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When you muster up the courage to put your feelings for another person on Front Street, there’s always the possibility that your advances will be shot down. One can only hope that the potential shooter has enough compassion to let you down delicately.
Last week, Tyrese boldly took to Instagram to praise and kick game to Janelle Monae by way of a Woman Crush Wednesday post. In the lengthy post, the “Stay” singer pondered what he could “help” her with or “protect” her from. In other words, he auditioned for the role of Miss Janelle Monae’s man in front of all of us.
I’m in my grown man feelings tonight! – I hope you get the message –
I’m a sucker for a naturally beautiful, God fearing woman who’s smart and authentic who’s strong and self-sufficient – most guys out here will run fast and be intimidated with the idea of all the things I just mentioned about you… tonight I showed up to celebrate and to be a part of one of the most special nights of my life as a singer Stevie Wonder turned 65 and I asked to sit in Janelle Monae section she blessed me and said of course and was I reminded of a feeling I’ve had before a few times before…. I often wonder what I can protect you from…. What I can help you with, what insight of information can I give to help further your goal and life’s intentions – is there anything I can do or say to support you and just help you get ahead – I often wonder – sweet dreams – (((( I know a few girls who would feel like they deserve this post – )) I’m sure I’m gonna catch some heat for this post – I’m so sure ha! But I won’t delete it – cause I speak my truth….. And my truth won’t change………
Unfortunately for him, she doesn’t seem too interested; however, I can appreciate that she curved his advances both a respectful and tactful manner. Her Twitter response reads:
Always positive and endearing to see a man show admiration for an Electric Lady. I am Honored. Thank you @Tyrese.
Always positive and endearing to see a man show admiration for an Electric Lady. I am Honored. Thank you @Tyrese! 🙏
— Janelle Monáe, Cindi (@JanelleMonae) May 18, 2015
Well played, Janelle. Well played.
We’ve already established, several times over, that Tyrese is a bit wayward in his thinking. I’m not going to link all the ways he’s proven his ignorance over the years but if you just click here, you can check out a list of times Tyrese has made some side-eye to absolutely cringe-worthy comments, particularly about women and relationships.
But today, he’s taking it a step further. Tyrese has expressed his admiration for women before. But never like this. Who’s the object of his affection? Janelle Monae.
This is what Tyrese wrote:
#WCW I'm in my grown man feelings tonight! – I hope you get the message – I'm a sucker for a naturally beautiful, God fearing woman who's smart and authentic who's strong and self sufficient – most guys out here will run fast and be intimidated with the idea of all the things I just mentioned about you… tonight I showed up to celebrate and and to be apart of one of the most special nights of my life as a singer Stevie Wonder turned 65 and I asked to sit in Janelle Monae section she blessed me and said of course and was I reminded of a feeling I've had before a few times before…. I often wonder what I can protect you from…. What I can help you with, what insight of information can I give to help further your goal and life's intentions – is there anything I can do or say to support you and just just help you get ahead – I often wonder – sweet dreams – (((( I know a few girls who would feel like they deserve this post – )) I'm sure I'm gonna catch some heat for this post – I'm so sure ha! But I won't delete it – cause I speak my truth….. And my truth won't change………
Listen, I know some of y’all will think this is sweet but this is also hella weird. Perhaps it’s just me; and I know we can learn from everybody, but the thought of Tyrese protecting and teaching Janelle Monae is almost laughable. Furthermore, his desire to protect and teach her, when his thoughts toward women have been so problematic, seems to provide even more evidence of Tyrese’s misogyny. Tyrese is the type of dude to call you a queen in one breath and then a hoe when you exercise your own agency. But that’s just me.
What do you think about his comments? Do you find them sweet or suspect?
The graphic novel industry is still a major force to be reckoned with. In 2014, more than $800 million worth of graphic novels sold around the world. And while these works may be successful, just like television and film, diversity remains a major issue within the comic book world.
We all may be familiar with Green Lantern, The Boondocks, Storm from X-Men, Black Panther, and Luke Cage, but there are a number of other lesser-known graphic novels featuring people of color that are worth picking up, and characters of color worth paying attention to who have come and gone. We take a look at 10 Black graphic novels that you may not have known about and should pick up (links provided!).
Deepak Nope-rah: 11 Times Stars Wanted Us To Believe They Were Deep When They Actually Sounded Crazy
We’ve all had those moments when we read a celeb quote that made us roll our eyes and shake our heads because the star absolutely tried it. Thanks to social media, you can always expect a head-scratch worthy quote from a fake deep celeb. Let’s take a look at 11 times celebs did the absolute most.
Tyrese Says He Was Supposed To Be On “Empire,” But Child Custody Agreement Drama Kept That From Happening
We told you last month that Tyrese was hinting (or joking about) at the possibility of appearing on Empire. The actor and singer posted the following picture to Instagram, and while in character as his Baby Boy character, Jody, said he would have to make an appearance on the show to keep the likes of Derek Luke (Malcolm) and Terrence Howard (Lucious Lyon) out of his Cookie Jar (Taraji P. Henson):
I'm not cool with all these dudes feeling all up on Yvette and Its on TV? I heard they call her Cookie now? The homies are telling me I gotta gotta get my bitch back.. I guess I gotta change my name too and go do some show called #Empire? Cause that's where Yvette is now under her alias #Cookie? Damn…. see you soon —–Jody
see you soon…
While he said, “see you soon,” well, we never saw him on the show. Guess plans fell through.
But while chatting with the ladies of The Talk during a visit to promote Furious 7, Tyrese claimed that he, in fact, was supposed to have a role on the hit Fox show. Unfortunately, issues with his custody agreement with ex-wife, Norma Gibson, threw a monkey wrench into such plans.
“You know what? I was suppose to do Empire and I was dealing with some personal stuff with my little angel. So we’ll see what happens this year coming up. I’m just proud. Me and Taraji started with Baby Boy, so it’s almost like a beautiful fraternity where she’s off doing her thing, and I’m doing mine.
If you think of one of my favorites movies, The Notebook, it’s almost like Rachel McAdams and Ryan Gosling. The world just wants them to be together. But on the other side, I definitely don’t like seeing Terrence and this, and all this–I don’t like all this! I don’t like all this. That’s my bottom lip. But hey man, everybody likes a temporary fix, but I’m gonna go back you know what I’m saying, and it’s back to ya boy. Back to ya boy.”
Empire seems to be the show that everyone wants to get on, says they were supposed to be on, or claims was inspired by them. Everyone is trying to get a piece of that pie! But would you be interested in seeing Tyrese and Taraji reunite on the hit show? Honestly, I would be fine without all that. It’s time to let this whole Jody/Yvette fantasy go. That film was made almost 15 years ago, and clearly she’s moved on to major things.
But what do you think?
I don’t typically condone open letters from a non-famous person (me) to a famous person (you). At best, they’re a writer’s ploy to begin a public conversation. At worst, they’re just plain silly and a cop-out. The writer of the open letter gets to grandstand for everyone to see, but “everyone” usually includes only a few hundred Facebook friends and certainly doesn’t include the addressee (who, in this case, is you, Tyrese).
But I’m going against my better judgment and writing one because I have to get something off of my chest.
I actually like you, Tyrese. I wouldn’t say I’m a fan, but I’m not not a fan. I’ve long admired your skin. It’s impeccable. I mean, I’d ask you what products you use, but I suspect it’s more genetics than any dermatological additive. And you’ve always struck me as “a nice young man,” as my daddy would say.
I say “young man,” but you and I are practically the same age.
I remember when your McDonald’s commercial came out–oh, wait. I just Googled it. It was Coca-Cola–not McDonald’s. But anyway, that was you: pretty skin and straight white teeth, singing to yourself with those headphones on while riding a city bus. You looked like a young man who was going places. I mean, you were literally going places because you were on a bus, but you looked like you had “potential.” I dislike the word “potential,” but I’ll use it here because it makes the point that there was a brightness about you that pointed to an even brighter future.
Here we are at your bright future (hit songs, blockbuster movie franchise), and I wish you well from afar.
But I want you to know that you pissed me off the other day.
It was something you posted on your Instagram page last week.
It began with, “Ladies, when a man is focused on work, don’t stress him.” Then you went on to speak on behalf of hard-working, ambitious men everywhere, suggesting that ambitious men (or men with “vision,” as you put it) are unfairly hounded by the manipulative and needy women who claim to love them. Your bottom line was basically this: The best way to love an ambitious man is to leave him the hell alone and get over yourself, ladies.
Is that right?
When I first started reading your post, it didn’t bother me. But don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t nodding along in agreement either. Still, there was no skin off my back. I couldn’t begin to identify as one of the “ladies” you were addressing. I don’t see myself as the kind of woman who will check a guy or “slap his hand over small stuff,” as you said. That kind of nagging and keeping-in-check behavior is for women who take their relationships a lot more seriously than I do. You were describing women who are a lot more high-strung and high-maintenance than I am in relationships.
I wouldn’t say I’m low-maintenance. I’m more shady or faux high-maintenance. (Not sure what that means? Well, let’s just say, Tyrese, that if you date me, it will go like this: I will claim to be low-maintenance and to have no expectations until…well, I actually have a small expectation or two or three; and then my two or three small expectations will freak you out and your getting freaked out will annoy the sh*t out of me; I’ll just say f**k it and delete your number, never talking to you again. Stop. Repeat with a new guy. Ad infinitum.)
So, you see, Tyrese, I’m not the kind of girl who will stand in the doorway long enough to kiss you goodbye the next morning (or the same damn night), let alone one who will stand in between you and your dreams.
But there was something you said that got under my skin, Tyrese. If you ask me, it was plain ol’ reductive ridiculousness: “His work takes away from the attention you want, so you make it about you.”
Repeat: “You make it about you.”
I yelled at you in my head when I read that:
Hell yeah, I make it about me! And you make it about you! So now what?! What are we both supposed to make it about? You?! Get the f**k outta here with that sh*t.
Seriously, Tyrese. I call bullsh*t. I wish an ambitious man would have the nerve to chastise me for not being all about him if I spoke up about something I needed. I wouldn’t blame him for being all about himself, but I’d expect him to respect my decision to think about my best interests, too. Of course, the goal in a relationship is that “I make it about me, you make it about you, and together we make it about we.” But I think too many folks believe the only way to get to “we” is for one person to give up his or her self-advocacy in the relationship.
No. No. No. I will always make it about me. It must be about me. And maybe that’s why I’m not in a relationship right now. Maybe that’s the only child part of me talking.
There is never, ever anything wrong with someone making it about himself or herself in a relationship. I support the ambitious dude making it about himself, and I support the “What about me? What about us?” chick in his life making it about what she wants, too.
Do I support selfishness in relationships? Not exactly. But I don’t think self-advocacy and selfishness are the same things. My partner will need to be OK hearing about my needs and goals in the same way that I will need to be OK hearing about his. And chasing a dream doesn’t excuse you from fulfilling your partner’s needs in a relationship.
I understand that there are ups and downs and blah, blah, blah. I get it. It’s not going to be sunshine, long-stemmed roses, and royal adoration all of the time. That’s not what I’m talking about. I don’t look for the “treat your lady like a queen” thing from black men any more than I want them to look for “the selfless black woman” quotient in me.
And the selflessness quotient is really what you were getting at with that whole “you make it about you” statement, wasn’t it, Tyrese? That’s the prize y’all menfolk want, yes? The martyr. The ride or die chick. The Bonnie.
But consider our beloved Cookie, who’s probably the biggest “ride or die” chick on television. If she teaches us one thing, it’s this: Selflessness isn’t sustainable. Sooner or later, we womenfolk wanna get ours.
I know that’s an earful, Tyrese. Not that you’ll even read this. But I had to say something.
I shuddered at the thought that a woman might read your Instagram page and not speak up in a lopsided relationship that isn’t adequately serving her. I shuddered at the thought of a man lambasting his girlfriend with “you make it about you” remarks, causing that woman to feel ashamed for standing up for her needs.
I shuddered reading that post, Tyrese. I shuddered, and yes, I made it about me.
Exclusive: Tyrese’s Ex-Wife Norma Breaks Silence, Opens Up About Child Custody Drama & Being Abused During Their Marriage
For years, we’ve heard about all of the negativity surrounding singer Tyrese Gibson and his ex-wife Norma Mitchell. In addition to a pretty messy divorce, the two have had their share of legal disputes surrounding their 7-year-old daughter, Shayla. Their most recent run-in involved the actor Furious 7 claiming that he feared his ex would not bring their daughter back to the States following their upcoming vacation to Israel. The courts eventually ruled in Norma’s favor, as she and Shayla are set to take the trip later this week, but according to the artist and single mother, this has only been one of several of Gibson’s attempts to terrorize her.
“I just have come to a point where I felt that I really want to have a voice and speak up for myself,” Mitchell told MadameNoire regarding her decision to finally speak out. “It’s been a long time that I have been going through this and I just want to move on and move forward.”
Considering that this isn’t the first incident that has landed the former lovers in court, the single mother expressed that she didn’t have much of a reaction to last week’s fiasco.
“I’m not a flight risk. It was sad for me seeing myself called ‘Satan’ in the press. It really hurt my feelings. I would never take my daughter to live in a different country away from her father. And if I were going to do that, I wouldn’t be asking for her passport.”
Norma adds that it’s interesting that Gibson would even question whether or not she would return with Shayla. Apparently, there’s a clause in their custody agreement which was added on August 28 that prohibits both of them from traveling to countries that are not governed by The Hague Convention. Israel happens to be governed by The Hague.
“The Hague Convention protects against child abduction,” she explained. “For me to run off with my daughter to Israel is ludicrous. I wouldn’t even live there. I’m a British citizen. I feel like that wasn’t explained.”
The 7-day trip to Jerusalem will more than likely consist of celebrating Passover and catching up with relatives—including Mitchell’s mom, brother and grandmother.
“I’m just going to see my mom. My mom is from Israel and she’s in Israel with my grandmother who is too old to travel. Sometimes we only get to see them once a year. The last time we saw them was three years ago,” said Norma.
News of Mitchell’s upcoming trip to Israel led to many negative comments from misinformed people who have only negatives views of the country. But the London native, who bears both Trinidadian and Israeli descent, expressed that the trip will be a safe one. Their itinerary includes visiting the Mount of Olives and going to temple for prayer.
Despite the continuous hardships faced while attempting to co-parent in such a hostile environment, Mitchell hopes to reach out and help someone else with her story.
“Seven years [of silence] is long enough. It’s not in my nature to try to harm someone else. I’ve always tried my best to keep it moving and keep to myself, but I’ve also become very aware that there are other women out there who are going through similar situations.”
She intends to provide this support through her women’s empowerment campaign, “Because I’m a Woman.” In addition to helping to build the self-esteem and confidence of these women, Norma hopes to equip them with information to assist them in understanding the court system here in America.
“There are a lot of women who are going through what I’m going through and they simply don’t have the resources to help them move forward and overcome the things that they’re going through.”
And who better to help guide these women than Norma, who represented herself in court against her ex-husband’s attorney—who sources say is paid approximately $900 an hour to handle his custodial disputes?
“I will do my best to make it known that emotional violence, verbal abuse and mental abuse is something serious and it happens to many women. A lot of men are using the legal system to control women and to put them in a state of fear. A few of the things that have happened to me that I know have happened to other women is being followed and surveyed. That’s not something fun. It makes you anxious. You know, just provoking you and harassing you with emails. That overwhelms women and it puts you in a fear state.”
For years, there were rumors and reports of domestic abuse in the former couple’s marriage. Mitchell confirmed to us that there definitely were some abusive moments.
“Yes, there was [physical and emotional abuse in my marriage]. Definitely. If you have this conversation with many women, they can tell you the exact same thing. Sometimes it’s so covert that you don’t know it’s happening until it’s happening.”
Because she never spoke out about her experiences, she admits that situations like the 2014 incident involving former Baltimore Raven Ray Rice made her feel a bit guilty.
“I felt so irresponsible at that moment because I wasn’t taking responsibility as a woman and using my voice to perhaps alleviate those blows. It starts with words and then it becomes physical, but the words are what linger. The physical abuse heals quickly, but the emotional keeps coming back because you’re so unsure of yourself.”
Sadly, abuse can sometimes even continue once a relationship has ended. During her time spent in court feuding with her ex-husband, Norma recalled seeing countless women in distress that became emotionally unraveled out of fear that their children may be taken away.
“A lot of men with money and more power, especially with passive women, are using the legal system to abuse these women. Then they can point the finger and say, ‘Look at her, she’s crazy,’ because one day you just explode and can’t take it anymore.”
We were also able to discuss how the public nature of the divorce and custodial woes have impacted her personal life. The single mother admits that all of the negative media coverage makes it difficult to do every day things such as promote her business and even to date.
“People Google people. People research. People look at that stuff and they believe it. It’s not okay, but I know that it happens.”
As for what she tells her daughter about all of the reports about herself and her ex-husband, Norma had this to say:
“I explain to her the reality of what media is. You just have to say, ‘The media puts a lot of stories out there. Don’t pay attention.’ I’ve talked to her about it and have educated her on other stories of people who have negative things in the media. She has an understanding that it’s like watching a movie. It’s not reality and that what we go through in our personal lives only makes us stronger.”
To learn more about the “Because I’m a Woman” campaign, visit YourFreeMind.org.
Judge Allows Tyrese’s Ex-Wife To Take Their Daughter To Israel—Even Though He’s Afraid That She May Not Return
Last week, we told you that Tyrese attempted to put a stop to his ex-wife’s vacation to Israel because she plans to bring their daughter along. As previously reported, the singer feared that Norma Gibson would not return 7-year-old Shayla because Norma is actually a citizen of Israel.
Apparently, a judge didn’t see things this way because according to TMZ, Norma has been permitted to take Shayla with her to the Middle East. Earlier today, Tyrese was instructed by the courts to hand over Shayla’s passport to Norma for their trip. The two are scheduled to depart on March 27. They will be gone for two weeks.
Norma has agreed to make Tyrese aware of their itinerary for the trip. She has also made it clear that she has strong ties to Los Angeles and that it’s completely unreasonable for her ex-husband to consider her a flight risk.
Tyrese and Norma tied the knot just 10 months before filing for divorce in 2009. Prior to saying “I do,” the two were together for nearly seven years. It’s unclear why things unraveled the way that they did, but the singer has accepted at least part of the blame for their demise.
“I learned that sometimes marriage doesn’t work. When you get married you vow to share your life experiences with someone else. If you happen to be as busy as I am, your mind and spirit is all you have and if anything is taking away from that on any level then it might be time to re-evaluate that situation,” he told Essence in ’09.
Hopefully Norma providing the singer with a play-by-play of the trip will calm the waters. We’re also hoping that he hands over Shayla’s passport without a fight so that this doesn’t become any more difficult than it needs to be.
Taraji On Choosing Derek Luke Because He’s Chocolate And Keeping Terrence Howard Unaroused During Sex Scenes
Y’all already know that we’re waiting with baited breath to see how Lee Daniels, Danny Strong and the Lyon family will conclude season one of “Empire.” And of course we’re not the only ones. The show has captured the attention of the entire nation. So naturally, Taraji P. Henson has been making her rounds promoting the show. Recently, she sat down with Power 105’s Angie Martinez to discuss some of the behind the scenes secrets, including why she picked Derek Luke to be her second love interest, how she keeps Terrence Howard from getting an erection during their sex scenes and the little crush she had on Tyrese back in the day.
Check out the highlights from the interview and watch the entire thing on the last page.
Did you have any say in who got the role of your second love interest?
I did! They gave me a list and I said that one. You gotta know how to act too. Derek Luke is a good actor and he’s easy on the eye. But not only that, I just thought it would be great. You know in the community, we have this thing with light skin/ dark skin and I was like we gon’ have to mix this up a bit because if not, the people are going to get us. They’re going to be like ‘Oooh what y’all scared of the chocolate?!’ So I made it a point. I said whoever the love interest is, he has to be chocolate or not so light.
The booty shot
You know that wasn’t scripted? But the Cookie in me had to get her [Anika] back. Remember that one episode time she went upstairs and made sure she changed and came down in her lingerie? I had to show her what a butt looks like. Literally, when I did it, the whole entire cast and crew was like *gasp.* And I said, ‘You betta keep it!’
For me, it’s not about Taraji and Taraji’s vanity. For me it was about Cookie and Cookie getting back at Anika. I didn’t even think about how my butt would look on television. I didn’t care. I wasn’t thinking as Taraji. It’s just something that happened in the moment and it worked. And thank God it looked good.
Auditioning for “Scandal” and her love for Kerry Washington
When I went into to read for Shonda Rhimes, in my mind I’m like ‘This is Kerry Washington why am I even here?’ Not that I didn’t try to get it, but it was her’s. It was her job. She’s great in it. Then I do “Empire” and they make these horrible memes. I saw her at the NAACP Image Awards and we had a good laugh about it.
Using the N Word on the show
I don’t think that’s ever going to happen. I just don’t think America’s ready for that on primetime network television. I think Terrence brought it up and then some kind of way people have been asking me my thoughts on it. As an artist, playing these people true to life, that word would absolutely be tossed around. If this was a movie we were doing or if this was on cable–because when I got the script, the n-word was all up and through there. And I was like ‘Fox is going to let us say this?’ But now that we’ve accomplished what we’ve accomplished we don’t even really need it. Now we make a movie? Because it’s true to who these people are. You can’t deal with Hip Hop and not use that word. You can’t go to the hood and think you’re not going to hear that word. Cookie spent 17 years in prison. You think she’s never been called one or used the word. People get sensitive sometimes but when you’re talking about art and you have to be true to the characters, you have to be true to the characters.
If they did use the N-word
Oprah wouldn’t have made an appearance and we probably wouldn’t have as many viewers…or sponsorships.
Her relationship with Terrence Howard
I would have walked away if they didn’t hire Terrence. The only reason it had to be Terrence is because Terrence and I have such a history. I’ve known Terrence for 10 years now. We hosted the Soul Train Awards two years in a row. We’ve done two or three movies together. I’ve been through all his relationships with him. He’s like one of my coolest male friends in life. We talk whenever we’re not working. So when you think about that love and that connection that Cookie and Lucious have, you’ve kind of got to have that.
Tyrese Gibson and his ex-wife Norma Gibson are heading back to court.
According to TMZ, the Furious 7 actor recently filed court documents asking that a judge put a stop to Norma and his 7-year-old daughter Shayla’s upcoming vacation to Israel as he fears that he’ll never see his kid again.
In the documents, the singer explains that Norma is actually a citizen of Israel and should she decide to stay there permanently, the Israeli government will do nothing to help him get his daughter back.
Apparently, he attempted to get Norma to sign a contract prior to the trip which would have obligated her to return Shayla to the States by a certain date and if she failed to do so she would lose custody. Norma, however, refused to sign. A family court mediator is reviewing the case and will determine what the rules are. Their trip to Israel is scheduled for March 27.
This is only the latest installation in Tyrese and Norma’s custodial saga. The two have been at it for years and yet, they still can’t seem to get it right. The feud even spilled over into social media at one point.
“In California the custody laws are set up to make you a victim of your own success,” he vented a couple of years ago. “I won’t give up on my daughter and I refuse to walk away.”
We’re hoping they’re able to get it together soon.
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