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Emotional Grooms Took Center Stage This Week

June 10th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Earlier this week, footage of a groom overcome with emotion as his beautiful bride made her way to the altar began circulating on the internet. It’s no surprise that the video went viral. Honestly, the groom’s reaction to his bride was enough to bring a tear to the most callous person’s eye.

“Awww….that man has the love of God to cry over his beautiful bride,” said one commenter.

“Wowww that’s love…that’s how a man [is supposed] to react when he sees his bride,” said another.

According to BuzzFeed, the newlyweds, Gabriel and Annabella Deku, got hitched on May 14, 2016 in London. They met four years ago when they were both students at Portsmouth University. Annabella was a politics and sociology major; Gabriel studied economics and finance.

Interestingly, Gabriel wasn’t the only emotional groom who took the web by storm this week. R&B singer Ne-Yo’s wedding video was released by BET on Thursday, and he also broke down a couple of times at the celebration. During the reception, he attempted to serenade his new wife, Crystal Renay, but was overcome with emotion and had to stop for a moment to get himself together.

Although it’s often expected that the bride will be the emotional one, I’ve noticed that emotional grooms really aren’t all that uncommon. At my cousin’s wedding a few years ago, we could barely move along with the ceremony because her now husband and her father could not stop crying. At one point, we thought that the groom would start hyperventilating, and her dad could barely escort her down the aisle because he sobbing uncontrollably.

 

This Bridal Bouquet Is Also A Flask

June 8th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Boozy Bouquet

If you’re a future bride or bridesmaid who would like to indulge in some adult beverages before the wedding, allow us to introduce you to the Boozy Bouquet.

This bridal bouquet with a built-in flask holds approximately 4 oz. of liquor. It was designed by Angela Huerta. Huerta says that she was inspired by a friend who was inspired by a friend who was getting married and expressed a desire to sneak a flask into the ceremony using her bouquet.

“She joked that she wished she could smuggle a flask in her bouquet and I honestly started to think about solutions while Gwen snipped away,” Huerta told the Huffington Post. “I wanted to be able to surprise her with a crafty makeshift bouquet flask in time for her wedding. I went online to look for DIY inspiration and realized that nothing like this existed, so I began thinking seriously about developing the concept.”

Huerta’s invention allows brides and bridesmaids to detach the flower arrangement from the flask and take a sip of their beverage of choice.

The landscape designer is currently running a Kickstarter campaign through which she hopes to raise $55,000 in order to finance the final revisions of the project before she begins manufacturing the bouquets.

Ciara Is Designing Her Wedding Dress

June 8th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Now that she’s in full-fledged wedding planning mode, Ciara says that she will, in fact, design her own wedding dress.

“When you think about that special day, it’s a very big moment in our eyes,” the singer told E! News. “I look forward to the moment of creating my dress and doing all that good stuff, and celebrating and having one of the best nights of my life—because I know it’s going to be.”

The singer announced her engagement to Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson last March. The public took initial interest in their relationship last summer when Wilson announced that the two have vowed to remain celibate until their wedding day.

“She was on tour; she was traveling. I was looking at her in the mirror. She was in the dressing room getting ready to go before she went on stage, and she was sitting there, and God spoke to me and said, ‘I need you to lead her,’” he shared during an appearance at The Rock Church in San Diego last year. “And I was like, ‘Really?’ And he was like, ‘No, I want you to lead her.’ So I told her, ‘What would you do if we took all of that extra stuff off the table and just did it Jesus’ way?’ And she was relieved.”

It is unclear when the two intend to tie the knot, but we are looking forward to seeing all of the beautiful photos from what we’re sure is going to be a lovely ceremony.

Travel Trials: I’m Not Attending My Best Friend’s Destination Wedding Because Of The Zika Virus

June 8th, 2016 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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(As relayed by Lauren R.D. Fox based on a culmination of experiences)

My best friend and her fiancé decided to have a destination wedding in Fiji and I was elated to travel to the Pacific Island to witness their union.

Serving as the Matron of Honor, I planned my friend’s bridal shower, bachelorette party and even assisted her while she shopped for a wedding dress and shoes. And although I believe I have been beyond supportive, my friend is no longer speaking to me.

Here’s why.

After helping her plan the most important day of her life, I told her I won’t be able to attend her wedding. My husband and I are trying to become pregnant and there is currently an outbreak of the Zika virus in Fiji. Initially, I was going to take the risk and attend her wedding despite the CDC’s travel warning for women who are trying to conceive or are expecting their first child but I realize now my future child’s health is more important.

The Zika virus causes fetuses to develop eye defects, hearing loss and impaired growth. They can even develop microcephaly and other brain defects. Although I’m sure my friend knows this information, she is giving me the cold shoulder. I know her wedding day is important to her, but outside of her fairy tale picture I have an image of a perfect life too and that includes giving birth to a healthy baby.

Am I a bad friend for not attending my friend’s wedding or is she acting like a Bridezilla?

 

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Serious Question: What’s The Craziest Thing You’ve Been Asked To Do As A Bridesmaid?

June 6th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Wedding season is in full effect, which means that bands of loyal bridesmaids everywhere — in one way or another — are pushing their personal needs and desires aside for the sake of getting a friend or loved one to the altar in one piece. Of course, some brides are absolute dolls and their laid back attitudes make being part of their wedding parties a breeze. Unfortunately, there are also those brides who take this whole bridezilla thing to higher heights and deeper depths. For example, I recently read about a bride on Wedded Wonderland, who ordered a bridesmaid to either lose weight or buy two dresses and sew them together because the dress that the bride selected didn’t come in the bridesmaid’s size.

“One bride sent an e-mail to her maids with a link to the gowns. The problem was they were only sold in a sizes 6, 8 and 10. One of the bridesmaids, a size 14, made an awkward phone call to the bride. ‘She told me that her fuller-figured maids should either lose the weight or buy two dresses and sew them together,’ she recalls. ‘I hung up the phone, shocked by her rudeness, and the next day, I politely declined her invitation to be a bridesmaid.'”

Another wild story came courtesy of a reader of The Knot, who told the publication that one of her fellow bridesmaids was asked to reschedule her law exam so that she could fly down to watch the bride try on wedding dresses —kid you not.

“She wanted one bridesmaid to reschedule her law exams and fly in so she could watch the bride try on dresses 14 months before the wedding. And when we didn’t respond to her phone calls or emails fast enough, she sent us FedEx letters overnight with her requests instead.”

Unfortunately, there’s no follow-up for that story, but I pray to God that poor woman did not actually reschedule her exams to appease that loony bride.

I’ve only been a bridesmaid once in my lifetime, and thankfully, the only thing that I can say about the bride is that she asked me to wear an ugly dress, which is the plight my many bridesmaids, so really, I don’t believe that my story would fall under the bridezilla category. Lucky me.

Of course, we’d like to hear from you. What’s the craziest thing you’ve been asked to do as a bridesmaid and did you do it?

The Road To The Altar: Is There A Such Thing As Too Many Flower Girls?

June 3rd, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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The Road To The Altar: Is There A Such Thing As Too Many Flower Girls?

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Earlier in this series, I shared that I will not have a traditional bridal party at my wedding. Considering that I’m still learning to balance work, my home life, and my other professional aspirations, I knew pretty early on that wrangling bridesmaids and groomsmen would send me over the edge. So, my fiancé and I decided to do things our way. I did, however, want a flower girl and a ring bearer.

Since we don’t have many boys in our family, I immediately knew that I would ask my godson to be the ring bearer. Choosing a flower girl, however, wasn’t so simple. My fiancé has a few nieces and then I also have my own gang of girl cousins to choose from. So, I avoided to topic for as long as I possibly could. And then, on Christmas Day, I was cornered by my outspoken baby —well, not quite a baby, but she’ll always be a baby to me — cousin.

“Can I be the flower girl?!” she asked me in her high-pitched squeaky voice.

Really, I didn’t know what to say. So I stood there dumbfounded.

“I want to be the flower girl!” another cousin, Grace*, who was in another room at the time, screamed as she made her way into the kitchen.

It really is amazing how kids can overhear an entire conversation from another room but will completely ignore directives given to them when they’re standing right in front of you; however, that’s a conversation for another day.

“No, I want to be the flower girl,” added another little cousin after overhearing the commotion.

I’m still not quite sure how I wiggled out of that conversation and managed to avoid it for the remainder of the holiday — I’m kind of a sucker when it comes to kids — but I vaguely remember one of my aunts overhearing everything and gently stepping in with some kind of brilliant distraction. I was able to dodge the flower girl discussion for months after that until Mother’s Day. I had been at my grandmother’s house all of 25 minutes before she blurted out, “Grace is going to be your flower girl, right?” I got quiet for a moment before I looked to down at 6-year-old Grace, who was peaking from behind our grandmother and starring dead in my mouth waiting for a response. And then I looked over to my right at Grace’s mom, who has literally been like a second mom to me, grinning from ear to ear.

Really, I didn’t have the heart say no. I wasn’t even sure that I wanted to say no. I just knew that I didn’t want to ever play a role in making any of the kids in my family feel left out or unimportant. So, I folded, and said yes.

While I did enjoy visiting with my grandmother that day, I left feeling a little flustered that I was put on the spot like that. But I suppose that was partially my fault for procrastinating.  I later decided to just include all three of my little cousins who expressed interest in being flower girls and a couple of my future nieces as well. I mean, our wedding, our rules, right? Besides, is there really a such thing as too many flower girls?

Travel Trials: I Hate Traveling With My Mom But Don’t Know How To Tell Her

June 3rd, 2016 - By Lauren R.D. Fox
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(As relayed by Lauren R.D. Fox based on a culmination of experiences)

Traveling with my mother has always been a catastrophic event due to our different personalities.

Truthfully, the trouble begins before we even step foot on a plane. In fact, it starts with the packing process; I tend to wait til the last minute to pack my suitcase whereas she likes to have her own luggage suited up and ready to go three days prior to departing for her trip. It never fails that we end up arguing about packing, and if it’s not that when we’re debating what and how much is being packed.

I like to be prepared, so that means I may throw in a few extra outfits, shoes or accessories because who wants to be invited to a place or event and not look the part? My mother, on the other hand, has a looming fear of overweight luggage (even if it’s not her own).

Aside from these minor (sometimes major) issues, my mother is not as adventurous as I am and likes to pick low-key activities to do while we’re on vacation. When I suggested we go on a Swamp Tour in New Orleans, she said no because of her fear of crocodiles and being in a small boat. On other trips, she’s wanted to know my every move, even if I was with family members, or she monitors how many drinks I’ve had while when we eat.

In August, my cousin will be getting married in Napa Valley and we will be attending — together. My mother would like us to travel together and share the same hotel room; I, however, have other plans. I plan to leave for Napa Valley four days before the wedding to spend time with my boyfriend and I will be booking a hotel room with him. I don’t want to leave my mother stranded so I plan to book her a room, as well, but I know she will be upset that I won’t be spending much time with her during our trip.

How do I break the news to her?

Serious Question: Would You Wash His Feet At Your Wedding?

May 31st, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Having been raised in the church, I am quite familiar with the custom of washing feet. From what I’ve been taught and what I’ve read about it in my alone time, it’s a  gesture that is popular within the Christian faith that signifies humility and service. At my home church, the custom has been reserved for special occasions like  Good Friday and New Year’s Eve service. In fact, my mom is usually one of the missionaries who serves on the foot-washing and communion committees at our church during these occasions. However, I recently learned that foot-washing ceremonies are also performed at some weddings as well.

On Saturday evening, while scrolling through my Facebook feed, I came across a photo shared by one of my old classmates from graduate school. The image depicted a bride on her knees washing the feet of her groom along with a caption, which read: “Ladies, at your wedding, would you wash your man’s feet as a symbol of submission to your husband?” No context was provided and initially, I felt sick to my stomach at the sight of the image. I questioned why any groom would want his bride in her wedding dress, on her knees, washing his crusty feet (not that dude’s feet were crusty or anything) in a room full of their family and friends. I questioned why so many people love beating women upside the head with the submission conversation without ever encouraging men to do the same — you know, since the Bible urges both husbands and wives to submit to one another. And then, I paused. I reminded myself that this was actually someone’s wedding photo and that there was a good chance that there was a story behind the photo — a real story and not one that came from the mind of some person on social media with time on their hands and an active imagination. No offense to the original poster, by the way. I definitely don’t believe that he intended any harm. But often times, photos that show up on our Facebook and Instagram feeds are snatched from peoples’ personal pages and posted in a manner that takes the images completely out of context, for example, the story of Tameka the surgeon and Keith the sneaker store manager, which turned out to be the wedding photo of Essence editor Charli Penn and her husband. I figured that it would be wise to do a little research before completely jumping to conclusions about the foot-washing photo, and what I found was quite refreshing. 

For one, I found that foot-washing at weddings — something that is performed by brides and grooms alike — is actually a pretty popular wedding custom and similar to foot-washing ceremonies that go down in church services, they represent humility and service, which are obviously two very important components to healthy marriages. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve been told by some of the elders in the faith that “Marriage will you be your greatest ministry.” And since service is what ministry is all about, clearly, this foot-washing custom really isn’t a bad idea at all.

As I continued my search, I came across beautiful images upon beautiful images of both soon-to-be-husbands and wives humbling themselves and washing the feet of their future spouses. And then, I found this video from the wedding ceremony of a couple who incoporated foot-washing into their big day. I was surprised by the emotions I felt when I watched the groom smile as he washed his bride’s feet and I felt the same emotions as I watched them switch positions as she proceeded to do the same. Really, it was nothing short of beautiful.

Ladies, would you be willing to wash your groom’s feet at your wedding? And men, would you be willing to do the same?

Why This Groom Divorced His Bride After One Day

May 24th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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A bride’s decision to reply to congratulatory text messages from relatives and friends following her wedding ceremony resulted in the demise of her marriage, Gulf News reports.

Apparently, the Saudi groom made an attempt to be intimate with his new wife once they were in their hotel room, but she was engrossed in whatever conversations were happening on her phone, and ignored his advances.

“Following the marriage ceremony, the groom took his bride to the hotel where they had booked a room,” an anonymous relative told Al Watan, a Saudi publication. “However, as soon as the bride was in the room, she kept using her mobile. Her groom tried to get closer with her and become more intimate, but he was shocked when she ignored him, not responding to his words and action.”

When he asked his bride if she would hold off on responding to her friends until later, she declined, and all hell broke loose.

“When he asked her about the reasons, she answered she was busy communicating with her friends who were congratulating her on her marriage on the mobile. The groom asked her to delay the messages, but she refused and became angry. When he asked her if her friends were more important than he was, the bride answered that they were,” the relative said.

The two continued to argue, and after things had escalated, the groom left the hotel, but not before informing his new wife that he wanted a divorce. Once he went through with filing, the courts referred his case to the reconciliation department to see if the new couple could find a way to patch things up. According to the relative, the groom’s ego was too damaged for him to rethink his decision to divorce and he refused to reconcile with his bride.

H/t Cosmopolitan

 

How Much Are Millennials Spending On Weddings?

May 20th, 2016 - By Jazmine Denise Rogers
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Millennials may be broke, but they’re willing to spend a pretty penny on wedding celebrations. According to a recent survey by American Express, the average millennial will spend nearly $900 as a wedding guest this year—$893 to be exact. That is approximately $200 more than the general population spends when attending a wedding. Now times that by three, since according to this survey, the average American expects to attend three weddings this year.

As for wedding gifts, the survey found that in 2016, the average American expects to spend $127 on wedding gifts for a relative and $99 on wedding gifts for a friend. The gap between spending on family and spending on friends had decreased significantly ( 30 percent) since 2015, which researchers believe points to a “growing importance of friendship.”

Surprisingly, people still seem to prefer to select a gift from the couple’s registry as opposed to handing over cash or gift cards. In 2016, 37 percent of guests said that they preferred to purchase registry gifts, 31 percent preferred to give money, 13 percent preferred gift cards and 4 percent felt more inclined to fund the honeymoon in some way.

Perhaps I need to learn to be more generous because as a millennial, I couldn’t fathom dropping nearly $900 one person’s wedding as a guest. No ma’am, no ham, no turkey.