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I know, I know. Valentine’s Day is not that serious.
Like everyone writes on Facebook each year leading up to the big day of love (which was this past Sunday), you should find a way to show how much you care 365 days of the year. Not just because all the stores and card shops and chocolatiers tell you to on one particular day of the year.
But some people are in love with idea of being in love, or in like, on V-day. Especially in the early stages of a relationship. They want the guy they’re seeing to do something romantic and make their holiday together a memorable one. But what if you go out of your way to do something nice for the guy you’re seeing, who consistently struggles with being romantic (or being thoughtful in general), and he does nothing for you? And when I mean “nothing,” I mean he doesn’t even say “Happy Valentine’s Day” or make any plans for the day.
That’s what happened to one of my best friends. She’s been seeing a guy for a few months now. Even though he started off strong and somewhat romantic, he now acts as though he’s too busy with work or sleep to do a majority of things. Considering he’s in his mid-40s, I have a feeling he’s not going to change those habits anytime soon…
Still, my friend wanted to do something simple and sweet for him last Sunday. She bought him a nice jacket and a card. She knew that he was working that day and so he didn’t call most of the holiday, but he was scheduled to get off in the early evening. When she called him to see what his plans were, she ended up having to remind him that it was V-day midway through their conversation.
“Well, Happy Valentine’s Day!”
“Oh yeah! Thanks! You as well.”
He ended up telling her that she was welcome to come by so they could eat in, snuggle, and watch TV, but she was pissed considering that he made it seem as though he was going to think of something fun to do for the holiday the night before. When I talked to her this week, she was dead serious when she asked me “Is it petty that I want to return this jacket?”
I didn’t know what to say at the time, but I encouraged her to do what she felt like since she had not actually given him the sweater. As it turns out, after he barely acknowledged the holiday during their phone call, she opted to leave the gift in the store bag. She has since returned the jacket, and “reappropriated” the funds to get her nails done and obtain a nice new pair of shoes. Because when all else fails (a.k.a., trying to do something nice for a romantic interest), you can always turn things around and just do something nice for your true No. 1: yourself.
I couldn’t even hate on the move. Especially since it seems like this guy is just not ready to compromise and be open for the sake of my friend, who is about 13 years his junior and not ready to play hermit crab in the house. And considering they did have a conversation the night before Valentine’s Day about the holiday, the fact that he couldn’t even give a chick a flower, which she told me she would have liked (“A damn flower would have been nice!”), speaks to the reality that he apparently isn’t concerned enough to be bothered. So instead of wasting more money and time on him, I would encourage her, and other women in a similar situation, to “reappropriate” said money and time on themselves (or, another man in your “favorites” if you’re a player like that)…
But as always, that’s just my opinion. What do you think? Was it petty to return the gift? Or was he petty for totally sidestepping any and all plans for Valentine’s Day?
For the most of us, Valentine’s Day was a little predictable. We made dinner reservations, were surprised with flowers and an assortment of chocolate, and the night was capped off with sex (probably a private dance in some pricey lingerie and then sex). With the sex being the highlight of the night, that can sometimes be all too predictable as well. We know that he’s going to begin with the traditional missionary position that starts off slow and then after 10 hard strokes, like a madman, he’s flipping you over for the back strokes with the dirty talk, which lasts for about two minutes before he sends himself over the edge. Then it’s over and there’s an awkward silence as he doses off and you lie there thinking, “That’s it?” If you find yourself at a standstill in your sex life regardless of the occasion, here are some yoga poses that you can do outside of the bedroom to increase the vitality inside of the bedroom.
Wide Seated Forward Bend Pose (Upavistha Konasana)
As intimidating as this pose looks, do what you can and only go as low as you can go. This pose increases circulation and blood flow to the groin area, which heightens sensitivity in the bedroom. It targets your inner thighs and increases flexibility allowing your legs to spread wider. This also allows for deeper penetration in the bedroom. This position also strengthens the spine as well as stimulate abdominal organs.
How far would you go to meet a man and find love?
I’m sure you’re tired of the question.
But one woman, 34-year-old comedy writer Jana Schmieding, went as far as to panhandle in the hopes of finding just that on the New York City subway. If that sounds terrifying to you, that’s probably because it is, and it was not an easy thing for Schmieding to carry out. But she told Cosmo that she lives by the mantra that “if something feels frightening, it’s probably time to try it out.”
After dealing with sweaty palms and major anxiety as she prepared to make her move on the train, which was taped by a friend, Schmieding put on lipstick and hopped on a few different lines.
So how did it go? As Schmieding told the publication, “I’ll tell you one thing: thank you to the moms, grandmas and adult women of NYC who were the first people to engage with me with responses like, You’re going to be fine! or I know you’ll find him! Women are amazing. Very few men actually interacted with me, and I can understand why. There’s probably a lot of pressure when a woman is literally begging you to hand over your number.”
While someone initially bust out laughing at her request for numbers as opposed to change in the clip, most people were encouraging. One told Schmieding that she didn’t meet the right guy until she was in her 30s, another applauded her courage, and the rest gave her compliments (the type that said, “You don’t have to do this, mami…”)
In the end, Schmieding still hasn’t reached out to the numbers she was given by people on the train (they were numbers men were giving for other men they know), but she found the entire experience to be “extremely helpful and uplifting on my quest through to the other side of loneliness.”
I smiled and even laughed at the video after initially cringing at her opening speech. And I thought it was lovely how many people embraced her (not physically) instead of clowning her as some could have. But still, I found myself cringing once again when the video was over.
I think it’s because, as she said “Happy Valentine’s Day” to straphangers near the end of the clip, I was reminded of the over-the-top lengths some women went to because of one day of the year. Hallmark is out here winning.
Like the co-worker of the friend of one of my colleagues. Not only did this woman make it clear that she hates Valentine’s Day, but she took off work Thursday and Friday of last week because she didn’t want to see women in her office being sent flowers by their valentines.
Or like the woman my fiancé watched share all of her personal business inside of Little Caesars because she just assumed someone would wonder why she was in the pizzeria alone: “Yeah, I know it’s pathetic! I’m getting a pizza to eat by myself on Valentine’s Day.” No one asked, no one really cared. Especially not the woman taking orders at the front window just trying to get the $10 or $11 folks owed for their pies.
Or like the people on social media who responded to the fake question of who their Valentine was by playing Alicia Keys’s “No One.”
The self-deprecation is all too real. And I saw it consistently as a way for people to deal with the holiday. If they laughed at themselves first, spoke of how “desperate” they were, like Schmieding did, others couldn’t.
And that’s cool if that’s what folks want to do. But I think we all place too much value, singles, and couples, on not just Valentine’s Day, but having a partner, because we’re too pressed about what others think. We feel as though we have to do the absolute most on one day to have a unique story to tell people about how we spent it, to validate our relationships, and to show people that we are in fact happy. And if we’re single, we either need to go into hiding or joke about being lonely to save face. Or in Schmieding’s case, joke about being so desperate enough to find a man that we’d take to looking for love with moody people on the subway (even if that desperation was real).
I don’t have a deep resolution for all this. I don’t know what to say in fact. But I think we all need to back away from social media, #relationshipgoals, love and relationship listicles (yep, even some here on MN) and whatever has us all so pressed, and focus less on finding a happily ever after through another being.
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At this point, we’ve all gotten to know The Game and his quite cocky antics on a more personal level thanks to social media. A real contender with clap backs, selfies and more than a few intimate photos, the 36-year-old Los Angeles emcee keeps it real with his 5.5 million followers on Instagram — sometimes too real.
On Friday (Feb. 12), better known as “Fine N***a Friday,” he decided to spread some pre-holiday vibes to masses with a revealing photo. He snapped a photo of himself grabbing his male parts in a pair of boxer briefs and a bare chest.
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While this type of photo maybe shocking to some, others that follow the rapper know that this is nothing new. Game has taken several photos showing off his d**k print, leaving ladies commenting with a plethora of thirsty emojis ranging from the infamous eggplant to heart eyes.
And of course he captioned the photo with slew of clever hashtags per usual: “#WhatIsHeDoingForYou, #DoesHeLickItFromTheFrontToTheBack and #HasHeSlidUnderThatPu**yLikeAMechanichAndTunedItUpWitHisTongue.”
He even shouted out the popular #RelationshipGoals tag: “#TreatThatWomanLikeBarackTreatsMichelle #EspeciallyIfSheTreatsYouLikeAyeshaTreatsSteph #NoExcusesN***a.”
Well ladies, he’s got a point there, we should all be treated like queens, but the picture definitely distracts from it. Are you here for guys showing off their eggplant pictures on social media or nah?
Valentine’s Day is here and you’re s till empty-handed, huh?
Of course we understand that between work and balancing the roller coaster that is life, the reminder you set on your phone to pick up a gift for your man became piled onto your to-do list. However, there’s no need to worry. It’s still early, 9 a.m. to be exact, and we’ve compiled a short and sweet list of last-minute gifts for him that won’t break your bank. C’mon ladies, you’ve got this!
Continue clicking and thank us later.
Happy Valentine’s day! The lovey-dovey business is somewhat overkill on days like today but let’s get into it. We might as well make a day of it and we’re here to help you do just that. Ladies, we’ve put together a list of recipes to choose from to make your Valentine’s day dinner, dessert and the morning after one to remember. From savory pasta dishes, surf and turf and a slew of red velvet themed sweets from the Food Network.com, your man is sure to feel especially loved on this happy Sunday. And since you’ve got the time, why not get him involved and see what kind of magic you two can make together … in the kitchen, that is. The options are limitless, take a look …
1 cup sugar
1/4 cup finely minced peeled ginger
1 bottle (750 ml) cava or other dry sparkling wine
1/2 teaspoon pomegranate molasses
Combine the sugar, 1 cup water and the ginger in a saucepan over medium-low heat; allow to come to a gentle simmer, stirring until the sugar has completely dissolved.
Remove from the heat and let the ginger syrup cool to room temperature. Strain the syrup and discard the ginger.
Pop open the bubbly and grab a couple of champagne flutes. Divide the pomegranate molasses between the flutes, then add about 2 tablespoons of the ginger syrup to each. Top with the bubbly. Clink glasses and enjoy! (Store the remaining ginger syrup in the fridge. You can drizzle it into seltzer the rest of the week.)
3 tablespoons unsalted butter
1 pound mixed wild mushrooms, such as shiitake and cremini, trimmed
Kosher salt and freshly ground pepper
4 (6-ounce) beef fillets, about 1 1/2 inches thick
1 shallot, finely chopped
2 tablespoons grainy mustard
1 cup heavy cream
2 tablespoons chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley, plus more for garnish, optional
Heat 2 tablespoons butter in a large, heavy nonstick skillet over medium-high heat until hot. Add the mushrooms and 1/2 teaspoon salt and 1/2 teaspoon pepper. Cook, stirring occasionally, until browned, about 6 minutes.
Wipe out the skillet. Heat the remaining 1 tablespoon butter in the skillet over high heat until hot. Sprinkle the beef generously with salt and pepper. Sear over medium-high heat, turning once halfway through, until browned, about 12 minutes for medium. Transfer the beef to a platter.
Add the shallots to the skillet and cook over medium heat, stirring, until golden, about 3 minutes. Add the mustard and heavy cream and bring to a boil, cooking until slightly thickened, about 3 minutes. Stir in the parsley. Spoon the sauce on a plate; place the beef on the sauce and scatter the mushrooms over top. Garnish with additional parsley, if desired.
2 skin-on, bone-in chicken breasts (12 to 14 ounces each)
Kosher salt and freshly ground pepper
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
1 pound oyster and/or maitake mushrooms, trimmed and torn into pieces
1 tablespoon unsalted butter
1 tablespoon all-purpose flour
1/2 cup low-sodium chicken broth
1 cup dry red wine
1/2 teaspoon sugar
Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F. Season the chicken with 1/2 teaspoon salt, and pepper to taste. Heat a medium skillet over medium-high heat; add 1/2 tablespoon vegetable oil, then add the chicken, skin-side down, and cook until the skin is golden brown, about 6 minutes. Transfer to a rimmed baking sheet, skin-side up; reserve the skillet.
Toss the mushrooms with the remaining 1/2 tablespoon vegetable oil and season with salt and pepper; scatter around the chicken on the baking sheet. Bake until the mushrooms are tender and a thermometer inserted into the thickest part of the chicken registers 160 degrees F, about 25 minutes.
Meanwhile, melt the butter in the reserved skillet over medium heat. Add the flour and cook, stirring, 1 minute. Add the chicken broth and bring to a simmer, whisking. Add the wine, sugar and 1/4 teaspoon salt and simmer until the sauce is reduced by half, about 10 minutes. Season with salt and pepper.
Spoon some of the red wine sauce onto each plate; top with the chicken and mushrooms.
2 tablespoons olive oil
6 chicken thighs, skinless
1 teaspoons salt
1/2 teaspoons pepper
1 medium onion, sliced
1 cup chicken stock
1/2 cup white wine
1 (14.5-ounce) can crushed tomatoes in thick puree
1 teaspoon dried thyme
1/2 tablespoon dried rosemary
1 tablespoon lemon-pepper
Hot buttered rice
2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley leaves
Heat the oil in a 12-inch skillet over medium-high heat.
Pat chicken dry with a paper towel and season with salt and pepper. Brown the chicken, meat-side down first, and turning once, about 4 minutes on each side. Transfer to a plate to reserve.
Pour off all but 1 tablespoon of oil from the pan.
Add onion to the pan and saute until tender, roughly 3 minutes. Add the stock and wine and stir, scrapping any brown bits off the bottom of the pan. Turn heat to high and reduce by half, about 3 minutes. Pour in the crushed tomatoes and add the dried herbs and lemon pepper. Add the chicken thighs back into the pan.Cover and cook on medium-low heat for 40 minutes.
Remove chicken from liquid and serve on hot buttered rice. Ladle the sauce on top and garnish with fresh chopped parsley.
For the Herb Oil:
1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley
2 tablespoons chopped fresh chives
2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
Kosher salt and freshly ground pepper
For the Surf and Turf:
6 jumbo shrimp, peeled and deveined (tails intact)
2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
Juice of 1/2 lemon
2 teaspoons chopped fresh thyme, plus 2 to 3 sprigs
Freshly ground pepper
6 slices pancetta (about 2 ounces)
1 10 -ounce piece beef tenderloin, trimmed
8 asparagus spears
1 tablespoon unsalted butter
Make the herb oil: Pulse the parsley, chives and olive oil in a mini food processor until smooth. Thin with water, if necessary, and add 1/4 teaspoon each salt and pepper. Transfer to a small bowl, cover and set aside. (This can be done up to 2 hours ahead.)
Prepare the surf and turf: Toss the shrimp, olive oil, lemon juice, chopped thyme, and pepper to taste in a bowl. Wrap each shrimp with a piece of pancetta.
Preheat the broiler. Arrange the shrimp on a foil-lined broiler pan. Season the beef with sea salt and pepper, press the thyme sprigs into the meat and set aside. Snap off the tough ends of the asparagus. Put the asparagus in a microwave-safe dish with 1/4 cup water and a pinch of sea salt.
Heat a medium ovenproof skillet over high heat and add the butter. When the foam subsides, sear the beef until golden brown, about 3 minutes per side. Using tongs, hold the meat and brown the sides. Transfer the skillet to the broiler and cook until a thermometer inserted into the beef registers 125 degrees F for medium rare, about 4 more minutes. Transfer to a cutting board to rest while you cook the shrimp.
Broil the shrimp until the pancetta is crisp, about 2 minutes per side. Meanwhile, microwave the asparagus until tender, about 2 minutes.
Slice the beef into 4 pieces. Serve with the shrimp, herb oil and asparagus.
1/2 cup extra-virgin olive oil, 2 tablespoons for boiling water
6 ounces button mushrooms, sliced
1 (10-ounce) package frozen chopped spinach, thawed and squeezed dry
1/4 cup mascarpone
1/3 cup grated Parmesan, plus extra for garnishing
6 egg roll wrappers (6 1/2 by 6 1/2-inch squares)
2 large eggs, beaten with 1 teaspoon water
1/2 cup mushroom ( cremini, shiitake, button), finely chopped
2 cups tomato sauce, recipe follows
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
In a large saute pan heat 1/4 cup of the olive oil. When almost smoking, add the mushrooms and season with salt and pepper. Cook until all the liquid has evaporated from the mushrooms, about 6 minutes. Add spinach and cook for 2 minutes. Remove from heat and place mixture into the bowl of a food processor. Pulse until you get a coarse texture. Place in bowl and stir in mascarpone and Parmesan cheese. Check for seasoning and set aside.
Line up 3 wrappers on a cutting board. Brush with the egg and
water mixture. Using a tablespoon, arrange 4 dollops of the filling on each wrapper – 2 on the first row and 2 on the second – 1-inch apart. Place another wrapper directly on top, pressing around the filling and sealing the edges. Using a fluted ravioli cutter, cut out squares of ravioli. Each filled wrapper will yield 4 raviolis, giving you a total of 12 ravioli. Place ravioli onto a floured baking sheet and keep covered with a linen towel.
In a large pot, bring to a boil 4 quarts of salted and oiled water. Carefully add small batches of ravioli, about 3 to 4 at a time. This will prevent them from crowding in the pot and sticking together. Cook for 2 to 3 minutes. Using a spider strainer, carefully remove the ravioli and place on the plate. Tent with foil to keep warm and continue cooking remaining ravioli.
In a saute pan, heat remaining 1/4 cup olive oil. When almost smoking, add chopped mushrooms and saute until soft and most of the liquid has evaporated, about 8 minutes. Carefully pour in tomato sauce and simmer for 5 minutes.
Divide ravioli between 2 serving plates. Top with mushroom tomato sauce and sprinkle with Parmesan.
Simple Tomato Sauce:
1/2 cup extra-virgin olive oil
1 small onion, chopped
2 cloves garlic, chopped
1 stalk celery, chopped
1 carrot, chopped
Sea salt and freshly ground black pepper
2 (32-ounce) cans crushed tomatoes
2 dried bay leaves
4 tablespoons unsalted butter, optional
In a large casserole pot, heat oil over medium high heat. Add onion and garlic and saute until soft and translucent, about 5 to 10 minutes. Add celery and carrots and season with salt and pepper. Saute until all the vegetables are soft, about 5 to 10 minutes. Add tomatoes and bay leaves and simmer uncovered on low heat for 1 hour or until thick. Remove bay leaves and check for seasoning. If sauce still tastes acidic, add unsalted butter, 1 tablespoon at a time to round out the flavors.
Add 1/2 the tomato sauce into the bowl of a food processor. Process until smooth. Continue with remaining tomato sauce.
If not using all the sauce, allow it to cool completely and pour 1 to 2 cup portions into freezer plastic bags. This will freeze up to 6 months.
Still searching for the one? You know, just the right outfit to wear this Valentine’s Day? We’ve got you covered with four Valentine’s Day outfit ideas for different types of dates and tastes. Check them out for inspiration on how to style similar items you may already own.
Reservations were made weeks ago. Your hair will be laid. Everything is right on track for the perfect dinner date. Oh, wait, what are you going to wear? If dinner for two has become the norm, you should take extra care this Valentine’s Day to look exceptional!
Skip the dress and go for sophisticated separates. A slinky top paired with wide-leg trousers is right on-trend. Stick with all black and a pop of baby pink for an outfit that meshes well with the holiday without being overdone. Now you can concentrate on more important things–like the wine list.
Necklace, Amber Sceats – $229
Tank, Tibi – $70 (4-day rental)
Blazer, River Island – $90 (org. $200)
Pants, Antipodium – $435
Clutch, Monsoon – $68
Heels, Steve Madden – $129.95
With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, coupled-up women everywhere are wondering what they’re going to get this weekend. If you haven’t dropped your hints just yet, check out these romantic gifts from celebrity men and get inspired. These husbands, boyfriends (some are now exes) went all out to surprise their significant others with just what they wanted for Valentine’s Day. Or better yet, something fabulous that they never expected.
An $8 million dollar necklace may not be in your boo’s budget. But a girl can dream, right?
Check out the fabulous gifts these guys provided for their ladies and get in the Valentine’s Day spirit. And yes, there is such a thing, thank you very much.
Plane Tickets To Anywhere In The World
Right on time for a Valentine’s Day trip around the world, Russell Wilson, who was crowned MVP at the Pro Bowl recently, was given plane tickets to anywhere he wants to go. He said he’s taking Ciara with him, and they will go wherever she chooses!
By One Happy Brother
I don’t want you to know my name. Let me tell you why.
I am dating a woman that does not believe in Valentine’s Day as a celebration, a holiday or any other sort of special day. I have found the proverbial unicorn of ladies and I am not about to reveal my identity so that folks can interfere. Men are going to try to take my lady. And women are going to try to disrupt my joy for fear that this incredible, rare creature could spread this to others.
We are the “others.” I am chillin’ like a super villain as my married and committed brethren are running around looking for cheap roses, candy and other faux romantic items. Some guys resort to deplorable moves like creating a disastrous argument as a temporary act of sabotage to kill their own relationship weeks before Valentine’s Day. Shame on them. Some guys cannot take the pressure. They walk around upset that this is the only way their lady will respect them. Money. Chocolate. Breakfast in bed. A toe rub or something.
Me? I don’t have to worry about any of that. First of all, Valentine’s Day really is a fake holiday. It is a wholly created product of capitalism. People spend billions and billions in chocolate alone. (Experts believe consumers will clear $20 billion on Valentine’s Day this year, a record year in spending.) You know and I know we all are broke in varying degrees. It is just an excuse to buy freakin’ expensive Hallmark cards and fraudulently luxury dinner at Red Lobster. Don’t even get me started on the kids. We teach them that you have to spend money in order to show how much you love another person. Bah!
At the core, my mate rejects Valentine’s Day, because she asserts you should show love every day. I agree! You should give loved ones gifts ongoing out of love, not because some man-made, marketing ploy from back in the day. I agree! Also, she maintains affections should not be commodified. I agree! She feels it should not be stressful. Yep, I agree. And lastly, the feminist in her feels the holiday centers on what the man can do/give/buy/offer women in exchange for something that resembles love. I couldn’t agree more.
I admit, I have had fun days with Valentine’s Day, but I was about that life before I met my partner.
In my relationships, I regularly bring her flowers. I write little letters. I cuddle. I certainly could do better in the “Hi honey, I’m home” department, but we all fall short of the glory in some way or another. The real issue with Valentine’s Day is just about everything about it is FAKE, even the historical origins. I show love to my kids every day. Real love. I don’t want them to think that Valentine’s Day represents true adoration. Most times these dudes are out here showing love to get into a women’s panties, not because they love them. Women want real love, but will settle for the fantasy for a day. Women will do whatever they must to be attached to anything, anybody on this day. Just so they aren’t bitter and alone. Guys haul ass to avoid the harrowing experience. Society sucks. Lets move on.
Make “Valentine’s Day” every day. Just leave the over-priced cards, sugar products and false love in the retail store of your choice.
Each year, you hear about singles who wish that they had a special someone on Valentine’s Day. What we rarely hear about, however, are the folks in relationships who are sitting around daydreaming about the days when they were unattached around this time of year. Well, until now, that is.
According to a recent survey conducted by First 4 Lawyers on adults in the UK, 34 percent of people in relationships actually wish that they were single on the popular holiday while 35 percent of singles shared that they wish they were in relationships this time of year.
The study also revealed that while 63 percent of singles felt that Valentine’s Day gifts and gestures were important, 70 percent of people in relationships shared that the day doesn’t hold much significance. For 34 percent of those who felt the day wasn’t a big deal believe that Valentine’s Day has never been anything to make a fuss over. 10 percent said that while the day was once filled with romance, children and other responsibilities have changed that.
Sure, it’s nice that there’s a national holiday that encourages lovers to show appreciation for one another, but if you really love someone, you’re probably showing them how much you care on a regular basis.
Are you single or in a relationship this year? Are you happy with your current relationship status?