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In our exclusive interview with Jim Jones and Chrissy Lampkin, the couple answered all of those questions we’ve been dying to know. Chrissy talked about adjusting to having Jim’s son Pootie in their home. Jim’s body posture, which was practically horizontal thoughout the entire interview, changed drastically when she started talking about his son. The two talked about what’s going on with Mama Jones and even when they plan to get married and if they want children. Things only got a little rough when the subject of Yandy came up. Take a look at them in the video above.
And if you can’t get enough of Jimmy and Chrissy, catch them tonight on Vh1 for the season 2 premiere of “Chrissy and Mr. Jones,” which airs at 9/8c.
Let’s be honest, do we really ever know what people want in relationships? Sometimes I just feel so confused. You have some people who hate drama, and others who gravitate to it. Some people like those who are head strong, and others who like those who are submissive. The problem is, that when some people get what they feel like they want, they don’t want it anymore. Hanging with my guy friends I would always hear what they wanted from a girl, but when they got it, they would complain that she was “too much” of it. Really, dudes?
The one thing that seemed to be a constant would be that guys disliked high maintenance girls. There seemed to be ultra prissy girls that wouldn’t eat food in front of men, and the ones who were just too much. Nothing was ever good enough, and they sought to change the man that they dated. To be honest, I’ve never met these women, they more so seemed like the over the top stereotypes that only resided in movies and dating urban legends, but to some men, not only did these women exist, they have stories, examples, parables of these women. So, I figured that as long as I was low maintenance I could be successful in relationships. That wasn’t a hard thing to do, because I’m low maintenance period, like a Toyota. I don’t like to argue, I stay away from drama, and if you’re exuding bad vibes I’ll avoid you (while also being cordial).
So when I started dating and being in relationships, I tried to be Super-Kendra. I would be attentive to him, but if anything bothered me and I wanted to address it, I would suppress the urge to talk about it. My mind would immediately ask: ”Is this fight really necessary? What do you hope to get out this? Are you reading too much into this?” So, I would try to pick and choose my arguments wisely. But it would sometimes seem that when I would finally speak up, the dudes I was with would play the: “Man, I thought you were different. This is some high maintenance type stuff. …You whining right now…” So, I would stop the addressing, that had apparently turned into complaining, and see the men I was involved with get this entitled smirk on their faces as if they got me to stop talking. Like they knew something that I didn’t.
The truth was, they did know something that I didn’t. I had gone from being low maintenance to being a doormat, and they reveled in that. There was no need for them to be the best boyfriends that they could be, because I would just handle all of their foolishness. But you can’t deal with something like that and be ignorant to your feelings for too long. After a while, I stopped feeling like a Toyota and began to feel like a Pinto.
Now, I know that you all have seen and discussed these people to death, but remember, all of this is new to me. In that episode of Love and Hip Hop New York where Mendeecees gave that informal suggestion of “we should go and get married,” and Yandy’s response was shock with a: ”Is that supposed to be your proposal?!” I became inspired. Now, she loved Mendeecees, but she knew she deserved more than that suggestion of marriage over a dinner table. The same way I felt like I should have realized that over the proposal that came over a text message (which my immediate reaction to the message was: ”Are you drunk?” Yep, should have seen that that wasn’t on a good path to eternal happiness).
So my message to you ladies is that at the end of the day, whether you’re high maintenance, low maintenance, or any other maintenance, you have to find someone who is going to love you. Not someone who’s going to give you the bre minimum and then get mad when you express yourself about it. You are amazing, and if you’re an Escalade, CR-V, Lexus, BMW, whatever, just make sure that you know your worth and never let anyone make your value depreciate.
Kendra Koger is feeling like a Ford Mustang right now. How are you driving? Let’s discuss it on twitter @kkoger.
So who else partook in the foolery of last night’s Love and Hip Hop reunion (part I)? Don’t make us think we were the only ones! It was definitely the definition of messy. People’s incarcerated fiancés were having their private parts joked about, lie detector tests were administered, Olivia and Erica had a one-sided sing-off to determine who really needs to have the boring song “Where Do I Go From Here,” and Mona Scott-Young tried to prove she could be a good moderator by yelling at her employees like children. All in all, it was an entertaining hour to say the least. Here are a few things we took away from the 60 minutes of ratch — and if this isn’t enough, head here.
Two weeks ago, we gave you all an exclusive on the fight that went down between Rashidah Ali and Raqi during the “Love & Hip-Hop” reunion taping in New York, and from the sounds of things there may be some unfinished business. Rashidah stopped by MadameNoire’s office to send a little message to Raqi, post-brawl, and she also gave her two cents on the likelihood of Yandy and Mendeecees’ relationship lasting — not much — as well as Joe and Tahiry’s. And she even told us a few details about her boo and their upcoming nuptials. Check out the interview now.
If you were wondering when Love & Hip Hop Atlanta was coming back on air, it’s April 22nd. And after watching almost a full season of Love & Hip Hop New York I’m sure you were wondering, because this installment of the show, with a whole host of new faces, is just not hitting the spot for a lot of people. And that’s evident by the ratings that are coming in these days.
According to Shadow And Act, the series has brought in some of the lowest views of the L&HH shows in New York (this is the third season in NY by the way) and of course, it can’t compete with the Atlanta version that had no trouble pulling in more than three million viewers during its run last year. According to S&A, the very last episode of L&HHNY, which included a proposal from Mendeecees to Yandy, and the admission from Rich Dollaz’s ex that she had been messing with crazy Erica on the low-low, sexually that is, barely pulled in more than 1 million viewers. So what’s the problem?
If you ask a lot of folks around here, we’d say that the storyline is reaching a tad bit. If we’re not watching Jen The Pen cry about everything with Consequence, we’re watching Tahiry and Joe Budden do the same song and dance, pretending like they don’t love each other when they do even though he has a girlfriend (who we assume just likes being along for the ride), and who isn’t sick of watching Erica Mena act the fool in every situation? Hard as they may try, the drama with these folks is a bit extreme but still isn’t all that interesting compared to the simple yet ratchet love triangles in Atlanta, marital strife caused by career aspirations, relationships moving too fast, relationships gone sour…and K. Michelle. This dip in ratings shouldn’t be something Mona Scott-Young worries about though, because it will probably just make those who follow the Atlanta installment all the more ready to tune in come April. But as for this one here in NY, if Chrissy and Jim and Emily B aren’t involved, it’s just not the same. NEXT!
Why do you think ratings have dipped? Are people not feeling the cast? The storylines? Are they just tired of this show altogether?
If Raqi isn’t your favorite person on “Love & Hip-Hop,” she should’ve at least earned one point for asking a very legitimate question of Jen the Pen when it comes to raising her son as a Muslim: “You Guys Didn’t Think About This Before You Had A Baby?”
That actually is the appropriate question for a lot of things that were said on last night’s episode, whether the parents were Jen and Consequence or Yandy and Mendeeces. Check out our recap to see what all went down in Episode 4.
Reckless Reality Wrap-Up, LHH Episode 3: Is Yandy Really About To Marry A Man Still Liking Pics Of Underage Chicks On Instagram?
Last night’s episode of Love & Hip-Hop NY was a ball of couple confusion. Yandy has always presented herself as a woman about her business but it’s clear she doesn’t use quite as much discretion when it comes to picking her boos. Between claiming Mendeeces was the “perfect man” when they met, to blowing a gasket over him still liking pics of chicks on Instagram — and then saying she wants to see where their relationship goes before they get a place together, all we could think was (1) isn’t he on his way to jail?, and (2) shouldn’t you have thought about this before you had a child together?
Ah well, guess that’s how this goes in the cliche world of Love & Hip-Hop. Check out this wrap-up to see what all went down last night.
LOVE & HIP-HOP ATLANTA GETS HOT
“Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta” has become one of the highest rated shows on VH1 because of all the ratchet ish that went down between the cast members. Steevie J, Joseline, and Mimi made this show what it is because of their confusing love triangle and some of the most unbelievable things happened right before our eyes that had nothing to do with love or hip-hop, just a group of people acting like they ain’t never been nowhere in front of the cameras. After watching just one episode, I can truly say I know how the saying “Where they do that at” came about. Welcome to Atlanta. Let’s do a quick recap to show you some of the craziest things that went down:
Love & Hip-Hop Is More Disturbing Than We Knew: Mandeeces Facing Trial For Sexual Assault On A 15-Year-Old
Every reality TV star has some skeletons in the closet that are bound to come out once the cameras start rolling, but some skeletons are far worse than others. Case in point: disturbing news that has just surfaced about the father of “Love & Hip-Hop” star Yandy Smith’s baby and her rumored fiance, Mandeeces Harris.
It appears Mandeeces is awaiting trial after being accused of having inappropriate sexual conduct with a 15-year-old girl in Lodi, New Jersey two years ago. The 34-year-old who now appears alongside Yandy on LHH is charged with performing various sexual acts with the girl and inappropriately touching her at his former home there.
According to North Jersey’s The Report:
Bergen County prosecutors allege that Harris asked for and received oral from the girl and fondled her on various occasions between September 2009 and April 2010. He was arrested later that year and charged with aggravated sexual assault, criminal sexual contact and child endangerment. If convicted, he faces up to 20 years in prison.
Mandeeces is free without bail which is why he has time to appear on Love & Hip-Hop, but on Wednesday the jury was selected for his trial in Hackensack and opening remarks are expected to begin January 29.
Since it took me a little while to put these pieces together in my mind, let me lay out some background details for you. Yandy and Mandeeces have been together off-and-on for six years which means he caught this case while they at least knew each other. Whether they were on at the time is currently unknown, but it’s surprising that she would have a child with this man while these serious legal allegations are flying around, let alone bring him on the show with her, and furthermore, seemingly get engaged to him.
Even more disturbing is the rumor floating around that the 15-year-old girl in question is the daughter of a woman Mandeeces has another son by. Sure this girl isn’t his biological child but the creep factor there cannot be denied. This also makes his and Yandy’s relationship seem super suspect. How long were they off to be having a child with someone else and racking up this kind of charge? Still, this situation also raises the question of whether there’s potential here for bitter baby mama strife and Mandeeces is innocent. I can’t fathom any other explanation for why a man who has remained behind the scenes this long would suddenly step in front of the cameras with all of this going on. I’m also curious whether Mona Sott-Young knows about this. Yandy, girl, good luck.
Last night, VH1 and Mona Scott-Young held a premiere screening of “Love & Hip-Hop New York” and we were there to catch all the ratchetness as it unfolded. I wish I could say some of the things we witnessed was just for the cameras but it wasn’t — most times they weren’t even rolling. That means what you see of these people when the third season premieres Monday night at 8pm is absolutely who they are in real-life — skin-tight dresses, drunken slurs, ragged weaves, stank attitudes and all. Though next week we’ll show you all our exclusive one-on-one chats with the cast members, we couldn’t wait to bust out the classic moments and insider info we peeped last night. Oh and here’s the super trailer in case you need a debriefing before you dig in. Happy ratchetry!