forever.”

Check out why David Wygant says treating a man like a child is the secret to maintaining a happy relationship on YourTango.com.

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From yourtango.com

By Dr. Tina Tessina

In my counseling practice, I see a lot of couples who don’t make it, usually because they’re not prepared, and their expectations are out of line with reality. However, there are various reasons why these unions don’t succeed.

Cupid, the god who represented love to the ancient Romans, was blind. In mythology, he’s been represented as a cherub; a perpetual baby, (which means someone without wisdom or judgement) who flies around zapping people with his arrows, throwing them helplessly into infatuation with whomever they happen to be with when the arrow strikes. This is a great metaphor for the sensation of “falling in love” instantly, otherwise known as limerance, lust, or “blind love.”

Unfortunately, lust doesnt last forever, and love isn’t blind forever. I’ve created a basic outline of some important ideas to help others begin their relationships on the right foot. Because I see so much of the damage caused by people while they’re blindly connecting, rushing through the stages of commitment and not creating the solid foundation a true relationship needs, I always welcome the chance to do pre-commitment counseling.

My job is to ask the tough questions that, in the excitement of a new romance, the couple may not have considered.

Look at the seven questions every couple should consider before moving in together or making joint financial commitments at your tango.com

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I’m sure you’ve heard many women talk about how they could never forgive a man for cheating on them and how the transgression is the ultimate no-no when it comes to what a woman should and shouldn’t stand for. That’s easy to stand by when you’ve just been dating a guy, but what about when you’re married?

Lisa Penn over at YourTango, a wife whose husband cheated in the past, says that while your emotions might be in a flurry, it’s imperative you don’t make any big, brash decisions so soon. From the kids you have, to the positive aspects of your relationship, there’s a lot to think about before you make the next big step.

To read the full list of don’ts and to get advice on how to move forward after such devastating news, go to YourTango.com.