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Tracy Ellis Ross is not just killing it on her hit ABC show Black-ish, she is also keeping it just as real on her website TracyEllisRoss.com where she’s discussed everything from womanhood to the best Trader Joes snacks. Our love for this fit and fab star goes back to her days on the show Girlfriends, but we are just as in love with her real life persona.
One of the many cool features of Tracy’s site is her youtube page where she answers questions from her fans and discusses life issues we all deal with as women. This Sunday we’re turning to this endearing actress and get her thoughts on discovering your gifts and where your power as a woman lies.
One question asks Tracy for three things every women should know that she has learned over her soon to be 42 years of life on October 29th and her answers are worth the entire five minute video.
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A video was posted on YouTube a few weeks ago and has gone viral within the last few days. For two minutes and forty-six seconds, Linda’s
reasoning with her three year old son who wants to eat cupcakes for dinner three-year-old son Mateo tries to reason with her because he wants to eat cupcakes for dinner. He was previously told no, and then tried to ask his grandmother for a cupcake dinner, and in one last ditch effort he goes for broke and tries to get one himself. He starts off by telling his mom, or Linda as he calls her, to listen and that she can’t trust everything she’s told at grandma’s house. Hilarity ensues. (You’ll be saying “Listen, Linda” for days)
This video is extra funny to me because I feel like I have this conversation everyday with my three-year-old. Cydney will want anything from cheese (which I have to hide), to bananas, or whatever catches her eyes. She tries to reason with me and give the reasons why I should give hear said treat. If she is successful at sneaking whatever food she wants–the dead giveaway would be the still-opened refrigerator door–when she sees me she jumps and tries to throw the food away… like I didn’t just see her munching away. I even laughed at the fact that Mateo was told that if he didn’t listen he would get a “pow pow” on his butt, which is what getting popped is called in our household as well.
As a parent, I think we’ve all been at this point. OK, maybe some of us haven’t. Some use the “take no mess” approach, and others look at moments like these in good humor. It all depends on the parent. Sure, Mateo is misbehaving, but the fact that Linda is recording this suggests that it is something that happens frequently. I’m sure she’s a good mother and as opposed to stifling what could be the development of a sense of humor or just looking at the world a little differently. My daughter says things all of the time that are snarky and I have to keep my parenting face on, so I don’t bust a gut. I’ll laugh to myself later and every other week I share Cydney’s best quotables on my blog so we can all laugh. Kids say and do the darndest things. Some parents even let them think that they get away with it. I’m sure that more than likely, Mateo didn’t get a cupcake for dinner so she ultimately succeeded in showing who is the boss.
Like statistics, parenting [advice] means nothing to the individual. Everyone has their own way of dealing with children based on their unique experiences and generally how they handle is tailor-made to the child that they are raising. I looked in the comments under the video of Mateo and there was a mixed bag of results. Some people said the kid was being rude, called him bad, one person even called a three year old an a**hole (Yikes). Some people won’t take that kind of mess from a child. They’d be quick to pop them on the mouth before they can finish a syllable, while others may just put the little guy in time-out. To each its own. We all have our different of opinions.
Was Mateo being difficult? Sure. That’s every toddler, ever. Kids generally follow rules. Most like and need the structure, but will push boundaries. I’m personally from the school of not taking things so seriously and laughing your way through it…Bill Cosby has made a career out of doing this.
With that said, have a good laugh and check out some of the other videos Linda has posted of her son Mateo because he is quite a character.
Sometimes, kids need to learn the hard way. Lorraine Walls caught her 12-year-old daughter Luticia with a Facebook account after she specifically told her she couldn’t be on there. Not only that, the girl was using Facebook to flirt with boys and instigate a fight which later got her suspended. So what does mom do? She makes a video showing her reprimanding her daughter–and posts it on Facebook.
The video shows Wallis telling her daughter to repeat after her things like, “I can’t have a boyfriend” and “I read the Bible”. Toward the end, she says, “The next time she’s on Facebook, and I catch her on Facebook, I’m beating the hell out of her.” While plenty are praising Wallis for being an involved mom but others are crying abuse. But Wallis told her local CBS station, “She doesn’t get whippings, she’s not getting beat, she doesn’t get abused.”
She says what she’s doing is tough love; she just wants to protect her daughter. Wallis isn’t the first person to have one of these “mother shames daughter on Facebook” stories in order to teach a child a lesson, but did she go too far? It’s a little hard to watch the video because I know I would’ve been so completely mortified if this had been me.
On the heels of her relationship book, “The Love Playbook”, Lala stopped by “Arsenio”. The reality star and author took questions from Twitter followers at home and some of them were a little raunchy, including the question from a who didn’t know how to handle all her man was workin’ with.
Dale and Leilani Neumann, the couple in the Kara Neumann prayer death case, have been in the news off and on for the last six years. The Wisconsin couple turned to prayer instead of doctors for their 11-year-old daughter Kara instead of taking her to the hospital, and she died in March 2008 of untreated diabetes. They were convicted of second-degree reckless homicide. The court had placed a stay on the beginning of their sentence as the Neumanns appealed the decision, but a judge has ruled they’re finally going to jail.
Dale and Leilani will serve six months in prison, a month at a time, and ten years probation. In a hearing earlier this week, the Neumanns and their attorney argued they’d suffered enough, thanks to financial issues, shunning by their community and of course, the death of their daughter. But that’s insane. It’s not enough. A child died of untreated diabetes because they refused to realize there was an actual problem. The fact that this case has dragged on so long is disturbing and disgusting.
After a messy month or so, Gabrielle Union got to turn things around with her appearance on “The Queen Latifah Show”. The actress talked about the success of her new show and about forming a family with fiance Dwyane Wade.
She told Queen,
“You know, it’s been a journey. It’s been a journey to boogers. To boogers and flash cards and first heartbreaks and school dances and math homework. We got this amazing gift at a second chance. He just asked me to commit to trying, to put our family back together, to make our family whole. The trying to do the work, led to doing the work, led to us thriving because of the work, which led to this amazing proposal where my family literally asked me to marry them. When life gives you a new beginning, you take it and run with it.”
Boogers and flash cards, huh? Sounds like parenting to me. It’s really nice to see her so excited about her family. I think she pretty much silences the people who accuse her of just wanting to be with an NBA player for the sake of being with an NBA player. It definitely sounds like family comes first for Ms. Union.
What do you think of her chat with Queen Latifah?
Grown folks get confused when faced with identical twins, so we can just imagine what that’s like when you’re not even a year old. Since the video hit LiveLeak on Saturday, it’s been viewed more than 1 million times and it’s easy to see why. This cute little girl literally does a double take looking from her father to her father’s identical twin.
She looks so adorably confused and is looking at her daddy like, “Can you explain, please?” Her mom, who videos the whole thing, says, “Oh, my baby’s so confused!” while all the adults are cracking up. Poor thing. She pulls through, alright, and warms up to her uncle with no problem (though she still isn’t sure if someone’s playing a trick on her).
Drake said it: girls love Beyonce. But Chloe and Halle took their love to the next level and got a shoutout from Queen Bey herself! The girls, age 12 and 14 respectively, posted a video of themselves performing “Pretty Hurts” just before Christmas. Beyonce noticed and posted the link on Facebook.
The girls definitely deserve it. These two little ladies are so, so talented and enterprising, too. They’re promoting their work–they’ve been singing together for a few years now–all over social media. Though I don’t doubt they could’ve done really well on their own, the mention from Beyonce means their video has been viewed almost 1.3 million times in just a few weeks. Listen to Chloe and Halle cover Beyonce’s “Pretty Hurts” below.
A few days ago I came across the video of the woman who lost complete control over her kids in a New York grocery store. After watching the video, I wasn’t fully convinced that it wasn’t some kind of prank designed solely for the purpose of being featured on WorldStar Hip Hop. Turns out the woman playing the mom has a whole YouTube channel of videos showing her public pranks. Still the events that transpire in the video do serve as a great example of how to respond when you see a parent in over their head in public.
OBSERVE, BUT DON’T JUDGE
At some point, we see the cameraman approach the unruly child in question and tell him to stop eating fruit from the produce section. After getting a disrespectful response from the little boy (this is typically a telltale sign to back off), the cameraman then approaches the mother and tells her what a horrible job she is doing of keeping her kids under control. Plain and simple, he went from observing what was going on to judging her. The mother then makes a spirited attempt to chastise her son, only to have the young boy flip the script on her. The child curses at her, they get into a scuffle and the little boy snatches the blonde wig from her head and commences to running around the store with it. Things only go downhill from there. While the cameraman made some good observations about how we need to be more mindful of our kids in public, that didn’t give him the right to put her on the spot. If he wanted to record the footage and make comments about why it’s necessary to beat your kids, so be it. But he instigated the situation and forced this mother to deal with a level of chaos she was not equipped to handle. Public shaming will make it worse, not better.
So, let’s say this video was legit. From what I see, her children were not bothering him; they were just doing something he would not have allowed his children to do. But here’s the thing: the way we handle our kids is not how another person will handle their child. We all parent based on the competencies we’ve been given and it was very clear that the mother was operating with fewer competencies than most. If he wanted to record the footage and make comments about why it’s necessary to beat your kids, so be it. But he instigated the situation and forced this mother to deal with a level chaos she was not equipped to handle.
Parental Control Isn’t Built in a Day
If this were not some sort of ratchet performance art, this young man’s behavior would be totally unacceptable and the mother was clearly out of her depth as a parent. But I think we have to manage expectations when we encounter a parent who can’t seem to control their kid in public.
Here’s the thing about parental control: it isn’t something we can just deploy on the fly. The groundwork for respect and compliance have to already be laid in order for us to really have any influence over our kids. Parenting is a complicated blend of power, control, empathy and sacrifice. It doesn’t look like this mom had either of these. When we see children misbehaving in public, you can pretty much guarantee the challenges are even bigger and more daunting at home. It means someone dropped the ball a long time ago and any attempt to regain parental power and influence in that given moment is impossible. So as an annoyed on-looker, it’s important to remember that.
Know How and When to Intervene
I’ve witnessed a public parenting meltdown or two and what I’ve learned is that as much as we might want to intervene, we have to know our place and how to do it properly. Recently, I took my daughter to a doctor visit and a young mom was arguing with an older mom who didn’t like the way the young mom was handling her small son. The younger mom was agitated and reportedly dragged the baby by his arm socket and repeatedly called him names while on the elevator. A few people on the elevator witnessed it, but the older woman was outraged and decided to address the mother directly about her poor parenting skills. This only made the mother more flustered and she caused a huge scene, threatening to hurt the older woman. Another woman on the elevator witnessed the same behavior, but she decided against addressing the mother directly and discreetly reported what she saw to security, expressing concern for the child’s safety. Before things got too out of hand, security showed up and the mother and child were escorted away.
The second woman handled it best. I personally wanted to say something to the young mother about how she was acting, but I knew anything I said would only direct her ire at me and I’d be a part of the spectacle. When possible, I try to avoid public mom shaming. It almost always makes a bad situation worse.
How do you respond when you see a mom has lost control of her kids in public?