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It’s All About Me! Are You a Selfish Person?

June 5th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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From YourTango.com

By Drs. Evelyn And Paul Moschetta

Healthy, happy relationships are based on caring, cooperation, and commitment. Your partner and relationship must be a top priority for you. Selfishness, or being overly concerned with just your needs, wants, and feelings prevents you from holding up your end of a mutually satisfying relationship.

Many people don’t recognize when they’re being selfish because they operate inside a bubble of me-first thoughts and beliefs. Putting yourself first becomes a habit. For example, with friends and colleagues, you look for opportunities to put yourself center stage. You spend very little time listening because your focus is on pulling attention back to you. Eventually this way of being pushes others away from you. In your intimate relationship, it creates hurt and resentment.

Here are six ways to tell that you’re selfish

Check them out at YourTango.com.

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Should You Google Your Date?

June 4th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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By Erika Ettin

In this day and age, almost everyone has an online footprint… even grandma. And whether through Google, LinkedIn, or Facebook, it’s easy enough to track someone’s entire life in 15 minutes or less. When it comes to dating, the temptation to search before a first date is strong. To Google or not to Google? That is the question.

When it comes down to it, it’s hard to resist the urge to Google or Facebook your date once you have his or her full name staring you in the face, yelling, “Search me! Search me!” I’m not going to tell you that you can’t look. (Who wouldn’t?) But no matter what you find, try your hardest not to create a firm impression of this person in your mind before you meet.

See what else this expert has to say at YourTango.com. 

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I Think We Need Therapy. How Do I Get My Husband to Go?

June 1st, 2012 - By madamenoire
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Source: healthymarriageinfo.org

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By Doctor Jack Singer

If your marriage is on the rocks, and your husband refuses to attend couples therapy with you, you’re probably completely frustrated. Fortunately, there is hope for your relationship.

In this video, licensed clinical psychologist and YourTango Expert Dr. Jack Singer explains what you should do when your marriage needs third-party assistance but your husband won’t cooperate.

“There is a twofold answer to this question,” says Dr. Jack. “Number one, we have to make sure that your husband really is committed to working on the relationship. He could be using the excuse of not wanting to go to a therapist as an excuse …”

See what this expert has to say at YourTango.com. 

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Adam Levine Is No Sex Addict, Just a Man Who Adores Women

May 31st, 2012 - By madamenoire
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In the June issue of Details magazine, Adam Levine admits that he’s led a promiscuous life, but claims he’s not a sex addict, according to Us Weekly.

“There’s two kinds of men: There are men who are f**king misogynist pigs, and then there are men who just really love women, who think they’re the most amazing people in the world. And that’s me,” Levine said. “Maybe the reason I was promiscuous, and wanted to sleep with a lot of them, is that I love them so much.”

The woman-loving singer has been linked to numerous female celebs, including Jessica Simpsonand Natalie Portman. According to him, the world has seen him as “a little bit of a bimbo” for a number of years because he’s always sleeping with some pretty girl or another.

But, he doesn’t want the world to think of him as a vapid sex addict because of that.

Read the rest of the story and find out why Adam has such great luck with the ladies at YourTango.com. 

 

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Why Did He Disappear After Our Third Date?

May 30th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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Source: Bossip.com

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By Julianne Cantarella

Let’s face it, dating can be discouraging … especially when the men you go out with all seem to disappear after two or three dates. Fortunately, help is on the way. In this video, dating coach, matchmaker and YourTango Expert Julianne Cantarella explains how to understand this all-too-common phenomenon.

“Please keep in mind,” says Julianne, “three dates does not a relationship make. Now, I know that you feel that you’ve invested yourself here, and you probably have, but keep in mind that he’s dating you and probably others as well. The tip here is that you should be dating more than one person, too.”

Wanna learn more? Check out the video at YourTango.com. 

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How Do I Learn to Argue Like an Adult and Not Like a Child?

May 29th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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By Crystal Andrus

Does fighting with your boyfriend or husband bring out the worst in you? When you get upset or angry, do you lash out like a rebellious teenager? Are you worried that you might eventually say or do something you will later regret? Good news: you’re not alone.

In this video, women’s advocate, founder of the SWAT Institute and YourTango Expert Crystal Andrus offers advice about how to keep your inner-teenager in check when fighting with your significant other.

“The truth is,” says Crystal, “every one of us has a wounded part of us that — when we’re in those stressful situations — often comes out.” So, what can you do about it? “What I recommend,” she advises, “is that you give your inner teenager a chance … give her an opportunity … let that 15-year-old write a letter to everybody who’s ever hurt her.” That way, you can confront your anger head on instead of taking it out on the one you love.

Want to learn more? Check out the video at YourTango.com.

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Is Sex Better When You’re on Vacation?

May 28th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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From YourTango.com

Memorial Day Weekend is upon us, ladies and gentlemen — ’tis the season to wear white jeans, indulge in a back yard barbeque and, of course, go on vacation.

Speaking of vacation, traveling can be quite the romantic experience. Sure, there is likely plenty of nagging, awkward sunburns and uncomfortable TSA frisking associated with getaways, but there’s lots of sex involved, too, say the survey aficionados at Zoosk. They picked the brains of 1,500 Americans for their thoughts on travel, romance and — of course — sex.

Zoosk found that 69 percent of men and 72 percent of women think having sex while on vacation is better than doing it at home. Is sun and sand the reason we’re so turned on while at the beach? Or, perhaps, the musty smell of a muggy hotel room in the Caribbean? Sadly, those questions aren’t answered, but there’s plenty to learn about the best — and worst — of couples vacations.

Find out the pros and cons of vacation sex at YourTango.com. 

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Would You Let Your Mother Choose Your Husband?

May 25th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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From YourTango.com

My mother chose my husband. Thirty years later, I chose my daughter’s husband. No, these were not arranged marriages. They were simply the influences of a mother upon her daughter’s choice for a mate.

I met my husband, Terry, in seventh grade, and we started to “go steady” in eighth grade. His family moved down the road from my house while we were in high school so he became a regular visitor at my home. We were the typical all-American high school couple. He was an athlete; I was a cheerleader. He was blonde, blue-eyed, and always wore a smile. My mother came to adore him. She always greeted him warmly and made his favorite foods when he came to dinner.

Through the course of our high school years, Terry and I did, however, have our share of break-ups. We dated other people, but always remained friends. My mother never cared about the other boys I dated. She would hide behind the newspaper, or go to another room if my date came into the house. (Thankfully, my dad was more congenial.) I think my mom felt a sense of betrayal to Terry if she accepted or even acknowledged the other boys I dated. It was her quiet, yet potent way of communicating that Terry was the right guy for me. And she was right.

My mother was one wise lady. She knew intuitively that sweetheart of a boy would turn out to be a wonderful husband and father. She was able to see qualities in Terry that I, as a teenager, may have missed or taken for granted. Terry was kind, thoughtful and sincere. Most of all, he truly loved me and my family.

Mom passed away when our twins (Beth and Ben) were almost five years old. Terry and I had been married 12 years at that point. She knew that, as a couple, Terry and I had experienced some highs and lows, but she was able to see us prevail and conquer. Her greatest joys in life were her children, then her grandchildren.

Mom did not get to see her lovely granddaughter grow up, yet her guiding presence was still among us years later. I believe that it was her wisdom guiding me when my daughter, Beth, entered that serious stage of dating in college—but I’ll let her tell you about it.

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25 Strange Places to Have Sex…Not That That Should Stop You

May 24th, 2012 - By madamenoire
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Source: Your Tango.com

From YourTango.com

Many people fantasize about having sex in unusual places, but few of us act on this fantasy for fear of getting caught or, worse, sand in our pants. In a recent poll of 1,300 people sponsored by Astroglide we asked, “What is the weirdest place you’ve had sex?” And boy, did we get some interesting responses. We were surprised by many of the answers and we think you will be too!

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‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ What’s All The Hype About?

May 23rd, 2012 - By madamenoire
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Source: YourTango.com

From YourTango.com 

This becomes a vicious cycle, completely emotionally exhausting. Over time, it looks like love addiction. Unable to bond in a healthy way, this couple bonds in an addictive way; I can’t live with you and I can’t live without you.

The draw to this kind of guy is powerful for women who are trying to heal their own childhood wounds. Deep down, she wants to bring him out of the darkness of his wounded soul, draw him into the light and heal him. By so doing, she proves something to herself — that she is special and worthy of the attention, love and desires of this compelling man. There’s just one tiny problem: it doesn’t work.

Contrary to fantasy fiction, you cannot heal the wounded guy with love. He needs several swift emotional kicks in the butt. He needs loads of “tough love,” not the “sweet, I-adore-you” kind of love you want to give him. His healing cannot come from you being his Mommy, the one he didn’t have before.

He needs to hit rock bottom and experience a dramatic loss before he can begin to heal. The pain of doing what he’s always done has to be greater than the pain of change. Because his wounds have compelled him to do so much damage, he needs to experience remorse. There are other steps, but they are best taken in a therapeutic setting, not in the course of a relationship. Big clue: most of them never do heal because they don’t allow themselves to be vulnerable enough to be hurt enough to have to change.

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