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“I Love You Baby”: After Publicly Dissing Each Other, Juelz Santana & Kimbella Reunite In Time For Valentine’s Day
If you can learn anything from Juelz Santana and Kimbella Vanderhee (as well as Chris Brown and Karrueche Tran if we’re keeping it 100), it’s that you shouldn’t share your relationship woes with the public when you know good and well that you’re going to reunite. It’s just silly…and eye-roll worthy.
We told you last month that Juelz and Kimbella started the new year on the wrong foot. He claimed that she was trying to change him, and then she said that he wasn’t handling his business. They broke up, but the pettiness continued as Kimbella claimed that after they split, he hadn’t made an effort to see his kids. It was all bad. But a month after all that drama unfolded, it looks like these two have kissed and made up, and they did so just in time to celebrate Valentine’s Day together…
When people had something to say about the pair getting back together and appearing so cozy after publicly trashing each other, Kimbella responded, and apologized for their past behavior:
Well, glad to know they were able to work things out. Hopefully, now they can keep their differences off of the Internet and take care of business together. *Fingers crossed*
My husband doesn’t believe in Valentine’s Day. Birthdays…yes. Anniversaries…absolutely. But Valentine’s Day…he wants no parts of it. However, the romantic in me has always appreciated Cupid’s Day. In the past, I’ve never slit my wrists when February 14th rolled around and I had no man. But when I did have a boo and I received flowers, candy or a teddy bear, my heart would smile. I’m just like that I guess.
Now, just because my husband doesn’t believe in Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean he’s never given me a gift on February 14th. In fact, he’s bought me tulips (my favorite) and some nice lingerie. He even got me a Valentine’s Day card once. But he did it because he knew I’d like it, not because he’s a hopeless V-Day romantic like I am. It was his way of saying, “See how much I love you that I would give in to this commercial holiday designed to break a dude’s pockets?!” And yes, I appreciated it…because I knew it went against everything he believed in just to put a smile on my face. I never gave him grief about his beliefs, and I agree with his reasons for not celebrating Valentine’s Day – especially when you trace its origins. If this Saturday comes and he says, “I love you,” that’s all the warm and fuzzies I need for that day.
But what if you are a full-fledged sucker for Valentine’s Day and your man isn’t? What to do then? While I can’t answer that for you, what I can say is that now that we’re married with a baby, I appreciate the little affirmations of love that I receive daily, not just on special “holidays.” Love should be freely given, and it shouldn’t cost and arm and a leg to express it. Cards, flowers, candy, fancy dinners – they’re all wonderful. But If you only feel loved on your birthday or Valentine’s Day…something is wrong.
Now, if you know that your man or your husband loves you, but just isn’t a fan of a holiday that feels like forced romance, then by all means…let him hate the holiday. If he shows you in a million other ways that he loves you all year around, then you might want to just let it slide. Some women get downright angry at their man if Valentine’s Day comes and they don’t even get so much as a Hershey’s Kiss. To them I say ask yourself what about him not liking the “holiday” bothers you so much. Do you feel like it’s a slap in the face if he doesn’t acknowledge you on V-Day? Are you materialistic and feel he should spend a small fortune on you in order to show you he cares? Are you more concerned with what your friends will think if you don’t get a gift on Valentine’s Day? Do you need public displays of affection to feel socially accepted? If Valentine’s Day is important to you, you have to figure out why first before you get mad at him for not giving in to your whims.
If after all of your soul-searching you find that you are in a fulfilling relationship with someone who just doesn’t believe in V-Day, then by all means let it go. Go out to dinner with your girlfriends, or pamper yourself at a spa while he watches the All Star Game. Or shower your man with gifts even if he doesn’t get you anything. If you TRULY believe in Valentine’s Day, then you can still express your love for him without expecting anything in return. And if he would not be receptive to gifts, simply snuggle with him on the sofa instead.
There is nothing wrong with your relationship if you don’t receive a box of chocolates on Valentine’s Day, but there IS something wrong if that is the only day you have to look forward to in order to feel loved by your mate. And I’m not talking about romance. I’m talking about LOVE. Sure, V-Day is a chance for him to show his romantic side if he’s genuinely not the romantic type in general…so maybe he DOES need a day to help bring this side out of himself. But as far as authentic love is concerned, that’s something that can’t be contained in one Hallmark card one day out of the year. True love is what you feel the day after Valentine’s Day…and the day after that…and the day after that. And if you don’t feel it the other 364 days of the year, then Valentine’s Day really doesn’t matter.
How come it’s cute when rich people slum it up at chain restaurants, but tacky when the rest of us, who are trying to dine-out while staying within our means, do the same?
What I mean is that last week, the Internet was full of gooey gumdrops and chocolate Hershey’s kisses over reports that the Legends and the Kardashians…or the Wests…had a double date at the Waffle House. In an exclusive interview about the dinner-for-four, which went viral thanks to a pic taken of the group (seen above), Chrissy Teigen tells Cosmopolitan:
“Well, of course we’re all friends, and we had gone to the DirecTV party to watch Rihanna perform, and Kanye had come out as the surprise guest and just killed it. We were on such a high from watching him perform. Everyone [who saw the photo]was like, Why are they so dressed up for a Waffle House? We were already dressed up from the party, and so we were just kind of having a good time, and I don’t know how it started. I’m sure it was probably my idea. [Laughs] I always make a late-night run somewhere. The night before it was Taco Bell, the night before [that] it was Jack-in-the-Box. And I had never been to a Waffle House. So it was time. And they were so great too. Everyone that worked there was so cool. They just kept trying to get the meal perfect, so it took a while. But it was worth it, for sure.”
Aww, isn’t that sweet? They’re just like regular people – except we hate regular people.
What I mean is that earlier this week, folks in my social media timeline were turning their noses up at the idea of having Valentine’s dinner at the Waffle House. The same spot (well, not the same exact location but the same chain) where folks gushed over John Legend, Chrissy Teigen, Kim Kardashian and Kanye West dining and holding hands awkwardly is still considered too low-class for the rest of us.
According to a past story from CBS 46.com:
Flowers, chocolates and dinners end up costing a lot of money on Valentine’s Day. But some people save a few bucks by taking their sweethearts to Waffle House for their candle-lit dinner.
It might not be some people’s first choice, but customers at the Cheshire Bridge Road Waffle House actually made reservations to get in the door.
“We’re not fancy people,” said Pamela Prusin. “We like Waffle House and its good food.”
Waffle House rolled out the red carpet for the big day. Serving steak and sizzle is quickly growing into a tradition.
“It’s a great place to be,” said Iris Jackson with Waffle House. “It’s family-oriented, it’s fun, it’s festive, you don’t have to wait hours to get in line.”
The chain has offered the holiday service for nearly six years at 145 locations.
Some in my timeline think Valentine’s dinner at the Waffle House is hood, even if you are broke, considering the fact that even a broke couple has the option of a romantic dinner for two at home. However, I personally feel like this is a good idea. Everyone needs love and a romantic evening–even those who are not as financially secure. Not everyone can afford five-star restaurants and moonlight carriage rides through the neighborhood. Some of us can only afford a bus token, a couple of Texas melt platters, and maybe an extra side of hash browns. What’s wrong with that?
And if we can really keep it real, Valentine’s Day is a holiday marked by marketing, not decreed by God. The value we put on celebrating that one particular day – and how we celebrate that one particular day – might actually overshadow what our loved ones show us daily without the encouragement of the holiday.
However, I know folks feel differently, so I truly want to know what you think. If your significant other sprang a Valentine Day’s meal at the Waffle House on you, would you think it was quirky and romantic, or would you be on Match.com looking for your next beau?
Since you all loved our last segment with Guy Code so much we decided to team up with the fellas again for a series of videos “breaking the code” on what men feel about all sorts of things, love, sex, dating, women, and fatherhood related, and because we still needed voices of reason, we added our very own editors in the mix to weigh in on all the questions. In this first episode of “Breaking the Code” we’re hitting on the top three questions we all want to know about Valentine’s Day.
1. Do men really want gifts?
2. How to ask if you’re spending Valentine’s Day together (without getting your feelings hurt) when you’ve just started dating?
3. What it means if you don’t spend Valentine’s Day together?
Watch, laugh, and be enlightened.
For some couples, the hearts, chocolate and violins of Valentine’s Day help them celebrate their wonderful relationships; for others, it just reminds them that their relationship is a big, fat lie. Here are 15 celebrity couples who broke up on Valentine’s Day.
The weather may be cold and dreary outside, but things are certainly heating up at a movie theater near you. With just a day before the highly anticipated, BDSM-fest known as “Fifty Shades of Grey” hits theaters, we thought it only appropriate to break out some of our favorite love scenes from the big screen. But we’re not just talking about any love scenes. Here are some of the hottest, some of the steamiest and some of the most memorable love scenes in movie history. Enjoy!
When love is in the air, it makes us all act funny.
Put those sappy romances away. We’ve got the definitive list of the best movies to watch on Valentine’s Day when you’re single.
If your sweetie is pushing for a $200 Valentine’s dinner, just present him/her with this list of reminders as to why a restaurant is the last place you want to be on the holiday. Here are 15 annoying things restaurants do on Valentine’s Day.
It’s that time of the year again: When the florists’ phones are ringing for deliveries of long stemmed red roses, Godiva chocolates are being picked up and passed around, and men are stressed to the nines about doing the right things and getting the right gifts. Yes, it’s time to celebrate the most romantic day on the calendar. Many people may argue that you don’t have to wait for Valentine’s Day to show your significant other how you feel about them, but the truth of the matter is that this is indeed a special day for couples.
While there are a number of people who anticipate giving and receiving gifts, and spending time with their significant other, there are those who won’t. Many single women will sit home watching Netflix movies while cuddled up with a nice chilled bottle of wine, and some will get together with a group of friends for a fun night out. But what do single men do on the holiday? One can’t help but think about how the single men of the world feel on this day, and if it holds any value to them at all.
My curiosity wouldn’t let this rest, so I asked a small group of attractive, intelligent, unmarried men if they get the Valentine’s Day blues like some women. I also asked them how they feel about the day, and what they do when they aren’t someone’s Valentine. Here’s what they said:
A few men I asked said that they don’t care when they don’t have a date on Valentine’s Day. Why? Because they save money, what with not having to spend money on flowers, candy and gifts.
Others told me that men aren’t as hung up on holidays and events like women, so when they’re not attached, they don’t give a second thought to Valentine’s Day.
While these were two of the most popular answers, there were a few others that were very interesting.
One guy stated that being single during this time offers the perfect opportunity to pounce on a woman they’ve been eyeing, because she’s looking to have a date for Valentine’s Day, or at least meet someone around that time. By swooping in at the right moment, the man also stated that they can easily “get some.”
Another intriguing response I received was that Valentine’s Day can make some men feel a little lonely if they don’t have anyone special in their life–or in their contact list. This man said that deep down, some men want a date, but refuse to admit it.
I was also told that men often feel relieved to be unattached on Valentine’s Day, because with the day comes pressure not just for gifts and affection, but expectations for a relationship after the fact if they’re in the courting phase with a woman. But most men won’t show that continuous affection and make a commitment unless what they have with someone is real.
Hearing these answers gave me better insight into how men feel about Valentine’s Day. It also helped me realize that the thoughts and emotions of the opposite sex aren’t so different when it comes to certain matters of the heart. So while most men won’t bat an eye about the holiday, just know that there are some who might feel some type of way. But considering that it’s one day out of 365, they, along with women who find themselves feeling a little lonely on Valentine’s Day, will be just fine.
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For and an advocate for single women. Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin