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Though women may not really be from Venus and men from Mars, there are some definite differences between the genders and misunderstandings that regularly occur. While the psychological gap may not be a huge one, it’s hard to admit that there isn’t one at all. From certain topics to multitasking, there are some things that men just don’t get about us ladies. Here are 14 things that men don’t understand about women and probably never will.
From Black Enterprise
A new infographic released Tuesday by the National Women’s Business Council illustrating the economic clout of women-led businesses.
“Successful women-led businesses have a variety of trajectories and strategies for growth, and there is no one right way to grow a business,” said Emily K. Bruno, Research and Policy Director for NWBC. “We’ve seen that in many cases, successful women entrepreneurs running high-growth companies have chosen to give up equity in order to raise capital. While women-led businesses are less than 51% owned by women, women still have a significant leadership position and ownership within the company, and this matters.”
The infographic is the second in a series that NWBC is producing utilizing its original research and new data sources from the Census Bureau.
Important highlights from the infographic include:
- Women have a greater economic impact than most think – 36% of employer firms are either women-owned or women-led. 17.5% of employer businesses are 51% owned by one or more women. Yet, 18.8% of employer firms are at least 30% owned by women and have a woman in a leadership role. When those two numbers are added together, women’s economic impact is much clearer. That makes 36% of employer firms either women-owned or women-led. When not focusing on women’s leadership roles within a company, the numbers look even better. 42.4% of businesses are at least 30% owned by women. These firms capture 26.1% or $2.6 trillion in receipts.
Read more at BlackEnterprise.com
Have black women been forgotten by the political machine even though they vote in high numbers? Yes, say many. According to a new report from the Center for American Progress (CAP) entitled “The State of African-American Women in the United States,” the crossroads of racial and gender disparities meet at the experience of black women. Yet, in the last presidential election, black women had the highest voter turnout of any comparable group in the country.
Despite experiencing socioeconomic inequity more than anyone else, African American women vote more than all others (and generally in favor of the Democratic candidate). This is important for two reasons notes Theodore R. Johnson in Salon. First, the policy concerns of African American women have gone largely unaddressed. Second, although there is evidence of the black electorate leader, there is not much effort by candidates to work hard for those votes. And the Republican Party assumes it is impossible to grab the black vote. The Democratic Party knows it can depend on overwhelming support from the black community.
In a 2011 poll from the Washington Post-Kaiser Family Foundation, the issues that black women were most concerned about included employment/personal finances, healthcare, and crime. Even exit polls from last month’s Virginia and New Jersey gubernatorial elections highlight the same concerns.
Stats will tell you these concerns are not being met. The CAP report reveals that 1 in 4 black women are uninsured. In education, African American women are underrepresented in college degrees, have the slowest increase in graduation rates of all women, and are the most severely underrepresented in technical fields, reports Salon. Economically, black women have a higher rate of unemployment than white women. This rate rose in 2013. Also, black women’s income is less than all men and white women, and their poverty rate is the highest in the country.
Even will all these disparities, the Washington-Kaiser poll discovered that nearly 3 in 4 black women felt it was a good time to be a black woman in America, and 85 percent say they are happy with their lives in general.
“Perhaps most interesting, black female entrepreneurs are the fastest growing segment of the women-owned business market. They are starting up at six times the national average, grew in number by 258 percent over the last 15 years, and generated nearly $45 billion of revenue this year,” reports Salon.
The surprising thing is that even with this political alienation, black women still vote. A Harvard Journal of African American Policy paper titled, “Political Cynicism and the Black Vote,” points to an important difference in black voting behavior. The authors theorize that unlike other races, when black voters have high cynical attitudes – such as the feeling of political alienation – they vote in higher numbers. So this could explain why black women voting rates consistently rise despite their political alienation.
“The political alienation of black women may prove beneficial to the winners who are swept into office from their high turnout, but the failure to adequately address the disparities they experience dooms any attempt at sound social policy,” notes Johnson in Salon.
What do you think?
As a plus-size blogger, I’ve been known over the years to be very vocal about the lack of plus-size representation in the fashion industry. From voicing my disappointment with thelack of diversity on online fashion communities, to challenging the standards of body image and blogging, I always speak my mind. As one of those girls who grew up flipping through the pages of Teen Vogue and Lucky hoping and wishing that one day I would see someone who looks like me gracing the pages, I’ve been a constant advocate of initiating open dialogue about plus-size options in the fashion industry.
So it took me by surprise when I read earlier this week about model Tara Lynn’s statements regarding plus-size models and fashion. The size 14/16 fashion modelrecently told Elle Magazine, “It is hard to make clothes look great on big women. The more fat there is on a body, the more variation there is in the shape of that body.” Though I agree with the latter part of her statement regarding body fat causing for variations in body shape, I wholeheartedly disagree with the former. It is absolutely not hard to make clothes look good on big women.
First of all, you don’t have to make big women look good. And you certainly shouldn’t have to make clothes look good. A great piece of clothing is a great piece of clothing, regardless of its size. I shuddered when I read Tara Lynn’s statement. It essentially implies that big women, by default, don’t look good. Aside from the astounding statistics that prove the majority of women in this country alone are an astonishing average size 14 as opposed to the fashion’s ideal standard size 2, there is a grave misconception that curvy and plus-size women inherently have to try 10 times harder to look presentable.
Read more at StyleBlazer.com
Dating is supposed to be exciting and for most women it’s all about diving in head first and going on plenty of dates and meeting tons of men. However, while a forward approach is never shunned upon, before you put a lot of effort and time into dating a specific man, there are some crucial pieces of information you must have in your possession. Here are 14 things you need to know about the man you’re dating.
It’s not as hippie or neurotic of a concept as it seems. For those of you who caught Being Mary Jane on BET, I’m sure you caught all the inspirational and positive quotes that Mary Jane wrote on Post Its and stuck all over her house. It may look crazy, but it’s more of a cathartic and life-affirming practice than we care to know. We are the first ones to hear the words we speak. Why not make them life-affirming ones? How I wish I had stumbled across this way of thinking many years ago.
Growing up, I was taught to be very outwardly focused. Don’t do anything that would reflect badly on your family. Dress modestly so you don’t give men the wrong impression. Do well in school so you can get a good job. Paired with affirmation and encouragement, this kind of instruction is great. Standing alone, it leaves MUCH to be desired for a little black girl trying to figure out her life.
A combination of being bullied for wearing only skirts and dresses and not having a perm and an overwhelming lack of affirmation at home caused me to develop severe anxiety around the age of 11. I would sweat and shake whenever I had to walk among large crowds by myself. This prevented me from even entering the lunchroom at school. I was deathly afraid that everyone was looking at me, waiting for me to slip and fall or do something severely stupid. So, I ate lunch in the bathroom. I felt awkward, ugly, and dumb. The worst part was that there was no one I could run to. There is no remedy for low self-esteem within a family that preaches humility above all else. Vehemently. So, I suffered in silence.
I did the only thing I knew to do: pretend. I faked the funk. I gathered pieces of what worked for everyone else and stitched it all together into something I could wear to cover my insecurity. Then, college came around and authenticity became a goal. A quest. A journey. I was introduced to women from all walks of life who found the courage to believe in themselves when no one else cared to. Some of these women went from poor to wealthy. Broken and abused to courageous business owners. Timid to strong. They all shed a skin of insecurity – however thick or thin it might have been – and chose to build an affirmed life.
The basic common thread? These women chose to take control of their thoughts, as well as the way they spoke to and about themselves and change the narrative. Once they began to see themselves and their situations in a more positive light, it became easier to change their lives.
As women, we’re so used to being told who we are, what we are, and what we’re capable of doing. How often are we raised to really see and define ourselves for ourselves? So much of who we are is influenced by outside forces that understanding our own value and strength becomes increasingly difficult. When asked what we love most about ourselves, how many of us can quickly rattle off an answer? It’s harder for more of us than we realize. We are constantly criticizing ourselves. We’re not this enough or that enough. We don’t want to come off like this. We’ll never reach this or that goal. We have never been good at this or that.
How often do we wake up and say, “I’m beautiful,” or “No matter what happens, today will be a productive day”? How often do we tell ourselves, “I’m more than capable of taking on this new project at work,” or “I love my lips/hips/eyes/thighs?” Changing the narrative we tell ourselves tunes out any negativity that would keep us in a persistent state of self-scorn. We determine what happens to us by how we interpret ourselves, our circumstances and how we think about our lives.
I didn’t try the concept until I was already in my mid-20s. It was hard at first. When you’ve lived a life filled with nothing but constant critique of your every move and contempt of your every failure, flipping the switch to “Positive” feels unnatural. I started to write down my achievements and accept myself as a talented, good-hearted person. I started to embrace all the physical attributes that I was once so insecure about. My full lips, my kinky hair, my small frame. I began to tell myself what I liked about me. The more I practiced speaking good things into and over myself, the more life began to bend toward the good. It’s a day-to-day, moment-to-moment practice – rejecting the negative, overly-critical messages and flooding ourselves with the positive ones – but it is absolutely worth it.
Lady Natasha Stewart of The Potter’s House in Dallas, Texas said it best at this year’s MegaFest when speaking on “Girl Talk.” The entire forum is excellent, but if you skip to 21:00 you’ll hear her fiery speech on Positive Self-Image:
La Truly is a writer, college professor and natural hair and holistic lifestyle enthusiast. She mixes her interest in social and cultural issues with her life experiences to encourage thought, discussion and positive change among young women. Follow her on Twitter: @AshleyLaTruly.
“I wanted to impact change and find a community of women who were doing what I was doing. It was putting my thesis into practice,” Ebonie Smith, founder of Gender Amplified said of her newly created and expansive music movement.
In 2007, when she was a senior studying Africana Studies at Barnard College (the women’s college at Columbia University), she pushed her obsession with music to the forefront and organized a conference highlighting women in hip-hop — specifically female producers. Smith calls it a “brainchild” of hers and an academic advisor.
Though she’d go on to earn a Master’s degree in music technology from NYU, Smith had long ago begun pursuing it. At the age of six she could play the piano at a professional level. Now she can add guitar and drums to the list of instruments of which she can play a note or two.
The conference, titled “Gender Amplified: Women and Technological Innovation in Hip-Hop” has undergone reinvention and evolved into a network, mentorship and tech education resource, and now a full-blown Gender Amplified music festival to take place September 28. Panels, workshops and performances targeting women and girls, will discuss the link between commerce and music production, the festival description read.
“In terms of objectives I think they’re different,” Smith said of the conference and upcoming festival. With the initial conference, via panels and discussions, she and organizers begged the question, “Where are the women in hip-hop?”
When it came to organizing the festival, Smith no longer sought to answer that inquiry, which by the way, was never literal. ”I know exactly where they are; I’m one of them,” she said. The conference, Smith offered, was more about exposure as opposed to “performance and exhibition,” which are the focuses of the festival.
Back in 2004, Smith discovered that she was interested in music production through hanging around guys who made beats and organized recordings. It wasn’t until she discovered that one could actually be involved in the music-making process and get paid once songs reached radio that she decided to pursue music seriously. Growing up in Memphis, Tennessee, a music capital in the U.S., may have had something to do with the urge as well.
“It really fascinated me and it set me on a path to learn more and more. At the time the internet — now a resource and tutorial tool — wasn’t what it is today,” Smith said. “All the people I learned from were guys. I really thought I was the only woman who was producing or aspiring to produce to the level I wanted to. I didn’t want to do it as a hobby; I wanted to do it professionally, competitively.”
In 2013, the arena for female producers, she said, has improved. But it was the lack of visibility six years prior that fueled her motivation to spotlight women who compose, produce and craft recordings professionally.
“I didn’t know any women who did music production, or specially who made beats, using computer software or electronic musical instruments that have production capabilities,” she added.
Every office has their share of characters. The workplace is a breeding ground for some of the best and worst of those who never grew out of their old ways or are busy climbing the ladder and leaning in. Women are not exempt!
We pointed out the male workplace stereotypes, from the player to the slacker. Now, here are 10 types of women in the workplace we all know, love, hate or tolerate.
What are some expectations we place on our boyfriends or male companions in a relationship? Do we expect too much from them? Why do some of us expect husband privileges from men we simply deem as boyfriends? In dating relationships, many women often confuse the role of a boyfriend with that of a husband. This is done more often than not because a number of women don’t realize the difference in the roles.
A boyfriend is a frequent male companion that a woman is involved with romantically and sexually, while a husband is a woman’s partner in marriage and the male head of a household whose task is to connect and keep a family together. These two definitions clearly show the difference in both roles, so why is it that many women often expect more from a boyfriend than they should? The answer is simple. Many women expect husband privileges from boyfriends because we give husband privileges to our boyfriends in hopes of securing a long-term relationship with the possibility of marriage. This is a major mistake. Giving husband privileges to boyfriends and expecting husband privileges in return takes away the fun in a dating relationship and places unnecessary pressure on both parties involved. How? Because it takes the focus off of getting to know someone for who they are and places it on what they can bring to a relationship other than themselves.
Now don’t get me wrong, a person should know as much about someone they are dating from every aspect to see if they are the one for them, but the expectations of a boyfriend in a dating or monogamous relationship should remain sensible and simple…expecting him to be your boyfriend and do the things a boyfriend should, and not expecting things from him that you would ask of a husband. I know some of you may be thinking, what husband-like expectations do some women actually place on their boyfriends? You know the ones. That includes paying bills that you created, buying groceries, placing the responsibility of taking care of your child/children on him when he’s not the father…just to name a few. While there is nothing wrong with a man doing these things for his significant other (girlfriend), especially if he volunteers to do it out of the kindness of his heart, we should know not to expect these and other husband privileges from a man who has not put a ring on it.
Women can learn how not to expect husband privileges from boyfriends by keeping the following things in mind:
1. By learning and understanding the difference between what a husband is, what a boyfriend is, and the different roles each play. It is clear that the roles of a husband and a boyfriend are drastically different, yet many women have the tendency to combine them, which is unfair to men. Learning and understanding the difference between a husband and a boyfriend and their roles will allow women to set and keep conscious and subconscious boundaries within a relationship for herself and her mate. And keeping these boundaries in mind and practice will allow women to focus more on getting to know a partner for who he is to her at that particular time in her life, rather than focusing on how he would be as a husband.
2. By learning and understanding your role as a girlfriend. As a girlfriend, your purpose in your boyfriend’s life is to be a companion and friend. It is not your job to be his wife or his mother, but simply a girlfriend. And as a girlfriend, it is not your job to give him husband privileges to try to convince him that you are wife material, because no matter what you do or don’t do, if he wants to marry you he will. Understand and know your role as a girlfriend and you won’t slip into expecting husband privileges from your boyfriend, and you won’t be prone to giving him husband privileges.
3. By learning and understanding the value of a courtship. A courtship will allow both parties to engage in a steady-paced relationship without expecting or giving too much too soon. A courtship allows a man who is interested in a woman to show that interest without pressure, and it allows a woman to do the same. Understanding the value of a courtship and implementing it in a relationship will keep things fresh and new and allow both parties’ expectations to remain reasonable. Everyone has certain expectations for their mates and relationships, but we must take the time to reflect and evaluate if the expectations we have are appropriate for the relationships we are involved in. A man who is simply a woman’s boyfriend should not be pressured to act like her husband and a woman should not expect him to. A boyfriend is just that, a boyfriend. If he wants to do and be more, it should be at his own discretion and not the expectation of his mate. Now ladies, don’t get me wrong, at some point in a relationship things should progress, but as things progress they should still remain on a level of a dating relationship and not that of a marriage. What expectations do you place on your boyfriends?
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.
Remember yesterday when we talked about Tyrese defending his Twitter persona and saying people only get offended by his love advice because they have these false expectations of him? Well it’s good to know even his band mates in TGT sometimes dismiss the self-professed love guru’s musings.
When the R&B supergroup stopped by our office a couple of weeks ago, they got into a pretty heavy discussion on love and relationships, with Tyrese and Tank talking about their desire to marry again and Ginuwine sharing advice on how he’s maintained his marriage to Sole for 10 years. Speaking on the breakdown that often occurs between men and women, Tank said:
“We don’t have the spirit of compromise totally developed where we can work cohesively as one. Where we can make those sacrifices on either end to make a difference in our relationship. As we get older and as we make mistakes and as we learn, if you’re smart enough about it, you get to take [those experiences] and turn them into wisdom which allows you to know, the next time around, the dos and don’ts. “
Not a bad observation, right? Well from there, Tyrese starting dropping all sorts of cliche sayings like, “Every man comes with baggage and every woman comes with baggage; can you find the man who’s going to stand there and help you unpack it,” and that’s when Tank and Ginuwine started clowning the 34-year old actor/singer, whom they’ve deemed “the human quoter.” Looks like we’re not the only ones who could do without Tyrese’s relationship advice.
Check out these three throwing jabs and having some serious moments in the video below. What do you think about their takes on relationships?