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“Leave your work at the office.” Easier said than done, right? You’re supposed to mentally leave the place and people and activities you’re surrounded by for eight to 10 hours every day? That’s impossible. However, if you don’t strike up some work-life balance you could lose your relationship and your mind. Here are work-life balance mistakes every couple makes.
Male employees may seem like the “ideal” workers in corporate America, but the truth is that just know how to play dirty. Women, on the other hand, are not coming out on top because they just don’t know how to work the system, Salon reports.
A new study surveyed 115 employees in a high-end consulting firm, all of them slammed with stressful demands including around-the-clock availability and long hours. But while both men and women found the work culture taxing, the gentlemen coped with the demands in a slightly more cunning manner in comparison to the ladies.
“…Many men at the firm fudged the numbers to make it seem like they were working more hours than they really were. They also used their professional relationships to schedule meetings at convenient hours and benefited from coverage provided by their colleagues,” Salon wrote.
Women faced the same challenges, but did not finagle their way through the system. Women were more likely to file for official, rather than informal, requests for flexible hours and other accommodations. As a result, women received poorer performance reviews and were marginalized in the company.
Even though men worked relatively the same hours as their female counterparts, they made it seem like they put in a lot more time on the job by fibbing the hours they spent on the clock. In this way, “men were able to make time for work, family and leisure while still living up to the ‘ideal worker image,’ Salon said.
“..Many men found unobtrusive, under-the-radar ways to alter the structure of their work (such as cultivating mostly local clients, or building alliances with other colleagues), such that they could work predictable schedules in the 50 to 60 hour range,” lead investigator Harry Reid, professor at Boston University’s Questrom School of Business, wrote. “In doing so, they were able to work far less than those who fully devoted themselves to work, and had greater control over when and where those hours were worked, yet were able to ‘pass’ as ideal workers, evading penalties for their noncompliance.”
Women, on the other hand, made their demands overtly, which nibbled away at their perceived performance on the job.
So yes, women can “have it all.” She can be an outstanding employee and mother, but she’d have to excel in office politics to compete with her male counterparts.
Maybe it’s the paltry pay, a finicky boss, or ridiculously long work hours — whatever it is, every employee has a boiling point. According to a new survey, the No. 1 vexation among co-workers worldwide that would drive most of us to yell, “I quit!”… and that’s minimal wage growth, CNN Money reports.
The survey, conducted by EY, surveyed about 10,000 employees in eight of the world’s largest economies including the United States, Brazil, Mexico, India, Japan, and China.
After stagnating salaries, a lack of advancement opportunities came in second place for quit-worthy factors. According to a 2014 LinkedIn survey, slim opportunities for advancement was the No.1 reason why workers left their jobs in the U.S., The Washington Post said.
Other reasons for throwing in the towel include work environments that do not foster teamwork (71 percent); bosses who do not allow flexibility on when and where their employees work, such as telecommuting (65 percent); and offices that punish their workers for opting for more flexible schedules (67 percent).
CNN Money points to a term called “flexibility stigma” — workplaces that say they offer easygoing schedules for employees, but really, they would rather you not. These workplaces create a fear culture where employees are too afraid to take on more flexible schedules. “For instance, they worry they could be penalized by being passed over for promotion, not getting a raise or worse,” CNN Money added.
Another pain in the rear for employees is a high demand for overnight business travel — 62 percent would quit in a minute.
Most interestingly, CNN Money adds, more than half would jump ship if their co-workers didn’t share the same life hassles as they did.
“They would leave a job if there…are too few senior managers who are juggling busy family lives — e.g., those who have kids or those who have kids and a spouse who also works.”
Just last week, we reported on a separate survey that found respect was most important to workers. However, respect also comes in the form of financial reward. Paying a competitive salary shows that workers are appreciated and their work, valued.
Can you relate to any of these leading factors for quitting?
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Everyone knows that being a mom is a full-time job. It doesn’t matter if you have one child, or an entire village of children, you are always on the clock nurturing and providing for your family. With having so much on our plates at all times, it’s always so refreshing to reward ourselves with a night on the town. Whether we’re hanging out with our mate, our besties and even solo…a mommy’s night out is extremely important!
An evening of adult fun is something that every mom looks forward to. Of course, we love the entertainment and joy of our little ones, but there’s just something about being able to conduct a conversation that doesn’t include Elmo and Elsa (lol). Pick a date, book a babysitter and plan to let your hair down…literally. Here are 7 reasons why having mommy’s night out is so important.
A Mental Break
The sounds of “Mommy…Mom…Ma” being put on mute for just a few hours will feel like a mini-mental vacation. After a week’s long task of thinking for yourself and for the rest of your household, this downtime of relaxation and fun can put your brain at ease for the time being. This not so quiet “quiet time”, will definitely be music to your ears!
Quality time is vital in any relationship. With your mate, it’s always important to continue to date each other. With your focus being solely on raising your children, taking a few nights to spend with each other alone can be very beneficial to your partnership. Spending quality time with your very own mom is a great idea as well. Instead of asking her to babysit for your night out, let her know how much you appreciate her and that she’s your date tonight!
Get Dressed Up
After days of loungewear and mommy mode attire, it’s time to hit your closet for a personal makeover! It’s such a great feeling to be able to wear those pieces from your closet that you daydream about daily. Glide on your favorite lipstick, spray your favorite perfume and get your evening started. You deserve it!
Mommy’s night out can be an innovative way to explore and try new activities. The same routine can become boring and uninteresting. Enjoying different activities results in feeling refreshed and energetic. With our time away from our children, every moment that we have should be used wisely!
Being able to unplug from our electronics, with just a few glances at our phone to be sure that the babysitter isn’t calling, is such a relaxing feeling. Here’s our chance to shift our focus onto great conversation and fun. This time away from work, kids and responsibilities may not happen often, enjoy it while it lasts!
There are a few pleasantries that we may not get to enjoy often, but during our time out, we can indulge in a few of them. Whether it’s a cocktail (or two), sweet desserts or even your favorite genre of music blasting from your car speakers, it’s so refreshing to treat yourself!
Giving yourself this one night to luxuriate in your very own time with friends and partners, can recharge your battery for another few weeks of mommy mode. As moms, we don’t ask for much which is why we appreciate the simplicity of just having a few hours with “mommy mode” on standby.
Mia Ray is a fashion blogger, fab mom of two and mompreneur. Ray is in her fifth year of running the successful Confessions Of A Glam-Aholic. Ray serves her fashion savvy and contagious can-do attitude!
Cosmopolitan reports, researchers Sarah Thébaud and David S. Pedulla reveal in their new study that more women would actively “lean in” their careers if they were afforded flexible scheduling, parental leave and subsidized health care. By using the term “lean in” (coined by Facebook’s Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg ) women would be striving to acquire senior level positions in their workplace, however, the Thébaud and Pedulla’s study shows women between the ages of 18 and 32 believe their work and life balance would have to be an ideal utopia before that can happen.
Sixty-five percent of the women who participated in the study were completing their undergraduate studies or had college degrees. They all desired egalitarian relationships, though 30 percent of women did not crave balanced relationships with their partner unless their workplace policies improved. During an interview with Cosmopolitan, Thébaud stated:
“Basically [the study shows] that if we were to have broader, wider access to these kinds of policies, we would see more and more women taking up a greater share of employment and men taking up a greater share of caregiving. Now, on average, we still see men as the ones who are primarily responsible for earning income, but if these workplace policies were in place, men would help with caregiving and that would help women lean in to their careers more. That would enable everyone to have what the majority of people want, which is egalitarian relationships.”
After President Obama’s State Of The Union address, many women can look forward to paid and sick family leave as a benefit in the upcoming years. The President noted in his speech:
“In today’s economy, when having both parents in the workforce is an economic necessity for many families, we need affordable, high-quality childcare more than ever. It’s not a nice-to-have — it’s a must-have. It’s time we stop treating childcare as a side issue, or a women’s issue, and treat it like the national economic priority that it is for all of us. And that’s why my plan will make quality childcare more available, and more affordable, for every middle-class and low-income family with young children in America — by creating more slots and a new tax cut of up to $3,000 per child, per year.”
By having more affordable childcare, mothers can focus on their relationships with their partners, strive to take more career opportunities and create the balance they deserve in.
At some point all of your late nights in the office and bringing work home is going to catch up with you. You need to slow your roll before you get bulldozed into days of strife and stress. If you find this nightmare to be your reality, you are not alone. There are plenty of us out there who do our best to control our demands at work with our home, but can’t seem to keep it all together.
Something has to give.
We’ve got some tips on ways to balance your work and personal life that will hopefully give you some much needed peace.
As much as we all want to do everything possible to make it big in our profession, something has to give. Maybe it will be the hobby you’ve been dying to try or sleep or time with friends. Unfortunately, relationships oftentimes fall into this category. Can we really have it all? Here are some pointers on how to balance your career and love life.
While holidays usually mean time to unwind and unplug away from the office, for some, the work still goes on. We’ve all had to play the balancing act during the holidays: trying to relax with family and friends or on vacation while keeping up with the duties of work, which seem to never take a break.
From urgent work emails to important projects that wrestle for your attention, you may find it difficult to balance your work with play. Get the rest and relaxation you need during your time off without missing a beat at the office with these tips to keep you focused and balanced.
Indra Nooyi, CEO of PepsiCo, juggles motherhood, a 34-year marriage, and an executive position at a global brand giant. Of course, Nooyi is often asked, “How do you do it?!” The short answer, according to Mashable, is that she doesn’t — something’s gotta give.
“I don’t think women can have it all. I just don’t think so,” she said at the Aspen Ideas Festival on Monday. Keepin’ it real, Nooyi — a mother of two daughters — adds, “We pretend we have it all.” Nooyi reveals that at least one role each day must be sacrificed, whether its being a mother, a wife, or an at-hand CEO.
“…[T]he biological clock and the career clock are in total conflict with each other. Total, complete conflict. When you have to have kids, you have to build your career. Just as you’re rising to middle management, your kids need you because they’re teenagers, they need you for the teenage years,” she said.
Nooyi often experiences regret because she cannot always be present for her kids.”If you ask our daughters, I’m not sure they will say that I’ve been a good mom,” she candidly said. Missing morning coffee at her daughter’s Catholic school, for example, is one of the mother-daughter bonding moments that she must forfeit:
My daughter would come home and she would list off all the mothers that were there and say, “You were not there, mom.”
The first few times, I would die with guilt. But I developed coping mechanisms. I called the school and I said, “Give me a list of mothers that are not there.” So when she came home in the evening she said, “You were not there, you were not there.”
And I said, “Ah ha, Mrs. Redd wasn’t there, Mrs. So-and-so wasn’t there. So I’m not the only bad mother.”
Nooyi says that there are, however, a few tactics that she uses to alleviate her mommy duties. Since she travels frequently, Nooyi said that she’d train her staff to act as the interim parent while she’s away. When her daughter Tyra was young, for example, she’d often call the office and ask if she can play Nintendo. Trained by Nooyi, the secretary would ask the little girl a series of questions such as “Did you finish your homework?” before granting Tyra permission to play video games for only 30 minutes.
“Being a CEO for a company is three full time jobs rolled into one,” Nooyi concludes. “How can you do justice to all? You can’t.”
Usually during their morning commute, some people are counting down to the hours where they will be able to leave work and head back home.those “fun-filled” after work activities might not be so fun.
Pennsylvania State University (PSU) research finds people are more stressed at home than at work. Forbes shares, PSU researched 122 people for their study, swabbing their cheek three times a day to measure cortisol levels. Coritsol is a stress hormone and rises when people find themselves in stressful situations. PSU also asked their participants to rate their moods at work and home.
“The surprising finding was that people’s cortisol levels were much lower when they were at work than when they were at home. And this difference seemed to span all socioeconomic statuses. When it came to people’s own perceptions, there was an interesting gender gap: Men said they were happier at home than at work, but women reported being happier at work. This may be partly due to the fact that, although it’s evened out a bit in recent years, there’s still somewhat of an imbalance in household responsibilities.”
The university also concluded, work has become therapeutic because people know exactly what they have to do and their tasks are more team-oriented. Despite constantly relaying frustrations about work, other studies have noted full-time work betters a person’s mental and physical states.
The Washington Post reports sociologist Sarah Damaske theory on this study; Damaske notes mothers are not becoming workaholics because their home life is stressful. She claims the multitasking that comes with home and personal lives, make people excessively exhausted. “I don’t think it’s that home is stressful. When you’re home on Saturday, you’re not working. You go to the park, catch up on laundry. The day goes at a slower pace. I think it’s the combination of the two, work and home, that makes home feel so stressful to people during the work week.”
The suggestion to change the stress levels at home is in fact to become more like Millenials. This generation of people is more known to ask important questions regarding their well-being rather than be at risk for an image. Damaske notes, “But the more we learn, the more we listen to people, like Millennials, who want to find meaningful work, don’t want to be so devoted to work that they don’t have time for their outside lives, the more we can change.”
Can you relate to the outcome of this study? Let us know how you feel in the comment section!