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There’s nothing quite as sweet as your first crush. The stolen glances, innocent fantasies and awkward interactions all made for such an enchanting, unforgettable experience. We asked our Facebook followers whether or not they remembered their first crushes. See what they had to say. 

Angel: Something I had on him. 2nd-6th grade. I always crush on the same person for years. Lol. Every valentines day I would give him a v day card when the whole grade exchanged them. He saw me putting one in his box in the 5th grade and got mad and that hurt my feelings but now he is ugly so it’s all good. lol

Chelsea: my first crush was a friend lol turned into a lover then turned back into friendship lol

LaToya: my middle school math and science teacher. oooh he was so fine. lol

Myesha: Yes Kindergarten. I was infatuated. In my mind, he was Usher. He liked me too but it was around that time that all the girls had “cooties” so he denied it. One time we sat on the couch together watching “All That” on Nickelodeon sharing an orange soda…I kept this crush until the 3rd grade. I had a diary where I wrote all about him. I left it at my grandmother’s house and my Aunt read it and told him. He was embarrassed and would never talk to me again. I was devastated and pissed off at my Aunt! Lol I later developed a crush on his much more attractive, older brother who was a substitute teacher at my school one time Lol

Veronica: My first crush was in PRESCHOOL!!! lol we used to play house (the rated g version) and i thought he was the cutest kid… My mom said he wasn’t as cute as i made him seem but he was sweet and really goofy.lol.

Davina: OMG this question takes me back, lol. My first crush was on this boy named Ronald. I was in kindergarten or first grade. He was in my class and he used to make me jewelry in art class and buy me notebooks with kittens on them (cuz I love cats). We went on a field trip to the museum and my mom was one of the parent chaperones. Some boys were teasing Ronald about liking me and instead of denying it he got up and rapped “I Need Love” by LL Cool J to me in front of the whole bus. LOL. I remember thinking it was so sweet and smiling this cheesy grin. When he got done my friend was like, “You know since he did that in front of the whole class that means he is your boyfriend now.” My mom said it took everything in her not to laugh out loud because he was so serious. So after that he was my boyfriend which meant he had to sit next to me and play with me at recess. LOL. Ah young love, how innocent. I heard he is in jail now so…yeah.

Trellony: Yes my 1st crush luckingly had a crush on me too. We was on the same track team in 7th-9th grade. He waa my 1st kiss had the same bday & was so fine..lol we were a young version of mike epps & tyra banks from thr movie higher learning. Unfortunately, while we dated he died if a brain tumor at age 17. that was my 1st crush & 1st death of a person I truly loved..

Nakina: Hell yeah I remember his bum A$$! Ughh (chills*)… I loved that boy hard, and I mean hard!! I remember it like it was yesterday- 5th grade….. Aaah memories!!! Lol!! Tho he never liked me:-/lol!!

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Miley Cyrus may not be old enough to drink, but she’s certainly exercising her legal right to get married. The 19-year-old starlet recently announced her engagement to her boyfriend of three years,  actor Liam Hemsworth, who is only a few years older at 22.

So what was the first reaction here at Madame Noire? Shock, of course.

Then, personally, I wondered if they’re going in with the expectations of divorce. Besides the fact that they both work in an industry mired with temptations and distractions (and which has definitely added to the high divorce rate of Hollywood), they’re both extremely young. I can’t believe that Hemsworth has gotten everything out of his system at the age of 22. I’m less worried about Cyrus’ fidelity as I am with Hemsworth’s ability to remain faithful without having the chance to experience his “boys will be boys” phase.

Sure, three years is a solid period of time for a relationship but I am doubtful that it suffices when the two in the relationship are both under 24. They’re both in a period of their lives which is ripe for change. When I was Cyrus’ age, I was in my second year of college. I was unsure about my career path, my notions about love, and was yet to fully appreciate my place in the world. In other words, I was changing a lot. I know that everyone “feels ready” at different points in their lives but I doubt most people are ready by 19 to embark on a successful, life-long commitment.

How old were you when you felt ready to take the plunge? 

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Baggy clothes, a bad boy attitude, and possibly a job that didn’t require the filing of taxes were the characteristics of some (not all) of the guys I dated years ago. In my defense, I was a young high school/college girl who didn’t fully understand that bad boys come with lots of unwanted trouble. Okay, well maybe I understood this, but I didn’t understand that this trouble would eventually become more of a headache than an admirable situation as I finally matured; and that bad boy image that was once highly desirable to me would soon seem ridiculous. While dating bad boys was a phase for me, it’s become a standard requirement for some women who won’t budge for the nice suit-and-tie guy who also happens to be a law abiding citizen.

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We really do enjoy communicating with our Facebook and Twitter (@MadameNoire) followers. We know we can always count on you guys and gals for a laugh (or an argument). So when we came up with this idea of things we’d like to say to our first loves, we figured you ladies would be the best people to ask. Check out some of the more entertaining responses below:

Mika: I’ll tell him I’ll always hold a space in my heart for him because I REALLY LOVE him!!!

Mommy Needs Alcohol: Can you bring some baby wipes when you come home we’re low

April: Aren’t you glad you married me?! lol…

Want to know something that terrifies me? The fact that I actually used to think I was in love with some of my past boyfriends. Today, having seen what’s out there—and that it gets so much better—it terrifies me to think that I was going to accept feeling the way those exes made me feel, simply because I didn’t know that there were men who could make me feel so much better. The point is, we’re constantly changing, and there is a very sharp changing and learning curve in our late teens and pretty much all of our twenties. But, it’s a curve you have to ride if you want any shot at finding your Mr. Forever. Why? Because you have to wait until the person that you are going to be, basically forever, has set in. You have to wait until you’ve developed the traits, standards and ideologies you’ll be keeping for a while. And that just hasn’t happened yet when you’re barely in your mid 20’s.

So here’s what can happen if you marry too young…

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